Now he is back......

Philippines
August 25, 2007 9:16pm CST
What will you do if the one you loved and has turn his back on you wants to be a part of your life again? Will you just forget the pain he has cause you and start a new chapter again. I must admit I still care for him and maybe still love him. What will I do them?
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• Malaysia
26 Aug 07
While love still remain in your blood, why not? Better to accept him back into your life and of course he has realized his previous weakness. Just tell him, "welcome back my love....I miss you.". And don't forget to give him a welcome back kiss. Avery special kiss and tell him "don't leave me again, my love!!". For sure he will cry for your sincerity in love.....I think those words are just like "a killer song in one album", just one but for all.
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• United States
26 Aug 07
Maam you need to take a real good look @ why you broke up the first time. I promise you it will get worse. Move on there will be greater rewards when you keep moving forward. Its ok to care, but to have hell in your life or someone causing hell is a big distraction. Reconsider all the facts, you didn't give much to your story.
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• Canada
26 Aug 07
Without knowing the circumstances of your breakup I find it hard to suggest anything. No one should make that decision for you...it is your call. Having said that, I would strongly advise that you consider having a long, realistic look at how you can prevent the same pattern from repeating again. Unless the root problems are addressed and changed things could happen again...and again. Also, what would you need to have him do to re-establish trust and assist you in feeling emotionally safe? If it were me I'd want to know what changed and why he wants to come back. Is it because he truly recognizes that you are the one he wants...or is there some hidden reason that he wants to start over. My hubby and I do life coaching with couples and always ask them..."Is there enough within the relationship to salvage it...and what is each partner willing to do to work on the problems?" If you and he can answer those questions then you probably have a chance of making it work. It may be useful to sit down and discuss what went wrong and what you both can do to change the dynamics of your past. The main ingredients in any successful relationship is openess..trust...self-responsibily and authentic communication. Those co-factors set the stage where couples can handle conflicts in an emotionally mature and respectful way. I sincerely hope you will take care of your own needs and not set yourself up for further hurt. Think it through, put safeguards in place, establish safe bondaries and hold to them. You are the injured party and I hope you can assure that he will 'walk his talk' and meet you in the middle of a healthy, strong relationship. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
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• United States
26 Aug 07
It depends how long we had been together, how we parted ways the first time, and how deep my feelings were for the person. sometimes I minds tell us one thing and our heart will tell us another. Usually our heart wins even though the mind is normally right. Also think about if that person will just up and leave you again or are they serious this time around.
• United States
26 Aug 07
I have been in a 12 yr marriage with him turning his back on me and our daughters so many times it's not funny..But I always give him that chance to prove himself over and over again..I would give it a shot and see how things work out and if it does I wsish you the best of luck...And if it doesn't I would move on and be happy in your life..Good Luck