How good are you at hiding your true emotions and feelings?
By carissa765
@carissa765 (1097)
United States
September 16, 2007 11:21am CST
How good are you at hiding the way you feel? Whether it be hiding the fact that you like someone, or that you are depressed and don't want anyone to know?
I have found that I am very good at this. If I don't want you to know how I feel you won't know how I feel. Not even my husband knows how to read me.
There is only 4 people I have let in to knowing how to tell how I feel and if I really need help.
That is my parents, my best friend of 21 years, and the love of my life. No the love is not the same as my husband.LOL
I know this sounds weird, because most people want help when they need it, but I feel that if I have to tell you want is wrong, it is probably just a conversation starter. You know how you ask someone what's wrong when you really don't have anything else to talk about or are just trying to get into their business? At least that's what I feel they are trying to do.
How good are you? Do you let people in or only a choice few?
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25 responses
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I am terrible at hiding my feelings and emotions. My face reads like an open book, especially if I am angry.
My husband is excellent at hiding his emotions though. We've actually had to work on him NOT doing it!
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Well some people are good at it and some are not, hope it all works out for you.
@arthurtravel (24)
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17 Sep 07
In China, to hiding your real feeling is a good kind,especially in work or social contact.But in family,we don't hiding our real feeling,when we need help,the family is first choice.I think the tradition of culture play the most important role.I don't express my real feeling althought I was mooding sometime, but I don't hide happy or angry in my family,it have wife ,parents ,sisiter and others.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
OH yeah That is a good thing in china, not here but I still do it.. Americans are weird, we need to talk about everything to solve the root of the problem.. PISH POSH. I don't want to go see a therapist, I won't talk to my family why would I talk to a GD stranger? LOL TY
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
26 Sep 07
I hope you didn't take that derogatory or rude, I did not mean it that way, I was just simply stating that americans are weird because we think talking to strangers is a good way to solve our problems.. Not in my book.
@arthurtravel (24)
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25 Sep 07
I thought what you said after my respond,especially "the root of the problem". I find I can't express my opinion clearly by English,sorry,some reason is my pool language.
I think this question have very big culuture difference. It's complexed,I can't thought clearly,so but the topic is interesting.
But I like this sentence what you said "the root of the question"
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I've been very skilled at that for some yrs now..simply because it was always a needed self preservation tactic...When you live out on the street you cant let ppl around you know you are scared or feel unsafe, alone etc..You can't let other girls know you are unsure, you cant let pimps know you are intimidated or tricks know that you arent comfortable etc etc...so going into 'emotional hiding' sometimes to the point of complete emotional numbness was necessary for me way back when...
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Oct 07
That has to suck, I feel for ya... I am assuming that you are all done with that now? I am glad to hear, no one deserves that kind of life.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I never tell anyone how I am feeling,so I don't know if anyone knows or not.But when i ask you what is wring is because I can tell something is wrong not because I want to be nosy or I have nothing to talk about.And if you say nothing or you don't want to talk about, that is the end of it.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
17 Sep 07
So glad to hear someone lets it go at that, so many people don't anymore.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I am not nosy. The only reason I would ask is because you seem a little down or not yourself and maybe I could help.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Glad to know someone cares. I know that A lot of people do, other wise they would not ask, but man when I say nothing leave it be, and people around have a hard time with that one..LOL
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@manzano22 (77)
• Philippines
17 Sep 07
I think I'm so good at it that after years of hiding emotions, I finally reached the point when i dont feel anymore. Specially on the feelings of being hurt, either hurt because of love, friendship, family issues and stuff. I just move on so there's nothing more to hide. I don't really understand myself. I'm not numb, I'm just like a stone with hormones that makes me feel emotions..
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I feel numb sometimes, after all the hurt I have been put through too. It is like it just rolls off instead of bothering you anymore.
