If you could do one thing right now to make life better what would it be?

Canada
August 25, 2007 1:05am CST
We have had discussions about what we might do to change the past...but then my 'thinker' wondered what any of us would choose if we had a chance to do one thing...right now to makes things better. Would you choose something personal to you or your loved ones? Or would you chose something bigger...for the planet or world at large? I think if I had a chance to do just one thing it would be either to stop all the wars and ask everyone to find a way to resolve differences that would serve the highest and greatest good of the all. The other 'one thing' I would like to do is find a way to clean up our planet and assure that it will remain healthy and strong for all its inhabitants from humans, animals, plants and the smallest micro/eco system and remain that way for many future generations. So...if you could change one thing...right now...what would you choose and why?
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@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
25 Aug 07
I would send hubby and his brother on a trip, ONE WAY to a different planet.
• Canada
25 Aug 07
Hmmmmm...I am sure there is a lot more to tell there. Any particular planet in mind? Or is it just the ONE WAY part that is more significant? Interesting response by the way...thanks for giving me reason to pause.
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
hehehehe too funny!!! Guess the one way ticket is the key and OH YEAH there's lots of good reasons my friend. What planet, the furthest one from planet earth. Pluto works for me !!! Take Care.
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
Well...let me know when you are getting ready for send-off. I will be there with camera in hand...and we can meet in person while we are saying a big, blasting farewell to your hubby and brother. Maybe we can go for a cuppa and share our Mylot discussion and the first time you decided to one really significant thing. to change your world. LOL Anyway my imagination is getting carried away here... Fun response...thanks for the giggle!
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@kimthedane (1000)
• Denmark
25 Aug 07
I dont know if it would make life better what it is the one thing i would do if i could. I used to live in England for 10 years up til 18 months ago, when i returned to Denmark, my country of origin, to look after my daughter who claimed she needed me. That was one of the biggest mistakes i made in life and if i got the chance to return to England and the life i used to have there i would not hesitate a min. With getting the chance i do not only mean physically, but also emotionally and psycologically and without leaving any hurt or harm behind.
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
Thank you for being willing to offer your personal experiences as an example of what you would change. Your experiences definitely have a flavor of the 'best laid plans' that do not work out and I am sorry to hear that. It is unfortunate when you do something generous for someone else and it doesn't turn out the way you'd hope. Perhaps you will be able to return home to England again...and I sincerely wish for you all that you wish for yourself. Best regards.
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• Denmark
3 Sep 07
Aww, that is so sweet of you :) Well one will never know what awaits around the next corner.
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• Canada
6 Sep 07
Boy did you ever say something short...but powerfully true! That reality is what helped me do my best to celebrate each day to the fullest and live in the now-ness of the moment...it truly is all we have. Take care...and God's speed!
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@anniepa (27125)
• United States
25 Aug 07
Gee, if we each have to choose just one, of the two you listed above how about you do one and I'll do the other! Those two things are definitely what would benefit everyone on the planet and I only wish I could make some small difference in that direction! If only everyone would simply rebel and say "No more war!" Really, how many people who are fighting in all of the world's wars don't even know WHY they're supposed to kill someone? If only we could somehow start with all of the children all over the world and get them together with other children, those from different countries and cultures, maybe even from those that their own country is fighting against. Children don't know hate until it's taught to them and if a child meets another child and they become playmates, maybe they won't grow up wanting to kill each other. Just maybe, wouldn't it be worth a try? Annie
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• Canada
25 Aug 07
Hey...I like that! What a great idea and an excellent way to create some dramatic changes world-wide. I agree with you totally about children being taught to hate and kill. Some wars are generations old and the young people are indoctrinated and brainwashed into view other cultures and races as enemies. How sad it is. I think it would be worth a try...how do we enlist others to our cause? Great additiion...thanks Annie!
@rosie_123 (6118)
25 Aug 07
Hmmm - that is such a hard question to answer. I guess in the ideal world it eould be to have the power to stop Mans' inhumanity to his fellow man and to animals, and make this world a more pleasant, and peacfeul place to live in. And - yes - I know it would never happen, - but it is a nice dream anyway.
• Canada
26 Aug 07
One of Ginger Marmalade Cats--Tee-Tooh - We have twin Ginger Marmalde cats and this is a photo of the smaller one Tee-Tooh. He was about 7 months when this picture was taken and will be a year in the Fall of 2007.
