Do you tend to keep things inside?
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
September 7, 2007 8:29pm CST
If you're annoyed, frustrated, upset, angry or sad, do you keep it bottled up inside? Do you eat, drink or do dangerous things - thrill seeking things - to deal with it?
I used to like to excercise to really vent - I've always wanted a punching bag! Nowadays I have a baby and although I'll do yoga or an excercise dvd with him he's my relaxer - my destresser. I'd also use massage therapy if I could. I also like to take long hot showers - sometimes on weekends I'll take more then one because my husband is here. Luckily this week, with my mom in the hospital, my baby has been willing to take naps with me - sometimes for hours and still sleep at night. He's also taking more naps on my lap so I can mylot. I think he knows I'm confused and sad and wants to cuddle.
So what do you do - talk things out - always helps me to say things outloud to someone - a lot of times I can say it - and I instantly feel better. Sometimes I need someone to understand - to reflect back what I said somehow, for that I need a female friend as my husband would grunt or go get me something to yummy to eat in resoponse. Do you excercise, eat, drink, yell at someone what do you do?
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@cyjessice (19)
• China
9 Sep 07
Alawys I like put things in my heart.Sometimes I think there's nobody will konw my true feelings.Sometimes I just want to share the feeling with myself.It's said,if you can't change it,just adjust to it.So I will adapt some things,if I think it is worth to be.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
Be careful my friend, many who keeps things inside die of heart failure. Its healthy to find an outlet - to tell a friend and have them empathise - and then move on - many friends feel honoured to have friends share sorrows as well as joys. Excercise is also an excellent way to work things through or art sometimes can help or a brisk walk in cooler weather.
I do agree that adaptability is a positive thing and is actually a sign of evolution. Our ability to adapt is part of what makes us human. I wish you luck and good health my friend.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
8 Sep 07
I keep things inside, until it gets too much, then I go for a walk, or if there is no one in the house, go down to the basement, stamp my foot and scream. I do not do that any more. My husband is always home except when he goes out to give blood, or gets his hair cut. He cannot understand, and I also doubt many of my female friends can understand, although there were a few I could talk to, but they have never been in that situation. So it does make me sad and knowing that nothing can be done unless I am fabulously wealthy and I am not taking about a trip around the world. You see, I can scream, walk, tell everyone, broadcast on my website, and Pray to God, but unless HE, God does something, I will still be in the same position.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
Screaming is actually excellent therapy - did you know it releases endorphins - and it always makes me laugh. I used to go to the airport with a friend and sit on the car and scream whenever the airplane went over head - it was so releasing - and thus relaxing to do this. It was also nice to imagine where all those planes were going. I'm sorry you feel your husband wouldn't understand or your friends. Its hard, my friends and family are far so I kind of have to pat my own back and dry my own tears when things are difficult. My husband, if he noticed would go out and buy me my favourite ice cream or something. Food is his main form of affection.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Sep 07
For few hours or till such time, I find someone to pour out my feelings, I keep my frustation and anger with myself only. As soon as I find one of my friends, with whom I can share my joys and sorrows, I tell him the whole story, what happened with me, and this gives me immense relief.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
It is so good that you can go to your friends - is it a cultural thing to? Because in general - blanket statement alert- most guys - the ones I've known won't talk about their feelings with their guy friends - just sports or work. If they do talk of things - feelings and problems its with wives or female friends. How healthy for you to be able to get it out. To share and have others empathise. I guess I assumed it was the same for guys all over, they just excercise, to weight training, go for a drive but don't talk about stuff. Except maybe with a female. But not all guys.
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I usually will bottle things up around most people I know, but I will let things loose around my fiance. He pretty much always knows what is on my mind.
If I don't have someone to vent to, though, I think I tend to end up eating in order to try to make things better. It's a horrible habit, but as long as I am aware of what I am doing, I can usually keep it within reason--I just might not eat particularly healthy for a bit, though I keep it within reason as to how much food I eat overall.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
9 Sep 07
I'm thinking you must trust your fiancee and be very close to him - of course! Its important for individuals, I think to have someone to go to to say things outloud to that bother us. Whether its something that happened during the day, trouble with a friend, worry for another.
Be well.
