Do you think that parents are responsible for thier kids being slackers?

United States
September 5, 2007 6:40am CST
My little kid loves watching movies and playing her computer games. Most times she only plays the educational games, so I try to convince myself that it's a good thing. She could be fixated on cartoons, I suppose, and that would be worse. But, I'm worried that she is going to grow up to be a slacker. She's only 3 1/2, so it's too early to tell what her educational aspirations will be. I know that I'm putting a lot of pressure on such a tiny person. Maybe I should just relax! She's a really smart person and I don't want her to waste her potential. Do you think that parents are responsible for turning their kids into slackers? Do you think that most parents could do more to help develop their children's potential? How soon should parents try to get their kids involved in educational pursuits?
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@sunshinecup (7881)
5 Sep 07
Do you think that parents are responsible for turning their kids into slackers? Oh yes, definitely. It takes the parents to set examples or to inspire their children as to how to live life. If a parent does not encourage their child to get up and do things, the chances are that will be the adult they will turn into someday. Do you think that most parents could do more to help develop their children's potential? I don't know, it depends on your social circle I reckon. Most of my friends are like me and are motivating their children to be more and do more than we did as children. I encourage my girls to get in involved in school programs such as band, volley ball, science club and/or cheerleading. Things I never considered as a child. Many of my friends do the same and unless the child never has any free time, I think it’s great for them. However there is a point where too much on a child at one time isn’t good.. How soon should parents try to get their kids involved in educational pursuits? Oh I think it starts early really, they have educational toys and videos for infants. I think the sooner one starts promoting education and activities the better the chances their children will pursue these things on their own when they are older.
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• Canada
6 Sep 07
I have not read all the comments yet but so far I think you should get best response as this is a perfect response in my opinion and I could not have said it better myself. Only maybe accept to say that I am proof of the fact that parent do set the standard for their children. I think most definitely parents can teach and influence their children to be hard working adults. I think also it starts at a very early age. I have seen this too often in many families and comparing it to my own up bringing. So yes use all circumstances to teach your children about personal responsibility to be a hard working individual. Well just not a slacker!
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• United States
6 Sep 07
I noticed the same thing for my own daughter. Starting at around 18 months old, she would watch me clean the house and then when she was fully mobile and running around the house, she would insist on cleaning as well. Kids really do pick up all the good habits their parents showcase. And, I suppose that includes education. Mine is very proficient with the computer, even for such a young age. And, I think that is because I am using the computer all the time. She thinks it's a normal part of life. And, I suppose it is!
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Parental input is important but when it comes to educational pursuits take it moderately. Unless of course your child goes full speed ahead on it, then by all means help them reach the stars :) I do believe parents play a crucial role in how much of a slacker the kid will be. Especially if the parents exhibit some very poor habits and life choices. If the parent is lazy, loud, obnoxious, stupid, chances are the kid will turn out like that. However, there are outside influences, social, peer pressure, entertainment and that also has an impact on the child if they are not above the influence. The parents need to keep an active role and involvement in their children's lives and teach them values to help prevent slacking like hardwork, determination, dilligence, commitment. Just try to have a positive influence in the child's life and have constant interaction.
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• United States
6 Sep 07
Very excellent points. Well, looks like I have many, many years of worry and work ahead of me as a parent.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I think you have time to worry about that- I think some parents are the reason their kids are slackers- but those are the ones who don’t spend time with their kids- or say go watch tv- instead of being active with them- or don’t help them excel in life- I think you are fine! Get her reading- If she is playing educational games- that’s great too!
• United States
6 Sep 07
Thank you for saying so. I guess I am just a worry wart mom!
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I think that parents are mostly responsible for how their kids turn out. Kids do have their own personalities, though. Some kids like to do different things, but as long as the parents encourage their children to do what needs to be done, and lead by example, they should be able to help their children along the right path. I don't think it's ever to early to get kids involved in educational pursuits. As long as you aren't trying to shove it down their throats anyway. Even babies and young toddlers can learn so many important things with a little help. I think parents should encourage their kids to learn, without making it seem like a chore. I'm constantly making up games to play with my sons. Sometimes it is to teach him how to do different animal sounds, sometimes it's to teach him colors, word association, etc. He has a lot of fun, and he learns so many new things from these games. So many of the things we do are so simple. If we are out walking, I will point out cars and houses and ask what color they are. We count the houses on a street. If we see an animal, my son tells me what it is and what noise it makes, etc. It's really that easy.