Yes, it is a lovely dream...just like John Lennon's song Imagine. But that is the satisfaction of having discussions like this...what we do...if we could?I like your response being an animal lover too. Speaking of that I meant to mention during one of your other posts (or maybe I did) anyway...I love your Avatar. Is that your kitty? He/she looks like one of ginger marmalades...we have two. I've included a photo of our youngest Tee-Too to show you the likness. Nice comment...thanks...we can live in hope...
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@rosie_123 (6118)
26 Aug 07
Hi - yes that is Sasha - the biggest and oldest of my 6 felines. He has a special place in my heart - bit like the eldest son or something! And Tee-too is very beautiful too - and yes, they do look somewhat alike.
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• Canada
29 Aug 07
Adoption from a family of barn cats - We received 4 out our 5 cats from this family of barn cats. The farmer provided an infra red lamp to keep them warm. They were so cute snuggled together...and a year later the 4 siblings still love to pile on top of each other when they are sleeping. It seems like they are built in security blankets for each other because of the way they started out...piled together under the infra lamp.
Interesting parallels...I didn't know that the odds against cats with what ours had didn't survive. Thank you for sharing your story too...so our precious gingers are truly as special as we believe them to be! Often when I am snuggling with him I look into his sweet face and think what a blessing he is to us and what we'd be missing if he hadn't made it. Great sharing pet stories with you...and the newest addition to your cat family is really fortunate to have you to love and care for him. I included a photo of the family of barn cats that we adopted Tee-Tooh..his twin brother Tigger, Ellie and Nova. We already had Nexus a cat we had adopted a few months earlier. Poor Nexus...she always seems to feel like the outsider...and if you look at the way the other 4 cats started out it is not surprising I guess. Ellie is the gray one with the green eyes in the front..and the ginger twins are 'smooshed' in the middle of all the other cats...they were the youngest of the brood. Anyhow...that is a wrap for now...thanks for keeping our discussion going a bit longer. Although sharing pet stories is obviously something we LOVE to do. Continuing good luck with having your latest addition integrate with your others.
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
25 Aug 07
I don't know how to respond to this. I have just finished answering a question about global warming... and it was all doom and gloom. How do I tell you that it is too late and there is nothing you can do... without you hating me? You don't want war... but war is actually one of the only two solutions to fix our problem. The second solution is for nature to take over... and the results will be far worse than any war. If you want to save humanity... you have to save the planet first... not the other way around. You need to find a solution to reduce our population by half without upsetting anyone. Can you do that? I did my part to save the world. I had no children and I keep my pollution to a minimum. There is nothing else I can do. I have a friend working on a project... to have a petrol engine running with zero pollution. If he can market it... I guess his contribution to the world will be enormous.
• Canada
26 Aug 07
I understand what you mean about the doom and gloom of global warming. In regard to you saying there is nothing we can do...that is not something to 'hate.' Goodness...you are just expressing an opinion. Besides I have mentioned to you before that I respect the way you think and value your no-nonsense approach to presenting your views. It doesn't matter whether we agree or not...even when we do not always see things the same we still respect each other's 'perspectives.' Part of why I like this forum is to hear how other people see the world. It is good to have people present ideas that give us a chance to bump into our biases. Even with your idea that war is one of the solutions to our problems...how so? Are you talking about wars that will annihialate half the people on earth and reduce our population? Or some other reason that war is an option. Lets chat some more on this one. I cannot argue with you about everyone working to save the planet...without that there is no life. So we are on the same page...but whether it will happen or not is very doubtful to me to. Maybe it will require more catastrophic earth changes to awaken people. It will certainly force changes. Reducing pollotion by half will require a more concentrated global effort for sure. In regard to your friend working on a vehicle with zero pollution. Might be an idea to try and find the documentary on "Who Killed the Electric Car?" Not har to figure that one out...the companies who did not want to let it out there. My hubby and I are also doing what we can...no kids either. We compost, recycle and re-use whatever we can. So you still didn't let me know what ONE THING you would do to save the planet...is it to cut pollution in half...even if people got upset. I know you could handle it Aussie... Another good discussion...thanks. I posted a 'group hug' cat picture to show you at least this group of cats did not want to live solitary lives!
