For Those Who Have Mothers They Love
August 28, 2007 5:12am CST
Pls ,friends in the house , how do i take care of my parents when i am neck deep in debt. She is expecting me to relieve her of all the pain she has been through in order to bring me and my siblings up . We are six ,of which i am the third. The eldest and the elder are so busy with their that they have left our parents and three siblings at my mercy. My mum ,especially , has suffered so much in life that i sometimes have a strong fear for her dying without a pleasure in life. Actually , i teach and i am also a student . Does anyone think my being in debt for us to survive is wrong . I know i will pay back someday , but is it wrong.
• United States
11 Mar 08
You need to know that you are doing what you can at this time to make the best of your situation. Don't get burned out and ask for help from your other family if possible, even the younger ones. They all need to know what you are going thru and try to help as you should not be taking on so much by yourself. You sound like you love your mother very much but you need to take care of yourself also. Just being there for your mother is a great relief for her. I'm in a similar situation and I'm lucky I have my brother and sister-in-law who help when they can, but most of all they listen when I'm down. I also have friends that watch my back. I'm in debt also, but know it will get paid eventually and will be worth it as long as my mother is happy and well taken care of while she is still with us. I'm taking care of my mother who can't remember how mean she was to me when I was a child as I could never compare to my sister in her eyes. Well, guess what, my sister refuses to do much if anything at all now for my mother. I could be nasty to my mother, but I could not live with myself. It's strange how things happen to work out and your situation will work out also, have faith.