@mustafabadri (178)
• India
10 Oct 07
good this is the telent not every one can do it,specially girls are not able to hide their feelings and emotions.most of the time our feelings hurts other but most of the time we express the way people around dont hurt i also feel somethime tht i have hide my feeling from others.but while expressing feelings remember not to hurt othres it ultimate hurts ourselves
people who speaks less are more loveable in the society so i would like to be one of them
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
11 Oct 07
I would not say that is true for all girls. I am a girl, however tomboyish I may be, i can and do hide my emotions and always will.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
That is why I try not to talk to people at work, they don't understand, and it should be a problem left homw and not taken to work. I usually don't have any probkems with emotions at work except when it is REALLY bad.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
That is a good way of hiding them, when you feel tha way just by being by yourself.
@jeanbug23 (992)
• Philippines
17 Sep 07
I am a very transparent person so I cannot hide my feelings. You can see real happiness the way my face ensembles it, and how I am depressed. If only there's a way I can hide it, or if there's some cure for it, I will gladly take it.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
17 Sep 07
Think Happy Thoughts..LOL
No really if you think about something else you will usually be able to eventually hide you feelings, by not thinking at all.
@ssf12ster (488)
• India
17 Sep 07
very simple. i never make it a big issue in the family.least of all i dont discuss the problem that is haunting me.thoughothers make out that something is wrong i just say hi to them and laugh it off.no on cares really whether you are in a mess nowadays.that is what i have seen.they have there own problems.watch some movie to wile away the time.then goes away all the hiccups in life.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Yeah seems to me like it is a "bother" to help people with their emotions and problems anymore too.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Family should love you absolute, and it is good that your family has that trust and emotional bond. Most families are lacking in that area now a days.
@cdcale (89)
• Singapore
17 Sep 07
I'm actually pretty good at this. I don't intentially keep my feelings from others, but it seems to be pretty difficult for anyone to figure out how i'm feeling at a particular point in time. If a person asks what's wrong, i might share how i feel about someone or something, but I usually keep my thoughts and feelings to myself, since i don't really see the need to tell anybody.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I don't really see the need to tell anybody either, because seems to me like MOST people don't really care how you feel anyway, but they want you to know all about how they are feeling.
@helenaqianqian (16)
• China
17 Sep 07
wow, that's a good question to me, i am really good at controlling my emotions, i normally hide my true emotions inside, when i feel sad, mad and depressed, i wont let other people see them on my face...i dont know why, but that's my character
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Probably because you are like me, and don't want to "bother" people by telling them your problems.
@hannahlotski (377)
• Philippines
16 Sep 07
For me, it depends on the person whom you are talking with. There are person who are very numb. Obviously, he or she can't read our minds and we can easily act on them but if the person is good like in reading people minds,reactions and mostly these people are psychologists. Eventhough you pretend to be like this and like that, they can read what is in our mind.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
16 Sep 07
I know that people can not read minds and that we have to tell them whether or not we feel something, but I mean there are a lot of things I don't want people to know about me, and that is why I am so guarded.
@daveisdavid (878)
• Singapore
17 Sep 07
I'm not good at hiding my emotions and feelings. When I'm moody I would show it out because I find it hard to smile when you are moody.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
17 Sep 07
I always say it is because I am tired, I never let anyone know what is going on in my head unless it is here on mylot, or one of my chosen few.
@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
16 Sep 07
I can hide my emotions well. Sometimes a tear or facial expression might give it away.
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
16 Sep 07
I always run and hide when I feel one of those about to happen.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
17 Sep 07
It's amazing I cannot talk to real live people, but I can spill it all on mylot.lol
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
16 Sep 07
I am glad that your girlfriend likes that. t is good to know that you two work so well together. TY
@sexylc (501)
• United States
16 Sep 07
I try to hide all I can about my feelings specially if I don't like someone get involve on it.But sometimes its hard to hide that we need to let it go out so you can breath and have some good feelings.So I am not very good at all hiding my feelings.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
16 Sep 07
I just wait until I am by myself, and then let them out. I will go to the shed to get something for dinner and take 20 minutes so I can cry and the clean it up before I get back to the house..TY
