can you still be friends with your EX?

Philippines
September 11, 2007 7:41am CST
hi guys, just wondering if can you still be friends with your EX after a bad break-up that the two of you have gone through? feel free to share your own experience. as i have read in a magazine, if both sides were on a happy relationship and totally over with your past then that's the time to open the possible friendship.. i just got really sad for those who've been friends first then jumped in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship then when they have parted ways, they didn't even tried to revive the close friendship that they've had before..
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13 responses
@ashleyna (30)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 07
Never.. I won't even look at his face.
12 Sep 07
Yeah I can still be.. but it will take some time for me to do that. and besides living on your past is not good for you. move on, learn from the experience. that's what makes you a better person
12 Sep 07
as they say, to err is human, to forgive is divine, i dont see any reason why you shouldnt be friend with your ex, just becos you are not dating does not mean you should not be friends, the world is a small world, we can still meet somewhere else and help ourselves out, its good to keep the friendship going.
@ericajoyce (1749)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
Well, it depends. If he/she had a good breakup then I think theres no harm in being friends, but if the break-up wasn't that good I think you shouldn't be friends with your ex. I in fact dont be friends with my ex because of the bad break-up.
@alansmile (284)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 07
I would still be friend with my ex after break-up. This is matter of how those two people think of else other. If they really angry at else other, would they talk to else other? No...They won't talk at all. I already ask many of my friend about this question and i got different answer for else friends. I would be cool to become best friend with my ex after break-up.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
12 Sep 07
hmmmmmm... it depends on what you have shared with yor past... but honestly on my side it is soo hard to make friends with him as if we didnt become lovers... i have this ex bf... we used to be closed friends on college and we used to sing on a band... till we have a relationship... but it's getting worst intea of going better since were friends... and when we broke up... its been a long time before we saw each other... and when i saw him we both dont know how to rect... we taled but its just casual... so i can say thats its too hard to be your exbf's friend... still can butnot that close just casual.
• India
12 Sep 07
The world is very complicated. Along the way you meet namy people from all walks of life.True and real friendship is hard to find.You can have many friends,yes many friends,colleagues yeah whatever but you would not have true friendship that can remain for the rest of your life. If you have one treasure it, cherish it and appreciate it.
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
No.
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
12 Sep 07
frankly, i hope i can be friend with my ex-boyfriend, although i don't love him anymore. we stay together for 4 years, and he has been a part of my memory, and i hope he can live a happy life with his wife. but i can't be his friend again, because my current boyfriend will be angry and i dont' want to hurt him in this way. i love him, and i hope he can stay with me forever. so i have to cut relationship with my ex-boyfriend gradually. frankly, i dont' want to hurt anyone of them. but if i have to make a choice, then i can only leave my ex-boyfriend forever.
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
For me... rule number one is never ever be friended with your ex if you want to move on. Because I think the tendency is...yes you parted ways but the feelings is still there and as long as you have communication with him/her you will not get over him. So why make things complicated it will just make you confuse. Close that chapter in your life but don't forget the lessons you've learned. One thing is for sure you can never forget your ex or exes but don't let them you're enemy as well...there's a life ahead to look forward to so get up and go.
@Sharon38 (1919)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 07
one of my ex and are still good friends. As a matter of fact anything I ask for I still get. He is still single anyway said I broke his heart.
• United States
11 Sep 07
I have to say I am friends with all but one of my exes. There was obviously something there that you liked and enjoied about each other.However, it is a very complicated process.It's easy to fall back to that person you were intimate with.So both parties need to be completly over the other.
@okwusman1 (2249)
• Abuja, Nigeria
11 Sep 07
yes, i have had several affections and abandoned many friends and lovers but we are stll friends. if there is opportunity we can still have fun.