my husband
By asgtswife04
@asgtswife04 (2475)
United States
September 21, 2007 10:04pm CST
so, i just talked to my husband and he just informed me that starting next month he will be doing something more dangerous than what he is doing now. he wanted my approval, and knowing how my husband it, i told him that i supported him in anything that he did and that i would stand by him. i just told him to be extremely careful and to take care of himself. the job my husband has now requires a lot of sitting and waiting and he feels that if he has been sent off to war, he should be out doing something rather than sitting there. was i wrong in telling him that i supported him? either way he would have done it
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@autumnchen (24)
• China
22 Sep 07
You are right to support your husband. He is an armyman and he has to protect your country. He is a good man, everybody will envy him. The god will bless him, let's pray for him.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
22 Sep 07
I think you are right, all we can really do is offer support and hope
blessed be
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Sep 07
thanks so much for the encouragement. I do believe he will be protected over there. thanks again
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@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Sep 07
You are a very good wife because you support your husband. If I were you, perhaps I don't agree with him when he is going to do something dangerous. As to me, the happiness is all the family getting together.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Sep 07
that is defnitely my main goal. getting him home so that we can have our family together again. i know that if he knows i support him it will put his mind at ease.
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Very true, and i did tell him how i felt about it, but also told him i knew he would do it and that i supported him in it. no need in worrying about home when he needs to be concentrating on his job over there.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
22 Sep 07
You are right in supporting your husbands decisions. Your a military wife and whether we disagree with it or not, we need to show our support, because that is part of our job as their wives. Especially when they are in harms way. When I don't necessarily agree with it, I do voice my concerns to my husband, but tell him no matter what, I am behind him 110% regardless. You are not wrong at all! Your right, he would have done it regardless of what you told him, but it is much better when he isn't worried about why you feel the way you do. I sure wish there were more wives like you out there!
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Thank you so much for your comment. Sometimes I wonder if I am doing or saying the right things for him. I don't want him worrying about things at home. it's to important for him to focus on being there and getting home then having 20 different things on his mind about us. I did tell him that he knew how i felt about it, but that i did support him and knew it was something he had to do for himself. it defnitely made him feel alot better. thanks again
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
23 Sep 07
No problem, us military wives have to stick together even though we are miles apart! Your doing a great job supporting your husband. You voiced your concerns but you told him that you understand that he has to do his job. It does relieve their minds and helps them focus, sometimes it is so darn hard to do it though, becuase you want to scream no into the phone, but you know you can't. Trust me, been there done that! Anyhow, no worries, your doing great!
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
23 Sep 07
thanks. you've really helped me out alot with your encouragement.
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@briarose (124)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Hugs, You were right to support him because if you held him back none of you would be happy. It just must be very difficult and is really a measure of true love because you are sacrificing your own happiness to support him. But know that by supporting him you have made him stronger knowing that you love him and trust in his decision and letting him know you think he is capable of this next job. Stay strong and God Bless.
@meaculpa (338)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
You are a good wife to support your husband in his job.
Even if it's a bitter pill to swallow, you have to accept the nature of his work.
However, it is better also if you are honest about your feelings.
You may talk to him and open up what you really feel.
Then listen to what he is going to say. Both of you will set goal, that is even if it is a hard task laid on your shoulders, the two of you will face such hand in hand.
Good luck to you and your husband!
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Sep 07
thanks for the words. it is hard to swallow sometimes, but i know how he feels about things to. we do discuss and listen to eachother very well and he knows that i love him and support him whole heartedly.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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22 Sep 07
As you said, either way he would have done it, so why not support him? o9f course you were right
blessed be
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
22 Sep 07
No i dont think you were wrong in telling him you supported whatever decision he made. At least if this is a hard decision on him you probably made it easier by telling him you supported him. Your right he probably still would have done it. Is he being sent over to iraq? Because i thought that they werent sending anyone else over there. They are supposed to be pulling people out. But i may be wrong about that...
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Sep 07
He is already in Iraq. and yeah, i think it made it easier on him. he worries alot about me and what i think about him. i am very proud of him and i stand behind him and support him in all he does. doesn't mean i won't worry though. i already worry and he's in a semi safe place now. thanks for your kind words
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@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Sep 07
this is true. i've always told him that no matter where he is or what he is doing i am always with him. and i do support him no matter how much i will worry about him. my husband is a strong man though and i believe that he will be fine
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