Married prefer to live alone
By djamparing
@djamparing (30)
Indonesia
August 29, 2007 5:29pm CST
I am a maried man with 2 children. some causes make me sparated from wife and my children. Unfortunately i feel enjoy and happy with my loneliness. Of course it's not wise one of a father and husband. I am wondering if i were still a single man it would be a great live i had. Any comment(s)?
3 responses
@gorgzlady1904 (84)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
Then you must be a man who loves to be alone. If you feel this way however, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place because of some "causes" that probably you've done. I could sense in your topic here that you have regrets of getting married because you haven't fully taken advantaged of your singlehood. But on the other hand, there must be a concrete reason of why you have to leave your family just to be alone. Has your wife been tormenting you emotionally? Has she cheated on you? How about your children? They need you for the rest of their lives. What are you gonna do with that? I could tell you frankly, (though i don't know your concrete reasons regarding this matter) that it's quite a selfish thing to do. As a father and head of the family, you should repair things between you and wife, but make sure you've done some introspection yourself to check how you're really feeling towards this matter. Good luck!
@djamparing (30)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 07
You were right! There are many ambitious things I haven't did I can't get if I were married.
I called it Married by accident. I married her because she got pregnant. In the name of religion and the culture i live at, a women should get married if she had been got pregnant. I wans't ready by I had to marry her. To leave them is impossible. My two sons is the reason. I love them very much. How would their live would be without a father? My wife loves me very much but I can't feel the same. And she'e know it. The problem is in me myself. In this almost 5 years of marriage I am still trying to love my wife. What a such difficult thing to do. I don't even miss her while we're far sparated. maybe this is because of the psycological experience i have. My parents divorced. so did my grandparents,uncles,aunts,relatives and many others. Was that the reason? I don't think so.
I live in a downtown and I leave them far away in a village with my parents in law. To live with them in this big city costs a lot of money.
@comeonmolly (828)
• China
30 Aug 07
I agree with you to a certain degree,however,no matter hoe old we are we need a family,This is a spiritual support for us all.
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
29 Aug 07
Well, if you were single, it wouldn't be much different than being separated, except for that there would be no papers. I think if you are this happy and content with your life alone, you should get a divorce. BUT, do stay in your childrens lives!
