My sister in law lost her babies last night1
By Katlady2
@Katlady2 (9904)
United States
September 26, 2007 7:34pm CST
Today has been such a painful day for the whole family. Actually it all started yesterday for my sister in law and her fiance. She was pregnant with twin boys, and had three to six weeks to go before they were due, depending on whether labor started early or not. Yesterday, she was feeling really bad pains, so her fiance took her to the hospital. The nurses there put her on IV fluids for a while, and then sent her home. They didn't do an ultrasound, or even hook her up to a fetal monitor to check the heartbeats of the babies. AND to top that off, it had been a MONTH since the last ultrasound was done. So about 1:00am this morning, the pains came back to where my sis was just screaming in pain. So they went back to the hospital, and about 2 hours later, an emergency C-section was performed. But it was way too late. The babies were still-born, and very dark blue in color. But yesterday, when my sis went in the first time, they had been kicking up a storm. So no one understands why things went the way they did. I could go into all sorts of things about the hospital itself, but that's not the point of this discussion. Anyway, I spent several hours there with the family, and before I left the minister came in and brought the babies so that a blessing could be placed on them before they were taken to the funeral home. I wish they could have made it. They were so cute, and so small. One of them was over six pounds, and the other was about half his weight and size. But they were perfectly formed....no deformities whatsoever. I've been crying all day long, as has the rest of the family. I'm really worried about my sis though, because she started rocking the bassinet that the babies were in as if they were still alive. But maybe that was her way of saying good bye to them. I'm hoping she and her fiance can get through all of this. One good thing....she didn't get her tubes tied, so they plan to try for another child sometime down the line. Please keep them in your thoughts and prayers my friends. And thank you for letting me cry on your shoulders for a bit. Hugs to everyone.
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@sandydg350762 (15)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I am so sorry! I will definitely keep them, as well as yourself, in my thoughts and prayers.
~Sandy G.
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I am actually at a loss for words.
I am so, so sorry. Please accept my Deepest Sympathy for your entire family.
You will be in my prayers tonight and my thoughts for a long time.
Again, I'm very sorry this has happened.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
Katlady my friend I am at a loss for words.
I am so unbelievably sorry.
No need to thank us for letting you cry on our shoulder, that's what friends are for. A lot of times talking and writing about things helps. Your family is in my heart and thoughts sweet.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
Your more then welcome Sweetie! If you need anything I am just a pm away!
Love & Hugzz, Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear ;)
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@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Oh my god! I am so so sorry this happened to your family. I def. know how you feel. My sister was also pregnant and she had a miscarriage. Her and her husband had been wanting a baby for a long time, so it was just so unfair that would happen to them. Because I know they both would make GREAT parents.
But now,,,my sister is pregnant again and her doctor said there is only a 5% of another miscarriage, and he really doesn't think it's going to happen. We now know it's a girl! :) So, tell you sister in law not to lose hope. It will happen for her.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Thank you :) I'm glad that she has people to support her through this hard time like my sister and brother in law did! =) And I wish her the best of luck!
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. I just want to let you know, that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I know it's hard to go through this, but I pray that God will comfort you all at this time. And that when she's ready, again, that God will give her the baby thayt she desires. Take care, and lots of hugs.
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Cry away, my friend... how terrible for all of you! Such a painful loss... I hope they can find the reason behind it that will give them peace. Its a hurt that never goes away... I know. Keep as close as you can to everyone, I will be thinking of you all. I'm sure everyone here is hugging you back.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Thank you so much my friend. Something is just not right with the way things went down at the hospital, and I think the sheriff's coroner will be doing a very thorough investigation. I will let you know if anything is found out. Thanks again hon.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
So sorry to hear of this and it is very difficult to understand!! I had the flu while I was pregnant with my son and ended up in the hospital. They monitored the baby and everything while I took gravol and got rehydrated... this makes no sense to me!! I will certainly be praying you and your sister and the rest of the family.
Take care my friend!
xxx
~Heavens
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I only wish the hospital that my sister in law is at had taken such good care of her as you received. It's a really sticky and aggravating situation, but all the "what ifs" in the world won't change what happened. Thank you so much for your support and caring.
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@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
27 Sep 07
Oh my GOD!!! It is really awful, I can't even imagine what your whole family were going through! And of course your sister in law is the one who will need all your support and love, she needs it now so much! I am really sorry that this terrible thing happened in your family, please accept my deepest sympathy!
