was it difficult to you to learn to be a good mother?

Romania
August 22, 2007 3:05am CST
i mean did you know from the beggining what to do with your kid,how to grow him,how to educate him better?was difficult for you to learn how to do this?i don't think i am a good mother,don't know how to be a good one. share your experience in being a good mom
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
i am a single mom of four. being a mom and a dad at the same time is not easy. i just always make sure the communication line is always open. if i am too busy then we write each other letters and post it so the communication is still open. if they are reminding me of something i will put an alarm on it in my mobile so i can remember it. i cook for them specially the foods the enjoy eating to make them feel i love them. we go out 2 in a month or sometimes every weekend if the budget will allow.
• Romania
24 Aug 07
i guess you are very courageous growing 4 kids.it isn' easy.i admire you for your efforts!
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
every mom is a good mother in our own ways....no one is a bad mother, the thought that you carried your child for 9 months and gave birth to your baby already showed love. But being a mother is a never ending learning experience from birth of the child until the child becomes an adult. Communication with your child is very important. I don't believe in quantity but more on quality, the way we spend time with our child counts the most.If we spend the whole day but always scold at our child will only bring out hatred and fear of the child to us. At play, we can input things that we want our children to learn from us, like good manners and house chores etc. We can choose to stop being a career woman, a wife, a friend but we can never stop being a mother.
• Romania
22 Aug 07
thanks for your advices!
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
22 Aug 07
Hi there. Personally, I think for me, being around alot of baby cousins and our mom fostering alot of children including babies we learnt from watching our mom or aunties raising there children and just from asking if we can change the baby, feed the baby and burp the baby as well, being curious and wanting to help, all these neat little experiences along with the natural motherly instincts have contributed to me being a good mother today and doing the best I can, with the knowledge and experience I have at hand... During motherhood there can also be the odd difficult times, but we all rise up over them and carry on doing the best and being the best moms we can... So good luck to all the moms and keep up the on going, care, love and strength we all have to offer our beautiful children...
• Romania
22 Aug 07
i folow my instinct but still feel i am not doing enough cause the result isn't so good as i can see.i surround her with much love hoping i will raise her well
@eshaan (6193)
• India
22 Aug 07
I am a mom of two, and I try my best to be a good mother, but i feel sometimes that i like them to be well-disciplined, and for that i am very strict sometimes. My husband says that you can also handle them the other way, without scolding. But thats the human nature and you can't change yourself so easily.So don't feel guilty for that,our intentions are not wrong and we love them tooo, isn't it?
• Romania
22 Aug 07
i don't know how to handle with it.i try to learn being a mom step by step while my girl is growing.i am not so strict with her and that made her very naughty and she does only what she wants to and i know is my fault.i love her so much and don't know how should i be to be as good as possible