How to keep old friends a long time

@gr8life (6253)
Malaysia
September 4, 2007 11:25pm CST
Hi friends, I would like to share this article with all of you here. I came across it in a local newspaper here and I think it is one of the good ways to teach us on how to keep our friends longer if not forever *smiles* According to the article, there are five ways to keep old friends: 1. Maintain contact : You don't have to wait for your friends to call and instead make a call to them, even if it is just once a year. 2. Forgive and forget : Don't be too judgmental or you might justify your way to no friends at all. 3. Remember birthdays : Whenever we hear something from our old friends on a birthday will make us feel pretty special. 4. Find them : If you have lost touch with them, try to look them up and re-establish your contact. 5. Decide to make the friendship a priority just like exercise and family time. I hope this will help us to be a better friend. Do share your thoughts here.
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• Hong Kong
5 Sep 07
Good points! But I think if we really love the friends, we wouldn't bear to lose contact with them on the first place. Besides, I think it's really a lot easier for people to keep in contact these days when compared to the old days. I do basically all those things you mentioned to my close friends. For those I choose not to keep in touch are those people I care less. *smiles* Life is busy but do catch up with the buddies regularly.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 07
Hello wondericequeen, Friends from childhood time, while growing up and friends that we know after we have our own life are totally different to handle. I only being able to keep my two best buddies that I knew from my school time right now. The rest, I am not too sure what happened to them as there isn't one time that I am being able to locate them. I lost contact with them totally. The friends that I have right now are mostly friends that I knew while working. I always try my best to keep in touch with them even if sometimes it is just a usual 'hi' and nothing else to say *smiles* But like you said, those who don't really appreciate my friendship, I will just forgive, forget and ignore them *smiles*
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• Hong Kong
5 Sep 07
Right, I don't think I have any friends from childhood. Well, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. I don't bother or worry too much about finding them. I am more concerned of the good friends I am having now *smiles*.
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@andyliuzn (991)
• China
15 Sep 07
Hi Gr8life, Thank you for your good advises, I was just about to say that it's not that easy to keep a good relationship with the old friends and then I saw your discussion. Alright then, I would follow your suggestions... I hope before long, we could be good friends as usual. WBR,Andy
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 07
Hello andyliuzn, Yes, I hope for the same *smiles* I lost many friends throughout the year and I just hope that whatever friends I have right now, I could keep them with me forever...
@lokuzzo (14)
• Italy
7 Sep 07
I agree with you seen that i have some problem in the past keeping my best friendship with a girl that now is very weak. I decided it like that because i was very sad about finding a job so far from my city so i thought that i couldn't stay longer without her so far and i decided to be colder and colder. During life it's really so hard i think to keep people close to you because destiny wants that people get far and that's so sad, i suffer for that because it always happens:(
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 07
Hello lokuzzo, I am sorry to hear that. But, to tell you the truth, I always get involved in a long distance relationship and always survive with it *smiles* It needs a lot of truce and patience though... Yes, I agree that it is not easy to keep all the friends that we have throughout our life. I just hope my circle of friends will get bigger and better and I could keep them all forever *smiles*
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
6 Sep 07
I still have many friends from childhood. Some of them I keep up with daily or weekly and others not as often. But, when we do talk it is as if we had been talking all along. I love catching up with my friends! We are all getting together the next time I go back to my home state.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 07
Hello moneyandgc, It is great and it is good for you. I do wish that I could still keep in touch with my friends from childhood but it is very difficult to do so. Whenever I go back to my hometown, I only have a limited time to spend with my other family members. I seldom go out and looking for them. But as far as I know, none of them stay at the same place. They are all scattered all over the country.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
5 Sep 07
Be sincere, be honest and be trustworthy. I think that should be good enough retain a friend. If the friend's expectations are higher, he may desert you. But you don't worry. Find another one who suits your universal principle.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 07
Hello ssh123, Thanks for your advice. I always try to practice those three with my circle of friends. Even if I can't, I will let them know the reason. I like to maintain my relationship with them forever, if I could do so *smiles*