What Criteria Do You Use?

@Rozie37 (15505)
Turkmenistan
September 9, 2007 8:19pm CST
When someone request to be your friend on Mylot, what criteria do you use to decide whether or not you will accept them? There was a time when I accepted everyone. I do not do that anymore. I want friends that are active on a regular basis. I do not want someone who has been active for 2 months and only have ten posts. Usually when I go through to edit my friends list(which is hardly ever) they still have not passed the 100 mark. For me to even consider someone for friendship, they have to at least be pass 100. I also look at their topics and interests and personal pictures to see what they are all about. I hate it when I am in reading my responses or answering my friends topics in my email and I come across something offensive or objectionable. It messes with my flow and then I will have to take a break and come back later. How do you choose or do you accept everyone?
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8 responses
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
10 Sep 07
It depends on why they want to be my friend. Most of them luckily do it because I open myself or because they really appreciate my advice, information, tips, ideas on a whole range of things.
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@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I tend to accept everyone and now I have a bunch of people on my Friend list that are inactive. I don't really have any criteria except that they share some similar interests or have given really well-thought out responses. I like people that have something to say and have good discussions.
@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
11 Sep 07
I'm the same way. I don't start discussions to find myself on the top discussions link, but I try to post discussions that are interesting and will make people think. I like to answer discussions along the same lines. It needs to get my attention and make me think about my answer more than just a few lines worth. It needs to be thought provoking.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
10 Sep 07
It depends on my mood LOL just yesterday I had three friends requests and only accepted one member because she had over 400 posts, the other two were newbies and had only posted 4 discussions. When I first joined I accepted everyone, and then later on deleted two because of the type of discussions they posted that I didn't like. I am picky now because my friends list has grown and most of them don't seem to be online much nowadays. I have yet to go through and weed my list which I might do when I have some free time.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
10 Sep 07
It is very time consuming. This is why I do not do it often. But, I know that a lot of my friends are no longer active. I never see anything from them anywhere anymore. Although, I believe that a lot will be returning now that they see that our other site was such a disappointment.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
10 Sep 07
And its time consuming. I have joined a few sites and I am always behind, even with mylot :)
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@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
11 Sep 07
I accept everyone unless they have zero posts. I keep getting this one person asking to be friends with no posts and I deny them and they keep coming back. If they wrote me and explained why they wanted to be friends yet don't post, I would better understand. Otherwise, it's all good. But if I see people making repeated posts that are filled with referral codes (I hate that) or who are really obnoxious, I will remove them. I choose some to get alerts on when they start new conversations, not all. If one starts too many that don't interest me, I turn the alert off but don't remove them. It takes a nasty person for me to remove them or a chronic rule breaker. Lastly, if people write and just want to send me to another site to make money so they get the referral, I tend to not want to keep the person on my list. I will watch the discussions they make here before deciding what to do.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Sep 07
You are wise to reject a person with zero post. I do not know what that person is up to, but it sure sounds like trouble. There are times when someone will want to be my friend and I will go to their profile and their topics are so interesting that I will respond to several, before I accept their friendship.
@smacksman (6076)
10 Sep 07
I think you are way to serious about MyLot, Rozie. Friends here are mainly a way of communicating with others. I don't expect to be invited for tea (although that would be lovely!) so I accept everybody as a friend and I'm very happy to do so. I have worked hard here and have encouraged over a thousand people to join MyLot and hundreds of them are my friends even though most are not active ant more. That is the way of the Internet. Just have fun here! haha
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Sep 07
I can respect your position, but like you said, this is the internet. I believe the saying, "Stand for nothing, fall for anything." I am a child of God and there are many offensive spirits on Mylot. I don't bother them and they don't bother me. I respond to their discussions and they respond to mine and that is the extent of it. I take it very seriously and everybody can't be my friend. I do not need the negative influence.
@moneyandgc (3438)
• United States
10 Sep 07
So far I pretty much accept everyone. I figure if I am reading and come across something that I find offensive I can delete them then. Right now I just give everyone the benefit of the doubt regardless of how many posts that they may or may not have.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
11 Sep 07
I did this in the begining and I found myself being exposed to too much. I am very sensitive. So, things that bother me, probably would not even catch many people attention. So I am very careful.
@dreamy1 (3818)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I accept everyone. I don't care what they are doing. If they send me a request I'll accept it. It doesn't matter to me. I don't pay a lot of attention to it anyway.
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@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
10 Sep 07
I check into the posts they do, if they are interesting or not, the last time they logged in. I then go through my friends once every couple of months and delete the ones that have not logged in for at least a month.
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