What was your parents' reaction when you first reported your relationship ?

India
August 22, 2007 7:08am CST
Before going to the main discussion i would like to brief myself in this respect . I am 39 years of age and father of a child . I have never had a relationship even during my teenage years . In fact i could not muster enough courage to propose to the girl and equally afraid was i how to report my parents about such a relationship . That is why i wonder how boys and girls now a days report their parents bout their new relationships and breaking up of one after another ? You might be among the modern class of people who do not fear or hesitate to report to parents about these things . How do or did your parents react to these ?
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12 responses
• United States
23 Aug 07
I didn't realize that you had to report anything to parents about any relationship a person has.I'm dating a 23 year old and I'm 37.I didn't have to report anything to them.I just told them I was going out with him and if they don't like it,Oh well.
23 Aug 07
i think he means telling them about your relationship or keeping it a secret! Introducing them to each other etc!!! i don't think he means to report your status to them all militantly!
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• India
24 Oct 07
Yes , i did not mean reporting , a formal step .
23 Aug 07
Well i always kept bpoyfriends seperate form parents, we are an african family and there are things that you just dont do regarding bringing boys or men home to meet the parents. I have only ever taken 2 guys to meet my parents and they have bumped into another ex by accident, ran into them at the mall!!! i took one boyfirned to my sister's wedding, i felt he was the one and we had been together for 3 years and since I was 22 years old, I felt I was ready to be open about that side of my life. I wouldn't have taken him if it was a new relationship though! That ended abruptly though, after a nother year and the only man I have taken to my parents' home is the one I recently married. i took him there after we had been toegther for 5 months! I was 23 years old then! I was so sure about him and they knnew we lived together and everything, we did a few family events together and just got married last saturday! My parents seem to take it well actually!
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@chiranjit (195)
• India
23 Aug 07
I am a man of today (aged 27). Inspite of this, I never had a romantic relationship with a girl. I am too shy with girls that everytime I want to propose someone, I am affraid of her refusal. And no girl also proposed me till date. So I think, it don't depends on time but on nature of someone. If you are confident, then it's very easy regardless age or time
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@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
I am a female and as a tradition any courtship shall be made at home. I don't officially declare my first bf as my bf to my parents, my parents just do notice that i frequently go with my bf to activities and parties and so they think that i am already in a relationship. I noticed that my family merely disagree with me having my bf, not because i am in a relationship but the status of my bf has, i am already a graduating student in college those days and my bf is an out of school youth. I could'nt blame my family coz, they are just concern about my future, and so i just go on with the relationship and try to convince my bf to continue studying. The relationship fail, because i can't see a bright future with him, he did not pursue and no ambition, so i gave up.
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
I have had 3 or four boyfriends in the past, and I am currently in a great relationship with my current boyfriend. For me, telling my parents has never been a problem, as I am normally friends with the guys before we start dating, and they are usually around at my house and already know my parents as a result of this. They normally work it out or ask me, and I tell them the truth - they're usually very supportive and just tell me to be careful etc. When the relationship ends, I just let them know and I have their love and care to help me through.
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
uhm, now that im 22 my mom agreed that i could be in a relationship cause im old enough. but my dad...his still against it, cause im still studying. He wants me to finish my studies first before going in a relationship...which of course I didn't follow.
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@bowtieguy (5927)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I remember when I brought home my first girlfriend home to meet my parents, my father was excited and my mother was sad that her little boy was growing up, she said that I will marry that girl someday. Now only if she could have forseen that we would divorice each other later then I could have saved my self a lot of trouble.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
relationships - having a relationship -- to report to parents or not?
Hey man you're old enough to get married without informing your parents, so don't feel any pressure to report anything to them. Let the relationship flow naturally and your parents will naturally know about it eventually. No pressure. And why fear such a thing? As long as you're a responsible adult there's nothing wrong with having a relationship. Even if they object to it, so what? It's your life. Parents will usually panic if you rush into marriage, so don't do something like that. Prove to them that you're in control and you know what you're doing. As for the courage to propose to a girl, just keep in mind that there are lots of girls out there, so being rejected by one is not the end of the world. This will help eliminate the fear you have. In fact it's quite fun taking a chance with girls. You only live once, so make the most out of it. Good luck man.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
I had no problem introducing my boyfriend then,my husband now, to my parents as I was already 32 years old..they were actually pushing me to get married soon..so it went on just like any ordinary day, we went home to my province,introduce him to them and they loved him eversince. :)
@Putranda (129)
• Indonesia
23 Aug 07
One day When I was in elementary school, my classmate gave me a letter and some gifts and told me not to open the letter until I had gone home. So after school I opened the letter and read it. I was surprised when I had known she said that she loved me. Suddenly, I was afraid of being known this thing by my parents so I hide the letter and the gifts but unfortunately my mother wanted to check my bag and my room. Finally she found my letter and was angry.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
23 Aug 07
My parents first notice that i had a boyfriend was when i was about 15. it was nothing serious then and my mother just basically kind've laughed and jokingly made fun of me. My father found about a little later and just talked to me about not getting pregnant. It wasn't too bad at all really. I didn't announce it or anything they just knew when I started receiving phone calls from some boy.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
22 Aug 07
The first time I got a boyfriend i said to my mom "kk he asked me out..now shut up about it" I was afraid theyd tease me till they were blue in the face, but actually they were mature about it, thank god. It wasnt like i was embarassed about my bf, i was just nervous cuase i never had a relatinship and thought my parents would be emabrassing about it. They knew we broke up because well, i cried everyday lol