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Thank you hon. She is definitely not lacking for love and support. There is a lot of family that is staying by her side while she is in the hospital, and I think there will be one or two family members that will be staying at the house with them afterward as well. It's just going to take time to ease the pain. Thanks again sweetie.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
Oh Katlady...I am so very sorry to hear about this tragic event. This is a loss that is hard to fathom...two sweet little ones not that far from coming into this world and being a profound blessing to your whole family. And now that is not to be.
As I read this the thought came to mind to light two candles in memory of these precious, innocent babies who almost made it. I will do that as soon as I send this to you and in a quiet moment send a wish for light filled energies to illuminate the shadows within your sadness and loss.
During times like these it gives all of reason to pause...for whatever is going on our lives it pales in comparison to the crushing grief you and yours. May you draw together and provide much needed hugs and comfort. My thoughts and prayers will be with you tonight.
Warmest regards,
Raia
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
28 Sep 07
Hugs to you. Yes they are safe in what my Mom used to say..."Gently held in the hollow of God's great hands." I am sure they feel the love and honor you are offering to them for the short time they were here.
Continued love and light coming your way.
Warm and loving regards,
Raia
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
27 Sep 07
oh my i'm so sorry to hear this,this is so sad and i hope she will pull thrugh this with the love of you and god and her whole family,my deepest sympathy goes out to her and i will be praying that everything goes well.i'm just so sorry she had to go thru that.xoxo.pattie
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
27 Sep 07
My eyes filled with tears and I cried like a baby. I understand because I remember when I lost my son when I was 5 months pregnant and it was a very difficult time for me. I share with her pain and I am praying for you all. One thing you need to do is to be there for both of them and let them talk it through that is if they are willing to open up. Each person reacts differently because this is the first time I have talked about mine though. I am praying for you all.
May God give you all peace in this time of storm. GOd bless!
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@TTucker3 (145)
• United States
27 Sep 07
HI there, I cant pretend to know the pain that your going thorugh, i could never imagine losing my niece or nephew, or my daughter for that fact..I dont think it would be a very easy think to live with.
You will be in my prayers and our thougths, thats a part of life I will never understand..why the babies!
I had a miscarriage about a year and a half agow hen my husband and I were having some problems, the amount of stress want good fo rthe baby...that in itself broke my heart..I still think about it at times, and wish that things would have been different, but I know that it just wasnt the right time in our marriage!
God bless you and your family!
@juashing07 (32)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister and her babies. I'll include them in my prayers. Be strong and have a nice day!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 07
Awwww Sweetie I am so sorry to read this I would say they neglected something there very strictly
I am so sorry there is not a lot more I can say Sweetie
She is in my thoughts and a big Hug to you and of course to your Sis And I wish I could be there to hold you while you are crying on my Shoulders but you know it is here for you whenever you need it
Love you Sweetie
A big Hug and love to your Sis to
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
27 Sep 07
So sorry to hear about your sisters and he fiances loss. This is so sad to hear. I'll be praying for you all that the babies are in Angels arms as they greet the great maker. God bless you all and take care. Hope they both pull through this traumatic event of their young lives. In my thoughts. Hugs to you and your sis and fiance as well.
{{{{{Kat & Family}}}}}
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@tdbrower1969 (1242)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Katlady,
I am so sorry to hear this for your sister and her fiance and your whole family! What a terrible loss! I am so sorry that things went this way, it seems that the hospital should have done something more. Be strong and be there for your sister, she is going to need you so much, I know, I have lost a daughter and without my sister there for me I would have been lost. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers!
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I'm so sorry for your loss too hon. The whole family is rallying around my sister in law, and I will be with her a lot too, especially while her fiance is at work. She does have an 18 year old daughter, and she is with her a lot too, and I know that's a big comfort to her. Thanks so much hon.
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@leximorton (2)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
I am terribly sorry about you and your family's loss... I have lost over 50 children in my time, so I do know how it feels. Unfortunately, many doctors and nurses don't check on things thoroughly anymore. I do think your sister in law should seek some help, in case the rocking of the bassinet was more than just a goodbye.. Losing a child is a horrific experience, no matter the age. I would recommend you just try to be as supportive as possible, and never say things like "it's God's will", or "there must have been something wrong, or it wouldn't have happened, maybe it's for the best", because those do not help. It sounds like you are all a very close family, and hopefully that will help your sister in law her fiance to get through this in a better way. I'm really sorry to hear about it, and hopefully there will be an in depth investigation not only into the cause of the boys' deaths, but also the hospital and staff.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I'm hoping for an investigation of that kind too. I'm just making sure to tell her that I'm here for her for whatever she needs, and not saying all those cliche phrases that seem to bring more pain than healing. Thank you so much for your support hon.
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