Is analyzing people's behavior a waste of time?

Philippines
August 23, 2007 9:27pm CST
I am a very observant person. I observe people's behavior. The terrible part is that I consume a lot of my energy whenever I can't analyze or understand their behavior because I tend to think about it for hours... And I don't really give up until I can finally get it. There's this one incident when I saw a friend of mine pass by in the schoool campus. I waved and greeted her. She stared blankly at me and then turned around and walked away. I was puzzled because that wasn't her usual behavior. Then I spent hours thinking why she did it. When I got home from school, I felt really exhausted - and it had nothing to do with listening to my teachers' discussions. What do you think? Was I wasting my time?
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I like to analyze why people do some of the things they do too, but I don't analyze and think so much that it affects me or leaves me exhausted. sometimes you just never know why somebody does something, people have a way of doing crazy things and half the time, they don't know why they did it themselves let alone somebody else trying to figure their behavior out. I've had lots of my acquaintances that speak sometimes and other times will act like they don't see you. It might be that she was in deep thought about something going on in her life that had nothing to do with you and she was just not really paying attention and just walking. Or maybe she heard something. You never know, but I wouldn't stress over it too much. i just look at it as i won't go so much out of my way to speak to them either or if you get a chance to talk with her alone, maybe ask her why she didn't speak, i'm sure she'll have a good reason.
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• Philippines
24 Aug 07
Perhaps, I'm just being too paranoid.. Yes, sometimes analyzing peoples's behavior is exhausting when you can't easily read em... But it's kind of fun to read people's actions.. :D
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
24 Aug 07
it is fun to analyze, you are so true. It tells you a lot about a person just from the vibes they send off.
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• Belgium
24 Aug 07
I analyze other people as well, not on purpose though. For me, it doesn't matter if I can analyze them or not. I find it very useful, so I can use their weak spots when I ever have to :)
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
most of the time,i analyze people to know how to approach them.:)
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@gesell03 (173)
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
it sure is not, if you are a writer, i observe a lot of people, strangers even and see what they do , i am not the stalker type, i just try to imagine what they could possibly be thinking, then if they are interesting enough i place them in my story book that i could one day plot a novel for their life.
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
i like writing.. and it's an advantage when i observe people and places.. mostly people.
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• Canada
24 Aug 07
No I wouldn't say this was a waste of time although you should probably find a way to control it so you don't miss out on things in school . Trying to analyse the behavior of others could be very useful in understanding different things that go on in life . It may make you a more empatic person as you are always trying to figure out why or looking for a reason to explain a particular behavior .
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• Philippines
24 Aug 07
That makes a lot of sense. I really like observing people's behavior, especially my friends because I need to know how I should act around them. It's important to know how to interact with them, right? Thanks very much for the response!
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
yeah, i think i have to agree that you were just wasting time thinking about a thing that was completely exhausting you! well, haven't you thought that maybe your friend didn't notice you because she was probably thinking of something deep. because based on my past experiences there were instances that my friends didn't saw me while i was waving at them and i ask them after a little after than that they said that they were actually thinking of something else and that was why they didn't actually noticed me. now, this is the funniest experience i ever had about this kind of thing.. i had a classmate back in high school... well, we rarely talked back then even in the classroom or maybe we don't even connect. she was actually sitting in front of me and that day i had no choice but to ask her if she has any paper with her because i had none... so i asked her... then she turned around looked at me then turned around again and got back to write whatever she was writing about! i felt like a total idiot... that was my first ever attempt to talk to her and she turned me down... arghh... hahaha... well, after that i don't know why but we actually got pretty close in college. then, i asked her about that incident she said she doesn't remember and maybe she was just thinking something deep to herself that time and all that time i was thinking how rude she was way back i high school but i was wrong... so now we just laugh back at it. ( hahaha ) past is past after all...
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• Philippines
24 Aug 07
Hahahaha.. I can totally relate! Sometimes, I'm like that - unattentive.. I tend to ignore my friends unintentionally.. You're right. I shouldn't waste my time pondering about people's behavior unless it's really suspicious... Thanks for the response..
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@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
28 Aug 07
I think this is a good habit, careful observation of each individual every one thing, it would make you a better understanding of people around the character, the better to get along with, but also to improve observation, the more remarkable habit, I just want to become one for yes, but because I was careless, not observation Therefore, I envy you.
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@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I often find myself doing that from time to time especially from friends and family. I often assume too much and sometimes get it wrong. I don't know why I do it but it tires me out when I try and think why they reacted that way. I get to thinking when we last met, what I did to trigger her reaction off. I'm usually wrong though.
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• India
24 Aug 07
Yeah. It is the waste of time, and you make yourself woried about it. This habbit makes man nervous minded. See you cannot change people then why to think about their behaviour, let them be what they are. Noone is perfectin this world.
@pinnibabu (135)
24 Aug 07
yes you were wasting your time over a matter which was of absolutely no value to you. I am also an observant person but not to the extent of exhausting myself. I analyse people behaviour. Thats it. I dont think about it for hours. So please change yourself before you waste a lot of time over these simple matters.
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
i think analyzing a person's behavior helps in you being able to avoid trouble or you being able to please the other person as friendship ought to be symbiotic. it would also be easier to get along with the other person once you have figured the other person out. but just don't dwell on it too much coz then you'd be wasting your time. you can just go and ask the person up front about how she reacted. be more understanding than analytical, it works better.