how would you deal with your close friend who wants to still your partner?

Philippines
September 25, 2007 8:02pm CST
i have this friend who has a boyfriend of 3 years and our other friend who is very flirty is flirting with her boyfriend. my friend is very worried on what to do now coz her boyfriend is starting to like our other friend. she loves her boyfriend so much and she also dont want to lose the friendship with our other friend.
2 responses
@royanne (307)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
well, that's a really hard one... she doesn't want to lose the guy and the friend... i think maybe the best solution there is to first talk to the friend... why is she doing this kind of stuff? is your friendship not important to her? or does he really like the guy than your friendship... if your friend is way too shy to ask your other friend then maybe you could do her a favor and ask her since your all friends... right? then maybe after that tell your friend to ask her boyfriend if he already likes your other friend than her... and even though it might be the hardest thing to do for her... she should be able to ask the guy... cause maybe the guy doen't want her anymore or just blinded by the other girls flirty actions and still love your friend... either way at least she could save one of her relationship the friend or the guy... if the guy loves the other girl already it's really best to move on... and just accept the facts... she'll eventually find the right guy for her in the near future... (n_n)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
thanks for the advice. right now im just leaving the situation as it is. i already talked to the two of my friends and left them to settle their disagreements. im not going out with them anymore and i told them that its better if i lose the two of them than betrayed the other.. :) i hope theyll soon realize the value of friendship should be prioritize.. :)
• United States
26 Sep 07
oooh that's a hard one.. However, there's really nothing that you can do about it but hope for the best of your friends. its going to hurt and you'll prolly hear A LOT about it for a while if the current couple breaks up, but in all reality it's up to the boyfriend, it sounds. I can tell you one thing if the boyfriend stays with his current partner and doesn't really want to besides not hurting someone and he regrets it, that will be worse in the long run than if he just ends it. If you know what I mean. But you need to stay supportive for all ends, even though it may be difficult. Hopefully if they are all your friends, they won't go to the extent of making you chose... Hope all goes well...
• Philippines
26 Sep 07
its really hard to choose coz they are my friends and right now im being torn with their problems. it seems that my other friends is really starting to like the boyfriend of our friend.