Guy Stupidity?

United States
September 26, 2007 8:45pm CST
So my boyfriend thinks that its ok to look gauk at girls in front of me because he doesn't touch them. I tried to tell him that it hurts my feelings and is very insensitive. Am I being stupid or is he?
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5 responses
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
You're not stupid, my friend. I think if he doesn't listen to you, maybe you can try a little gig of your own. Try gawking at good-looking guys. When he reacts, just tell him, "well, that's how i feel when you look at other girls in front of me."
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• Philippines
27 Sep 07
this is a nice suggestion. spark little jealousies in the relationship. actually, this will make the bond of the relationship stronger. you will be able to talk about what each of you find in men and women to be head turning. then slowly, each of you shall do some improvements in yourselves as talk on these issues. always make sure though that the improvements are really improvements and not make one appear oddly trying to fit into something. you will find that you and your partner shall get closer and more loving for each other. make sure too, that the jealousies will never spark deep quarrels. light jealousies will only make one conscious of the partner's worth rather than cause quarrels.
@shy_gal (235)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 07
I think both of you are not stupid. It is natural that a man look at the pretty and attractive girls as well as gal. Gal also can look at the handsome man. Maybe you just feel your boyfriend do not respect to you and just pay the attention to another girls and make you feel insensitive. Just open your heart more wide a bit, just let them see. Beside that, you also can know what type of girls that your boyfriend looking at. My boyfriend also do the same thing, but i will see as well. Then i will ask he what is his opinion on this girl, whether she looks pretty, slim and so on. After that, he will say i am more beautiful than her. So. all the men are behave like that. So please do not thinking that you or your boyfreind is stupid.
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
your boyfriend is stupid... just joking! well, i guess that's just the nature of man... it's actually very insensitive of him to do that... not even feeling guilty of it... and he even does that in front of you how rude.. and not even trying to consider how you feel about it... i think the best way is to take the advice of dianne... try gawking at some hot men who passes buy... if he reacts then tell him that's how you feel when he looks at other girls... maybe, he'll realize his mistakes and reconsider... best of luck! (n_n)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
I think he is making a big mistake by doing that but you can't stop men from looking at attractive girls. But doing it in front of you without being sorry or ashamed in doing it is not a good idea. He is acting insensitively that way. But here's a thought for you, he may look at them but he is still yours right?
@meikaidi (24)
• United States
27 Sep 07
when i first started dating my boyfriend i didn't like it eiher.. but i got used to it and realized it was silly of me to care! i trusted him enough and i know he wouldn't really do anything. now it is common for us to point out others we find attractive.. i think it is a part of becoming comfortable with someone. he should be sensitive to your feelings, though. but you should also understand he is not necessarily doing it to hurt you.