do you think that if you lost 2 kids?

Since your sister is already in the system I would suggest to you that you contact the social worker handling the case. More then likely the State will ask that it be given custody of the twins. Meaning that any time your sister fails to meet the States standards they will remove the twins from her care. I have also been through a similar situation with my niece. I adopted two of her four children. The other two live with their birth father. If you aren't able to adopt the twins I would suggest trying to set up sibling visits.

She has an addiction and needs help. Has she ever gone through any kind of rehab? It is sooo sad I tend not to be tolerant of addictions when they are affecting the health and safety of others but I have never had an addiction so I shouldn't judge to harshly and I have heard that even with something as devestating as losing your children isn't enough to make you stop. She needs the tools and education and support to keep her off the bottle. Her bad habits are probably a contributing reason to the prematurity, and they will probably encourage her to see the girls as much as possible because it will actually help the babies thrive. If you are not on speaking terms at all is there another family member that can intervene? It is such a touchy situation but if she is still drinking and shows up at the hospital under the influence the nurses will alert social services and more than likely the girls will be place in foster care with supervised visits until it is determined your sister is able to care for the girls - if she even wants to? If her addiction is too great she may not want that responsibility. I know this may be very difficult and don't know if you are asking because you are thinking of taking the girls in if need be but the most important thing is that little boy you are caring for and God bless you for giving him a loving home and family. I will keep you all in my prayers.

It's unfortunate that things turned out that way for your sister, how noble of you to adopt her little boy though, you deserve a pat on the back for that. Until your sister has changed her old ways, she shouldn't be raising those twins. Sounds like she needs a friend and some help to get her life together again...

If I was predicting, I would say that she would not be able to keep them very long either. It is hard to care for twins, and much harder to care for premature babies. Are you saying that you would want to adopt these two children as well? Think it over. They may have health issues and other problems if she drank throughout her pregnancy. What is the little boy like Is he okay? Even in the case of the welfare of children, there are two or three things that hold true. Number one, most states presume (whether rightly or not) that a child is better off with their biological parent. and secondly, until she does something seriously wrong, they will not remove the children from her custody. The old "innocent until proven guilty" thing. I am sorry to hear this about any child, or children.

I wouldn't want to see them go in to foster care, it sounds like that's where they'd be headed if no one intervenes... Maybe she's sober, maybe she isn't but if she doesn't have a place to live I see that as an issue. Twins are hard enough, premie twins I imagine would be harder. Does she work? Where's the father? Does he want to step forward and take care of them?