• Australia
26 Aug 07
I don't see my answer as an opinion. I see it as a fact. I don't have a solution... because there are none. Cutting car pollution is only a drop in the ocean. Planes cause far more pollution than cars. And so does the production of electricity. The reason that the electric car does not work is because we have not found a way yet to store large quantities of electricity to run the car. Batteries are far too heavy and don't last long enough. I don't want a war anymore than anyone else. But history shows that a country on a brink of despair always go to war. When you have a planet on the brink of despair... you have world war 3. Check my answer on this thread http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1255234.aspx I am actually surprised to have received "best answer" for it. People usually don't want to know the truth.
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• Canada
28 Aug 07
I read your comments and added a response. It is not surprising to me that you received the best response...your ideas are presented in a factual way with some inarguable points. Good to know that people can open their minds and discuss some hard truths...at least some of the time! The documentary on the electric car and those who owned them did not seem to have issues around the examples you cited. They were genuninely satisfied with their vehicles and just before taking them off the market they were working to develop batteries that would go a greater distance without having to be re-charged. As you have said in other posts...greed and power prevent many things that would serve the greater good and now we are living with the cause and effect of those choices. I guess all we can do is keep on doing our best not to add to the problem...and keep on keeping on until.......???
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
i could be very selfish with my answer towards this but right now i cannot choose bigger than my life..i think i have to change things in my life first before anything else because my life is a mess..i wanna go back on time where in we are a big happy family..stop things from happening so things from this time will not happen..i want peace..peace of mind and heart..peace in life..thats what i wanna fix for now..
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
I have participated in some of your discussions and read your responses around Mylot and absolutely understand why you would change your family dynamics. There are not right or wrong answers here..we post discussion to receive input, to learn about others and share perspectives. So my wish for you angel of charm...is that there will be a way...in the not too distant future for you to have the peace of mind and heart...and the peace in your life that you long for and so justly deserve. Wishing you bright beautiful blessings and ways to heal your life. Raia
• Philippines
26 Aug 07
thank you so much..i wish wishing upon would just mean it will happen after you wished for it..many thanks to you..
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@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
5 Sep 07
If I had the chance to change one thing it would be that all peoples would strive to live in harmony, balance, with each other and with nature. If we all walked "The Red Road" of the Native Americans and of other indigenous people the world would be a better world.
• Canada
6 Sep 07
Oh yes...I am so there with you on this one. We have a deep respect for Native Spirituality...and feel a great kinship with it. Our home is a reflection of our respect for their artwork and gifts from Nature that some elders gave us. I have many owl feathers that came from them...and I feel grateful and honored. I appreciate your comments about harmony, balance and nature. I am setting up a blog and I posted a topic about the 'us' versus 'them' and the polarizing influences of right/wrong thinking that divides rather than unifies us. As I have said often before...with enough love we could resolve all our human rights issues...but we are a long, long way from that place. So sad...but true.
@adidas7878 (2013)
• United States
28 Aug 07
if i could do one thing right now to make life better for everyone inculding me, that would be, owning a huge hospital, where no one without health insurance, can get top medical care, even the one with health insurance wouldnt have to pay a penny either, the insurance would have to. i believe this would help alot of people out in the us alone
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• Canada
29 Aug 07
That is a wonderful idea..and yes, it would help so many people who are not receiving proper health care because of financial constraints. It is people like you that deserve the windfalls...because you would make a positive difference with it!
@ZenDove (698)
• United States
28 Aug 07
Well, I know that I wouldn't have to worry about the whole "peace on earth and a chicken in every pot" thing - I know YOU'D have that covered! Leaving me the chance to be spectacularly selfish :-) That one thing that I would instantly change would be having gobs of money. Oh, not to shop or anything, not even to feed the homeless, I would just like to pay off the "peace-prohibitors" in my life. I would pay people to leave me alone, I would pay them to be quiet. I would pay them to take care of themselves so that I would not have to worry about them. I bet my sister would lose that 100 pounds in record time if I offered her 100,000 dollars to do it! I bet my son would go back to school if I bought him a Hummer 1,2 AND 3! (of course, they would have to be altered like the ones Arnold Scwartzenager drives!) And my husband? He could do whatever he wanted to do...as long as he did over there...WAAAY over there! See, if I paid them off no one could accuse me of being disloyal, or of not loving them enough. Besides, they'd all be so busy spending their money they wouldn't have time to yak at me! Thanks, that was fun. For a moment there, it seemed nearly possible.
