Asking for money because we went on a cruise

@suspenseful (40316)
Canada
August 8, 2007 11:18am CST
We went on the Alaskan Inside Passage Cruise, my husband and I. Now you have to understand my husband paid for it all, he makes most of the money, and he had saved for the trip by wise investing, stocks and such from what he inherited from his parents. All I have is my Canada pension plus the money I saved in bank accounts from myLot and the ptrs I belonged to ---not nearly enough. We stopped over for a couple of days with my husband's youngest brother, his wife (my sister-in-law, and their daughter. because my husband's other brother and his family plus the wife of his oldest brother, now deceased, was there with her son and sister. Now we told them all about the cruise and we did go out for Chinese, but when we had coffee or drinks later at their house, my sister-in-law asked me for $5.00 because we had been on the cruise. Now she may have been joking, but it still upsets me because it was the first cruise we had ever been on. She and Bill had traveled to Europe and to Mexico when they first were married and both had very good jobs. Now do yo suppose she was joking or was she serious? I am wary because in the past, people who knew I did not make much assumed I made too much and were always asking for money and making me feel guilty about refusing.
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
9 Aug 07
I really hope it was a joke, but the way you wrote it didn't seem like it was. maybe you were also not in a good mood because you realized that you didn't earn enough to help pay for the cruise plus you had bad experience in the past. you know this is very common situation. we know people who work hard all their life and they can feed their children but not go on a cruise. They have vacations but not abroad or anything like a cruise. it doesn't matter, you worked all your life so it's time to enjoy what you can.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
9 Aug 07
That is how I felt. Except for our honeymoon and when the boys were small, most of our traveling was down from Winnipeg to Saskatoon every year except for once we went to Edmonton and once to Vancouver when my brother got sick. I really believed I deserved it.
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@r0131n (357)
8 Aug 07
I could do with some money but I dont' really need any more to be happy. I often joke with my parents and siblings about them giving me money but I don't really mean it. They would offer but I always refuse because it is only a joke. Perhaps she is doing the same thing. I'd say just laugh with her and do nothing. Don't feel gu. ilty, you're not being greedy by not giving her what she wants. I'm sure if she really needs money, she would ask appropriately.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
9 Aug 07
They don't need money. They have a very big house. I think she was just joking and come to think about it, she would have asked my husband if they were having money troubles.
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