Have You Ever Been Homeless?

United States
August 7, 2007 8:07am CST
There are so many myths and assumptions that are made about homelessness and the homeless, about the reasons for being homeless, the circumstances that surround homelessness. Until someone has been there, no one has the right to judge anyone for being homeless. There are times when someone suffers loss after loss after loss over a compressed amount of time, without having an opportunity to recover from any of it, and without the support of family or friends, some people just get so overwhelmed that they just can't cope. We are a communal species. There was a time in our evolution when we might've become extinct like other species have. Our urge to help each other, especially the old, the very young, the weak and even the sick, is what kept our species going. From the beginning of the industrial revolution, we've been ignoring and forgetting that part of our survival instinct, to our own detriment as a society. Homelessness is a symptom of a greater dis-ease in our society, an illness not limited to the wounded hearts, minds and souls of the homeless; infecting also those who judge harshly and do nothing to help.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Aug 07
I was homeless a few times as a child and as a teenager. I was bounced around between different family members in the first place, and there were a few times when someone would kick me out and I would have nowhere else to go. Once when I was living with my mother she just moved while I was at school without telling me, and I came home alone to an apartment with nothing there, and the landlord told me to go to a shelter, but they wouldn't let me in there. I was homeless because of things that weren't my fault, and it astounded me how horribly people treated me and how few people seemed to want to help. Everyone seemed to think it must be my fault that I was homeless, that I must have done something wrong to deserve it, and I even had people accuse me of running away from a family who must be horribly worried about me (which wasn't true at all!). I finally did wind up finding a shelter that would help me, and much later I wound up living at my grandmother's house again, but when I see homeless people I still think "I've been there" and try to help them if possible.
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• United States
7 Aug 07
If I could give you a hug, Lecanis, I would. Homelessness is especially disturbing when it involves children. We're supposed to help children, regardless, period. Are you doing ok now? Thanks for sharing your story; I really appreciate it, more than you know.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Aug 07
Thanks! I always appreciate hugs. =) I'm doing okay now actually. My life has been a lot better as an adult than as a child, largely because of a guy I met online who is now my husband, who helped me out a lot. We both work, though I've been off with illness for a couple of months now, and we have one child. While we're not rich, we haven't had to worry about not having a home, and I'm very grateful for that. We have our own child now, and when I look at him I find myself thinking that he'll never have to go through the things I did, because I'm always going to be there for him.