The biggest problem you face lately... And how you solved or want to solve it?

The biggest problem I have faced is trying to explain to my brother-in-law why we are separated from one of our sisters and her husband. He wanted to invite them to his birthday party, but if he did, no one else would come. There have been many hurtful things that this sister has done to everyone. The way I resolved it was to explain why we find it necessary to do this shunning. We don't hate her, and we would like nothing better than if she would apologize (and really mean it!) to the people she has hurt by her lies, especially our Mother. But she denies ever having done anything wrong, and is pressuring her husband to stay away from the family. My brother-in-law now understands, will not invite them, and will try to have a separate relationship with her husband as they are good friends. Its a terrible thing that our family has come to this because of the cruelty of one person.

Actually, I have been very lucky, as have a good job and earn enough money to pay the bills. The only situation that my husband and I have found to be a bad problem is our oldest daughter and how she spends money. She purchased a house with a friend and then couldn't make the payments and expected us to make them for her. We refused to fix her problem, so now she isn't speaking to me. She blames me because I said no. This was several years ago and we only speak to each other when the rest of the family forces her to call me. I'm waiting for her to grow up and be a responsible person that stops borrowing money from everyone else in the family. She owes money to everyone else in the family that didn't say no. My solution might not be the right one, but I wish to be able to retire and not owe any money.

I guess my biggest problem right now is that my mom won't accept the fact that my boyfriend and I are living together. She just doesn't want to admit that I am a responsible, independent adult and have the right to live my life as I please. She's against living together out of wedlock. She even went as far as saying not to visit her again until I've done something about my situation. Whatever!

My biggest problem lately is finding out my father is having a child at the age of 55 w/ a 26 yr old girl. My older brothers are older then her. It just frustrated me so much b/c after all those yrs of spending time outside of the home away from his family 3 boys and 1 girl, now that we are all growned up he has stopped drinking, he stays home and now has a young girlfriend who is going to have a baby. It so difficult for me to accept this child as a sibling to me. I just feel so torned and honestly don't know how to react. I feel he is trying to replace or do over what he messed up in the first place and he even stated ever since my brother passed he feels that this baby can bring him comfort. That really pissed me off b/c I feel no one can ever replace my brother and for him to even mention that makes me feel as if he never really loved us. Sorry for draining my problems here but that is my biggest problem right now.

I can understand your feeling depressed from the unprofessional who is placing pressure on you guys. Usually when someone comes to power, he is usually quite willing to show himself as a VIP and speak in a serious way to his followers, which is very common. I have seen lots of people like this guy you talked about. It is ok, friend. He will lose his principle when he is getting familiar with your guys. Be happy, friend.

Mine is a combination of things. One is finances which will be corrected in time. Second is getting my parents moved once and for all because they're between places right now. Third is getting my pets vaccinated since they're long over due. Fourth is my husband's pain, I'd like to see him more comfortable than he is. Gosh and another is my dad's health, which is nothing I can do but pray for him and I know prayers have been known to move mountains.

I always use "SORT & SOLVE" system. SORT mean we identify to every single problem and categorized it. SOLVE is we do concentrate on what we have competency on the relevant problem matched our competency. The remaining must pass up for outsourcing or 'pull string'.

The biggest problem I face is my fight with social security I have been fighting them since 1998. I have an attorney but the way I am solving it is trusting in the Lord.