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• Canada
28 Aug 07
I find this kind of response very refreshing...so much so that you had me going along with the possibilites having that kind of money would give you. My single word association with unlimited cash flow is...freedom. That is the main theme I hear as you shared what you would do with your 'gobs of money.' Complete freedom for you to live life on your own terms...without guilt or harrassment. Ohhh if only wishing did make it so! Thank you for your response...yes it was fun! Maybe if you continue to imagine that it is true one day you will have a big enough lottery with that it could actually happen. Then you'd be flying high with your own wings for sure!
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
27 Aug 07
Loose weight and get healthy. I never worried about my weight or health when I was young and now that I'm older its causing me alot of problems and its really hard to correct at this point. Have a good day!! AT PEACE WITHIN
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• Canada
28 Aug 07
Well I sincerely hope you can bring things back into balance. I work in the health and wellness field as a life coach, public speaker and group leader. I know it can feel like a daunting challenge to do course corrections...but with time and a realistic plan of action...changes for the better do occur...at any age. Sincere best wishes on your journey!
@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
25 Aug 07
For me on a personal level, it would be to pay off any debts that I owe so as to get on an even keel. With that done, I could then spend more time saving money. That would help me tremendously as far as peace of mind.
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
I appreciate hearing what you need to have the best quality of life possible. We all want to be able to live life on our our terms and enjoy it! I hope you will find a way to greater financial security...and therefore peace of mind.
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I am not thinking globally right now, as I should when answeri ng a question like this, but I would very unrealistically, shed all the petty-natured, back-stabbing people in our life. I would have some kind of barometer, that went off like a pressure gauge when someone negatively inclined were near, and we could just get away from them.The more negative they are at you, it's because they know that you're capable of happiness,and they want to grab some off of you. It's dispicable, and I no longer feel like I need to slice bits of it off of myself to feed to everyone else, it's draining.I don't even feel selfish, because I would dole out too much and injure myself.Is that unreasonable?
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
Hi Pendragon...I read about your fiasco with the rating system on another site...sorry to hear about that. I assume some of what you are feeling right now is related to those experiences. Your idea of a 'negative-o-meter' is a great one. I like it because it could heighten people's awareness about the cause and effect of their behaviors on others. I honestly believe that some people have no cognitive understanding of how their negativity acts like an 'energy vampire' to those around them. So your idea of a pressure guage could serve to awaken them because no one can change until they develop heightened awareness that they need to. Now in regard to whether or not slicing bits off to feed others being unreasonable..OF COURSE NOT! In our work we encourage clients to look at the hard reality that we train people how to treat us. I would say from things I picked up on in our discussion about girls who agree to compromising situations that you have a tendency to give more than you are comfortable in receiving. That can, and often does set up a dynamic where people will take advantage of your good nature if you do not mainatain your boundaries. Safe emotional boundaries keep relationships healthy and balanced. Without an ability to draw a line in the sand and say 'enough' people will be 'trained' to take all you will give without it being reciprocal. As tough as this sounds...these events may be here to assist you in establishing a more equitable exchange in all your interpersonal relationships. If your existing ones do not like or cannot respect your boundaries...then maybe it is time to find some friends and partners who will! Anyway...that is my answer to your question about the unreasonable part of the post. Hope it adds some perspective! In the meantime take care of yourself...and your own needs. That is not selfish. We cannot continually draw from an empty place within ourselves. It is draining...and you need to love and honor yourself first...then you will give that to others and have it come back to you. You know...the old what goes around comes around idea. However, it begins from our core...so you must also feel worthy and deserving of it..or you will just keep repeating the pattern in a self-fullfilling prophacy because we all 'do what we know.' I hope this makes sense. If we were having this discussion in person it would be easier. If you have any other comments or questions...send me an e-mail..or we can continue on here. Warm regards, Raia
@dreamy1 (3818)
• United States
25 Aug 07
That's easy for me MORE MONEY! I would be able to pay off my debt and feel more secure. I wouldn't have to worry about having to plan down to the penny when I go grocery shopping. I would feel a lot better knowing that my financial future was secure. I'd love to know what it's like to be able to walk into any store or go to any restaurant and get whatever I wanted knowing I could afford it easily. I wouldn't be greedy either. Once I knew I had more than enough money to take care of my needs I'd start giving it away. I would pay for poor students to go to college and give money to charity.
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• Canada
25 Aug 07
Your challenge is one many face. I appreciate your honesty about what you would do..every response gives another perspective...and that is what Mylot if all about. Thanks!