Which Adult Child Would You Let Move Back In?
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
August 8, 2007 3:57pm CST
I think this situation has arisen for most of us after we reached a certain age. I have had-at some time-all of my adult children to move back in for awhile. So, I was thinking about which ones I would gladly welcome back, and which I wouldn't. It came down to an even split. I have four. Two I wouldn't mind moving back for awhile. The other two, I wouldn't be thrilled. What about you?
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@truthsangel (11)
• United States
13 Aug 07
I have 3 children. A son that is 20, a daughter that is 18 and a son that is 14. Obviously the 14 yr old still lives with me. My 20 year old is a very angry young man and has no respect for women (learned it from his dad), but I would still let him live with me if he needed to. He IS my son and I will love him no matter what. My 18 year old has told me to stay out of her life and I have no right telling her what to do but again she is my daughter and if she wanted to come home I would welcome her with open arms. Remember they are gonna pick your nursing home...lol
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
16 Aug 07
LOL, that's so funny, truthsangel. I agree with you, though. We have to love them no matter what. As I said, all of my girls have returned home at some time(usually for just a short while), but I could be happier with the two on either end than the two in the middle.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
9 Aug 07
While I don't have kids...I understand what you mean. My mom has four kids...3 boys, 1 girl...I don't think she'd mind 3 of them, but one would be more than a handful for her as they are so much alike that they argue alot.
AT PEACE WITHIN
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Aug 07
That is my point exactly, twoey. Although we love our children dearly, I'm sure that there are more than a few parents who would not want to have to live with them again. Some are so strong-willed that it is impossible to get alsong with them. While I would never close my door to any of them, I would prefer two over the other two.
@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
8 Aug 07
My 28 year old threatens all the time to move in with me with my 3 year old granddaughter, it actually gives me nightmares to have it happen, so at this point in my life I would welcome a child home with me to help out but it would not be a good situation for anyone.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
8 Aug 07
Yeah, texas, you do kind of get used to the independence of living alone. You have to make all kinds of concessions when one moves back in. Believe me, I know because I've had it happen several times when they were younger.
@qouniq (1966)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 07
I am still not married nor having a child yet but I think there is no problem for me to let my adult child back in to my house. After all, my home is their home too. Guess our culture is different where most of the western peoples think that an adult child who is staying with their parent is a looser. They even only allowed to stay at the basement of their house which when they were small kid they have their room in the house.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Most people here in the US don't have a problem with allowing their adult children to move back into the home, contrary to popular belief. I can only speak to my situation. I have on previous occasions allowed my children to move back home for a time, however, I don't want one living in my home if we have a clash in lifestyles.
@mummymo (23706)
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8 Aug 07
Well honey my children are only 14 and 6 (well she will be in a week!) so I haven't had that experience but hopefully they will be the type of person that I would be happy to have move back in with me when they are adults! Even better they may have a lovely house that they will let me share with them so I can get revenge for all the stress they have put me through! lol xxx
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I'm with you on that one, mummymo. We do try to bring them all up in the right way, but they will sometimes choose different lifestyles once they reach adulthood. I just think that I relate better to two of them.
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
9 Aug 07
My son is 19 and he still lives here. He works nights and is gone during the day..My daughter is 24 and has 2 boys and a husband and are doing well on their own..But if my daughter needed to move in I would be okay with it. I am very happy with both of them..
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Aug 07
That's great, Feona. It's nice to be able to have at least one of them at home for awile. My oldest daughter remained with me until well into her twenties.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
8 Aug 07
That's good to hear, gabs. I would have to give two of mine a quick thumbs down, lol.
