Time for the family.

@bowtieguy (5930)
United States
September 18, 2007 9:30am CST
My youngest sons says that we do not spend as much time together and that I spend a lot more time with his older brother than I do with him, and for the most part I would agree with him somewhat. It's is that he is more into science and math and a lot of acedemic kind of stuff, building things and experiments and stuff, where as my other sons is into recreational sports like golf and billiards and stuff, so I find it hard to think of things I can do with my son that he likes to do, anysuggestions?
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6 responses
• Bahamas
31 Aug 08
Versatility is the word. Our children have varied interests and personalities. As parents, we should know how to deal with these unique characteristics. The best thing we can do maybe is to allow the siblings to compromise halfway. In order to have bonding among all siblings, the other child can try what the other one is doing and vice versa. If it doesn't work, the father has to spend time for both fairly. One should not be left out. If the strategy works with me, am sure it would work with you. I have a son who loves to play games online in his leisure time. My daughter was left out. What I did was to let my daughter watch the games and allowed her to surf games for girls. Now both of them are enjoying playing online games with certain limitations.
• Malaysia
18 Sep 07
I have 3 sons and 3 daughters. All of us always communicating through e-mail what what ever subject they wanted to raise up to me. Beside having our tangible relationship. I had mention to them this way, a father just like one President to one country. So as a father has many things to be coped up with quality time management and efficiency. If they notice that their father has less time with them, please use internet as a tool of communication. To concentrate on one, others will sulk. So do their expressions through an internet. In fact I want to know their degree of effable to their expressions. Every action there will be reaction. :::michael:::
@bowtieguy (5930)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I'm sure you do, tow sons is hard enough but 6 kids you sure do have your hands full, I don't think I would be able to handle that many.
@williamjisir (22904)
• China
18 Sep 07
I can see that. It would be the same with me if I am interested in what I like and for sure I would spend more time with those who have the same interest like I have. Just explain to your young son about that. I think that he will understand it.
@bowtieguy (5930)
• United States
18 Sep 07
What worries me is that, the same problems arised before my wife and I split, we just seemed to lose intrest and I am afriad that this will distance me from my son, and I don't want that to happen.
@rhinoboy (2129)
18 Sep 07
I think you're heading into this the wrong way. First off, you should praise your son for telling you the way he feels in such a mature manner. You don't need to think of anything to do with him, just arrange to spend some time with him and let him choose what to do. If he can think of something beforehand, you can make arrangements or get supplies to do whatever it is. You may even find that he likes recreational sports too and just wants the opprtunity to join in.
@bowtieguy (5930)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I have offered many times for him to join in with his broher and I, but he dosen't show much intrest in things we like to do. He would like to have an activity that is our own like his brother and I have with sports, and I am having a hard time thinking of things I like that he likes, I will ask him if he has any ideas, and hopfully he dose.
• India
18 Sep 07
we must not only try to teach the kids always, some times they love it if we learn from them, specially when they want us to. be cool, loving, hugging. apple.
@bowtieguy (5930)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I never though of it like that before, thanks.
@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
26 Oct 07
I think, as a father like you, we should always try to adjust or adopt to what my children desires particularly if the intention is for the improvement of his/her well-being. It doesn't necessary requires that you also do what he's requiring you but you should at least show some interest in what he's doing. Try to bond with him and assure him that you will always be there for anything that he needs.