• United States
6 Sep 07
All of those are really good ideas. Mine is a little behind on some things, but way more advanced than I could have possibly hoped for.
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
5 Sep 07
Hello there. As a part time tuition teacher myself, I feel that most of the time, parents have a big influence on how a child turn out to be. If the parents are loving and provide their kids with the right moral education, most likely the kids will turn out to be useful members of the society. However, many times I see parents not doing what they preach. This sets a very bad example for the kids. I feel that so long as the kids are taught good values and have a good upbringing, most likely they wouldn't grow up as slackers, unless they are being negatively influenced by their friends. I feel that kids nowadays are too spoilt. Some parents seem to put more emphasis on academic excellence rather than good morales. It's saddening to see that.
• United States
6 Sep 07
Currently, we are wrestling with these same issues in our own household. I don't want to be too strict with her because she has such a gentle spirit. But, at the same time, without proper guidance, how is a child to know which direction or path to take in their very young lives? You made some very excellent points.
• United States
23 Jun 08
I think some parents don't put enough time into their kids. A lot of people will use the television as a babysitter. I allowed my daughter to watch tv and I don't put limits on her, but I would also read to her a lot. She played educational games and had fun with them. She is 12 now and an honor student. She loves to read. I think if we stress how important education is they will respond to it. I do believe some kids will be slackers regardless of what their parents do. I also believe some kids are slackers as a product of the environment and a lack of support from their parents. At 3 1/2 she should be having fun. That's the important thing. Read to her daily and she will become a reader. You can use educational toys as enrichment, but let her be a kid, too. Your daughter will turn out just fine. The way you worry about her shows the love and support she will get from you.
@rmuxagirl (7562)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I think something you can do (and all parents can do) is take their kids places in the summer. Like take her to the park or to the zoo and other places she might enjoy. I think some parents can be responsible for their kids being slackers and not doing so much. I don't think I want my kids to sit inside watching television or playing games, though I agree that educational games are good, I would only let her play for a certain amount of time a day.
@mobler (38)
• United States
23 Jun 08
I think that kid today spend to much time indoors watching television and playing on the computer. We don't allow our daughter any television time, although I do let her play the educational games on the computer. But only a little and I try not to let it be a daily thing. I actually did some research for myself on the importance of children's playtime. If you are interested in what I found out you can read it here: hubpages.com/hub/Imaginative-Play-for-Toddler-Girls I would say find your daughter a playmate that she can run around with and she will be less interested in sitting in the house.
6 Sep 07
Wow, things certainly have changed since I was a kid. We didn't even have our own tv in our rooms. The tv was in the living room. Our parents chose what was going to be watched on it. Kids are growing up way too fast these days. Computer games at 3 1/2? That to me seems way too young to be on a computer. It is the parents responsibility on their childs growth. What ever happened to reading to them? Spending quality time with them? They don't seem to have the time to be kids anymore. Get her out into the fresh air, enjoy nature and the land of make believe. I know a lot of parents (my friends back home) let the tv or the computer become the baby sitter. The child is stuck glued to the tube all day long. What happened to inter-action between child and parent? Does she have a lot of friends? They need to play with other kids, t communicate with them.
@ssf12ster (489)
• India
6 Sep 07
i feel this is more of a like father like son attitude.now ay you can change thier slackness.they are very stubborn to learn new things.though we tell them to do somany things they try but sometimes cant cope up and end in failure. constant nagging also doesnt help.
@azimsay (545)
• India
5 Sep 07
Some time kids are not obay the parents .they are doing all the things which they wants and how they want.
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I often worry about the same thing. My daughter loves watching playhouse Disney and Sesame Street. But she won't just sit there fixated on the tv. She will get up and go play with her toys and do other things while she's watching tv. And it's not like she just watches tv all day. We do other things as well and I make sure to get her out of the house to interact with other kids. I think as long as you have a good balance there's nothing to worry about. I do however think that when kids start school school work should always come first. My daughter will never be allowed to play or watch tv until her homework is done once she starts school.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
5 Sep 07
I don't believe playing computer games or doing anything on the computer is slacking. I don't understand it when people says kids are better off reading books than being on the computer, I can't see the difference, reading is reading what makes reading from words on paper better than word on a computer they are just words and either which way they are learning... I think it is something to worry about when your kids are not interested in anything, computers are the future and I would look at it that she is preparing for her future...games in books were the old way, games on computer is the now way preparing for the future, I think she will be ok...