Do you think its easy to be a housewife?

United States
September 7, 2007 8:52am CST
I am new here in this country(USA)i thought i could handle things when ill be with my husband. There are some cases we fight over and over again. He just said im not being so observant and im just focusing too much in the pc:D haller!!!He didnt realized i wake up every morning with him to prepare his lunch and his stuff for work!!and clean the house, cook dinner, wash clothes. Even theyre working hard they dont know how hard to be left alone in the house!!!why some guys are like that??why they dont understand its not easy to be a wife?grrrrrrrrrrr
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14 responses
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
7 Sep 07
it's never easy to be a housewife, it's 24/7 job. and the hardest part is how to overcome the loneliness of being left alone facing the four walls of the house the whole day until the husband and kids come home. i have my hats off to those who can be a fulltime housewife. bravo to you ladies!!!!!!
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@sexylc (501)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I been a house wife for almost two years and half and I can say that its really hard because its so boring your life.Specially if you don't have a kids yet!.
• United States
27 Sep 07
Hi girl you are right. Its so boring to left along at home. I cant do nothing i cant find a job yet because of my status here i stil have to wait for my GC. All i have to do is come online and spend time talking to some friends online.
@pamchoos (19)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I understand your feelings and perfectly support you. Many guys are like this.One pretty example is I'm working and earning handful of money as my husband, but then still he says that I didn't do this at home, do that at home. He expects me to do everything. They expect us to understand us and act accordingly but that kind of action is lacking from their end. Except few all are like this I believe
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
15 Sep 07
I'd definitely go off about that. If you work full time as well, there's no reason for YOU to do ALL of the housework. My husband and I split everything, as we both have full time occupations, I as a teacher, and him as a student with a part time job.
@kishusia (1069)
• India
28 Sep 07
Yes, it is very easy to be a housewife. My husband looks after the financial angle and as a housewife I look after the household management. I help in his business whenever need is there. He helps me in my household jobs.
@Nykkee (2523)
• Canada
28 Sep 07
Your picture looks like you took it with a webcam. Download a free trial of video making software and tape yourself doing all the housework and the next time he b!tiches show himt he video.
@williamjisir (22905)
• China
28 Sep 07
I don't think that it is easy to be a housewife. I know this from my mom, who does so much for the family. I appreciate my mom for taking all the troubles doing the household chores and taking good care of us kids. I am proud of my mother who contributes all her life at home taking good care of the family and contributing so much to the family.
@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
I guess some people are so tactful that they believe they could say things which normally would hurt someone else's feelings. Also, it's easier to judge someone's actions when one is not in his or her situations. It's really hard to tell. I believe you should be very upfront with your husband. Tell him how you really feel, and prove to him that you are well observant. Have a heart-to-heart talk. I can sense that you're a Filipina, am I right?! Good luck and God bless. Take a lot of care especially you're in a different part of the world.
@laurika (4536)
• United States
27 Sep 07
At first I want to tell you how you feel.I also came just now to USA and I am new here.I came from Europe and everything is just different here.I am also housewife, becasue I cannot work.And I agree it is not easy be a housewife, not only that but also be at house all day alone, where you have nobody to talk to.I don't have any friends here yet and nothing really to do, only being on the PC.I know exactly how you feel.It is sad your husband doesn't understand how it is to be in new country and have no friends and being alone.But give him time, he would understand later.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
16 Sep 07
There are some guys who actually have an idea of what it takes to do the chores you described. I do like how some people do not understand how much the working world and the workplace expects out of men. Its usually to the point where men are working 10-25 hours longer in a week than women. Its a tough balance, its an unfair situation but it is there. Personally I work 40-50 hours a week depending on the situation. I'm also capable of cooking, washing, cleaning, preparing lunches, taking out garbage, recycling even though I'm a kind of workaholic. You should definitely communicate your difficulties to your spouse. If communication does not work, allow him to try and fix his lunch and dinner and to do the chores when they come up. Just give him a taste of it so he can see how it is.
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Well, if you're staying home and he's working, then your house should be spotless all the time. My husband never really fusses about the house if it's a little untidy because I work full time. But I'm sure if I stayed at home all day, he would expect it to be clean. What else would I have to do? It's not like KEEPING a house clean takes that long, unless you have children. But if you're a *housewife*, you have no children, so there should be no problem keeping everything spotless.
@swathi53 (33)
• India
8 Sep 07
Its really not easy to be a housewife.Being in the role of housewife is difficult part as she has to control her family,if she is a job holder,she has to look after the office work and at the same she has to take care of her family.Single person two works should be handed over by herself itself............
@lucy67 (819)
• China
8 Sep 07
to be a housewife is not easy at all especially when your husband doesn't know it. you have to do the tedious housework day after day. you will feel lonely when your children go to school and your husband goes to work. when they come back, you will be busier. it's hard for you to make friends with others because you almost stay at home all day.
@linoxy (285)
• Cyprus
7 Sep 07
I think those kind of guys are selfish and disrespectfull. Beeing a housewife is more hard than working a day job. beeing left alone and having just your four walls as friend isn't easy. As I can see you have only 4 points now, so welcome to mylot. You'll find lots of supportive people for your hard times here. I'll add you as a friend.
@hari120 (623)
• India
7 Sep 07
being a housewife is never easy. i know the type of efforts my wife has to put in day in and day out to manage the house.