numbers in friendship!

Philippines
August 29, 2007 11:29am CST
when i entered college,i have 5 girl friends! we are always together and lasted for 3 years. from the start, we accept each other no matter who they are, thats our motto coz we believe that is the meaning of friendship. but after 3 years i found out that they counting all my mistakes or should i say things i've done to them that they dont like but not really a mistakes. they consider my weakness as a mistakes...which lead them in judging me! all along i thought that im ok with them, because i believe in that motto - the acceptance thing. and it surprise me because i believe that in friendship there is no numbers - there is no counting, only acceptance and understanding.
5 responses
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
at first we are only 4 but as time goes by we become 10.making friends means acceptance.if they doesn't accept you of who you are,then they are not your true friends.
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
everybody say that and i agreed! they are not my true friends!but it sad to think that way coz i considered them to be one...thanks!
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
yeah i know it sad i had experienced that before but i realized that it is there lost not mine.
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
yes your right...hehe!
• Egypt
31 Aug 07
u shouldn't think that friends like lovers it's so simple btween lovers to accept what ever but friends can forget but after fights it's so easy to find friends but one true friend it's so hard and it wount be three for sure maybe u should think in what they ment by it why they did that when they know u don't? i think they don't care for u the same way for me my friends i'm ready to make up with them for any fault without even a sorry as long as they wount make it again but not stop in thier face and count bla bla bla i would first think oh i'm human too i have my mistakes and faults then what i don't want to stand on the other side and get b,amed like that?
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
that the things i want them to understand, that im not perfect...and i cant be someone they want me to be...thanks!
• Egypt
31 Aug 07
u r looking for true friend that really will take u all but in that way u wount find alot it might be one or non but mostly that one would be ur love loving some one true love i mean will take u all accept things from u he will never accept from any else don't say to u u r just like ..... becuse u r not like any one he wount compare u to other's accept stuff such as humlating from u becuse that easier that hurtting u or even loosing u i think that about love but frineds fight all the time good friends make up again with a clear mind but lovers forget what happen even without making up becuse they were always stick togther even in the deep fight they fight for that min and love next one
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
not really coz i know its hard to find...besides i dont really know what true friends means when it comes to action...many people can say they are true friends but you dont see it in their actions...friend is enough for me as long as it seen in actions...thanks!
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
29 Aug 07
I know it must be upsetting right now. I would ask them about why they never consulted you about these issues and that it would have helped you become a better person and friend and in the future that if they feel unhappy about something, that they need to come to you. this will show that you are understanding and that you still value their friendship and you won't be hurt in the future. I hope it all works out, but friendship shouldn't be about numbers or counting or mistakes made.
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
i understand them in a way that i should understand them coz they are my friends!but i guess they would never understand me...thanks!
@arsonizta (946)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
yeah, it's all about acceptance and that.. but friends could also make you improve on something.. but if that's the case, maybe they should have said it earlier, so you could understand what's wrong.. try to clarify the issue with them so you could understand each other.
• Philippines
30 Aug 07
but the problem with them is evendo you clarify the issue, the issue still remain...thanks!