i have a broken heart

Canada
August 7, 2007 7:06pm CST
my daughter was playing outside with her friend but it was time for bed. i'm trying to get her to bed earlyer to get used to getting up early for when school starts. anyway she was upset about having to go to bed (she's 4) she took a fit for the first time ever about going to bed. she was screaming and crying and i couldn't get her to go to the bathroom and then get in bed. i told her fine then i'm not going to tuck you in tonight then. she then cried harder saying she now has a broken heart. well then that made me have a broken heart hearing her say that. she finally settled down we had a talk and then she did get her tuck tuck. but kids know exactly what to say to make their parents hearts melt or to make you feel sorry for them.
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@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
that's the beauty of parenting. having the ups and downs. the most important thing is to enjoy them while they are still that age. they grow up fast.
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• China
8 Aug 07
Well,I also have the same trouble, I'm a university student, I have a sister (she's 8), she's really naughty, she doesn't listen to what I say, and she plays all day and night whitout doing homework, and I can not abuse her cause I'm older, so what can I do? Just let it go.I hope she will understand me when she's older.
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
so they are! my kid will do... i dont know how to say it in english but its like she's crying but not really crying... every time she wants something and i won't give it to her, she'd do just like that...
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• Canada
8 Aug 07
whinning, i think is the word your looking for. my daughter does that too lately. drives me nuts. i ignore her until she can use real words to talk to me
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
yes. i think thats it... thank you... if ever she does whine, i dont give in, but i pick her up and hug her.. hmm. dont know if i'm doing it right or spoiling her
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• Canada
8 Aug 07
Yeah children are very good at hugging at our heart strings even when they have done something they knew they were not allowed to do . My daughter is famous for not listening and the minute she gets in trouble she says but mommy I love you more then anything in the whole wide world . When she says that it is really hard to stay mad at her for whatever she was doing even when I know she is going to do it again if I don't do something about it now . They are so cute when they tell us they love us or that we are hurting their feelings . My husband is always telling me that I am too soft because they usually end up making me feel so bad that I end up telling them it is alright just not to do it again but before long they are at whatever they were told not to do again . They are only small for such a short period of time though and it is hard to stay mad at them when you know they really do love us they just want to see how far they can push us before they won't get away with something .
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• China
8 Aug 07
i'm a chinese girl,in my family only myself,i want have a big family.
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• Canada
28 Aug 07
I have a big family and I honestly can say that I love it and wouldn't have it any other way .
• United States
8 Aug 07
Kids defintely do get to us, the smart little buggers! they know what to say, when to say it, and when not to!
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
8 Aug 07
yep...that's true. My teenage son still does it to this day...lol. Kids say things without thinking sometimes...but being so young I can understand you were hurt. I am sure it will blow over and you two will work it out. Little one's can be stubborn.
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• China
8 Aug 07
your daughter must be lovely.Even that couldn't prevent her annoying you...I can understand you, and I can see many parents like you here. When I think about my past, my mother was really hard on me, and sometimes I really "hate" her because I thought I was always not able to achieve my goal because of her.However. when I grow up , I try to understand her,.She loves me all the time.She did all the things just for the better improvement of me not for herself. There's an old saying in china says,"nothing can be accomplished without norms or standards." I believe so. We should have a good habit in early age,and this will help us a lot in future life. Hope your lovely girl will understand you earlier, and your life will be much easier.
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• Canada
8 Aug 07
Yeah, kids know precisely how to do that. Then as kids get older parents know how to do that to their kids. Sadly families have a way of making other people feel guilty. Lately I've just done things on my own without telling anyone until I've done it. Mom: What did you do today, L? Me: Had a cup of coffee, flew to Phoenix Mom: Flew to Phoenix? I knew if I'd told her ahead of time she would have tried to talk me out of it!!!
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• Malaysia
8 Aug 07
i know how hard your hard now. to educate the children you has to give more time to tell them the rule of thumb to them understand.Try to tell them who has authority and in control. try to practice the rules.
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• Malaysia
8 Aug 07
try to talk slowly to your daughter and give hes time to make one answer. don't to scare his mind. then tell her one buy one. at least your daughter can understand what to you mind.
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@wiccania (3361)
• United States
8 Aug 07
My son has been having fits about going to bed lately. When he started pre-school last year, I just let things run their course. By the end of the first week, he was going to bed at 8 or 9 o clock every night and waking up at 7 am every morning. Right now he's going to bed around 11:30 and waking up at 8.
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
8 Aug 07
i know how hard it is to educate a child even though i don't have one yet... i had seen my friends stuggling to discipline their children as well... well, they told me the rule of thumb is we have to be stronger than them and we can't let them intimidate us... they have to know who has the authority and who is in control... well, i guess i'm going to practice those rules when i havbe my own child... :-) good luck and take care...
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• Malaysia
8 Aug 07
Nowadays kids are much brighter in every aspects. Certainly they are better in verbal skills too. When I was small, I never had the courage to talk back to my parents, even though I was feeling dissatisfied about something. To me it's being rude. Nowadays because of the way we raise our kids, we have taught them to be more open minded and voice out our opinion. I think that's why they are more creative. Never mind about your broken heart, but just look it this way. Your daughter is smart, hopefully she is brave too and she have a great potential to succeed in her future life. I think my words can give you a little comfort. Have a nice day.
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@welllife (90)
• China
8 Aug 07
Yes,I think you should do what you want to do because you are thinking for her,but in my opinion,you should tell her why she have to do this or she may don't agree with you anything after she grow up.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
12 Aug 07
They sure do don't they. I am also in the process of getting my son into bed early too because he starts school in three weeks. Fingers crossed no tantrums will come my way. I will have to do everything we usually do at least two hours before and make sure i get into that routine and keep it like that. I know he is not going to be use to getting up so early for school.