how to handle conflicts between husband and wife

India
August 26, 2007 12:22pm CST
we all know if there are two humans there is every possibility of conflict. and married life is not an exception to this. we should have good understanding between husband and wife. if both of them quarrel then what is the end to it. if there is a small kid and if they quarrel how the future and mind of the kid is affected, how to handle the conflicts without affecting the kid?
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8 responses
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
There is a good way to handle a conflict regardless of what kind. It is only the matter of one giving way for the other to express his feeling no matter if it is anger or joy. One must lower his temper when the other is in hot. Giving way to the heated discussion for just one night is not a conflict, rather it is a talk between two people about a certain problem concerning both of them.Nor letting the night pass through without settlement.
@jmafofo (359)
• South Africa
30 Aug 07
What happens if the one who gives becomes the one who is expected to give in all the time and the other spouse doesn't accept that they are wrong?
• India
31 Aug 07
It should not be like that, but, both the partners should be understanding each other and go on. If any person is adamant, the other person knowingly should not put up a fight, at the moment just keep your calm and after when the other person is also out of the huff and when he is calm try to talk to him with reasoning and convince him to accept which is right and bring in the coolness required.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
27 Aug 07
You are so right about that. It is very important to ensure good communication and trust between a husband and wife. I often am guilty of misunderstanding my husband. I have forced myself to stop that, before I become angry I make sure I understand what he is trying to say and most often I do mistake what he was saying for something different. Therefore after making sure that I understood him correctly, I often don't need to become angry. it is very difficult when you have children. I try not to argue in front of the children, but sometimes it happens and it is important to speak to the child, apologize for the incident, make them feel comfortable. I tell my daughter that we are human, we have misunderstandings, we argue, but the most important thing is that we resolve it and we can move on and be happy. So, she understands that we love each other even though at times we don't agree with each other.
• India
30 Aug 07
ya what u said is correct, we should not quarrel in front of our children. but at times it becomes inevitable, we should try to avoid it at any cost
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
1 Sep 07
thank you for the best response rating. I really appreciate it.
• India
28 Aug 07
Best way out is, Do not fight at all, that too when your kid is in front of you. Try to sort out problems of misunderstandings all by reasoning and forgiving each others mistakes for the betterment and peaceful life to be led in the future. Understand yourself and your betterhalf well and go accordingly. Being human beings we do commit mistakes, but do forgive each others mistakes to lead a happy life.
• India
30 Aug 07
i accept that we should know how to forgive, we should develop the habit of forgiving others. to err is human and to forgive is divine. but i think that both of the couples should be ready to forgive atleast at times if not always
@Shavkat (17173)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
For having conflicts, we need to deal with calmness. We don't need to be in rage. Everything is possible to resolve out of anger. There is no perfect world, we just need to know how to listen.
• India
7 Sep 07
when two humanbeings come from different environments they are bound to have different mental set up. They must understand that the other is not bad but he or she is simply different They should not expect that the other will behave in a particular way liked by them. Knowledge that the other is different, will bring an undersftanding that the other cannot but behave in a manner dictated by his or her own mind which is unique to himself or herself. Thus one will not be offended by the acts and omissions of the other and their will be less conflicts. Expectation brings grief and this understanding will lessen expectation from the other
• India
31 Aug 07
For this you should sort it out within the four walls of your own room and not outside in front of your kid, that is going to take a heavy toll on a later date when the kid grows up. Whatever the misunderstanding is should be reasoned out and sorted between husband and wife only without the help of outsiders, or the couple will become laughing stock or food for gossip. Instead of becoming laughing stock it is better we sort out for ourselves.
@men82in (1270)
• India
27 Aug 07
The way to handle the conflict between the family itself is to surrender with each other or to solicite to be happy.
@farazkh1 (1157)
• Pakistan
26 Aug 07
There are 2 kinds of relationship problems minor and major so minor problems can be solved easily but its hard to manage major troubles like adultery,or affair outside marriages so if the problem is major between relationship then its hard to get solved because one person is not ready to except the other person in his/her life which causes real major issue and the only solution for this is saperation but if there are minor problems like sharing responsibilities etc can be solved with few discussions .........