My neighbors kids stay up too late and are always cranky

Canada
September 28, 2007 8:31pm CST
Our neighbors have 2 cute little girls- one is in kindergarten and the other one is in grade 4 (or 3). The younger one is always cranky and crying. The mom complains about her tantrums and I told her not to worry because she'll grow out of it and be just fun in the long run....I regret saying that. Now that I know more about the family, I think her tantrums and crying is due to being over tired. The family entertains and have people in and out of their house at all hours of the day and night practically every day of the week. There's two families that live in the house and the one couple drink every night. As late as midnight or one a.m., they would suddenly have a bunch of people show up and crank the music. The girls run around inside and out, mostly unsupervised and don't have regular bed times. I see them dragging their heels to get to the school bus in the morning and then the mom goes back home and crawls into bed. She gets up a short time before she sends the younger one to school and stands outside in her pj's yawning up a storm until the bus gets there. I would offer to help but have good reason not to. Sounds pathetic, I know - I feel like I need to do something without the parents thinking I'm stepping on toes. Until then, I'll just vent about it here.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I've seen ppl that do that...let their kids stay up all hours of the night. I think it's important that kids have a set bedtime and stick by it. Every kid I've ever helped raise including the foster kids all had a set bedtime and a set time to get up. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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• Canada
29 Sep 07
Our kids had a set bedtime and woke up early to a good breakfast. We felt it was important for them to be well rested and I really appreciated the couple of hours quiet time to get housework done each night. I can't imagine what it's like to run on empty like that - specially as a child.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I've seen kids that are 4-5 years old that have rarely if ever slept in a bed...they just run until the lay down and sleep where ever they happen to be. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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• Canada
29 Sep 07
That's sad. Kids need rules and a schedule - I read a long time ago it makes them feel safe to have set routines. I feel bad for the kids who have to live like that
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Vent away hon. That's what we're here for. Wow! It definitely sounds like those two little ones aren't getting enough sleep at night. No wonder they are so grouchy and throwing temper tantrums. I think I'd be the same way, even at MY age! Those people need to knock off with the partying, and grow up and take care of their children. I think you're right about not offering to help. I think you would end up with those children way more than you intended to. It's a tough call, I know. I hope the situation gets better where you are hon.
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• Canada
29 Sep 07
I love sleeping. As for those girls, I think I'll just vent about it here and not do anything to help. I'm going to turn into one of those people that yells at people to be quiet and "get off my lawn" LOL - but seriously, I wish I had some sort of recording device and the ability to post the noise right now.
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
30 Sep 07
Hey...I'm one of those people already, so you can join the club. LOL
@casablynn (150)
• United States
29 Sep 07
That's a tough situation - I'm not sure I would offer to help if I was in your shoes. It can only be taken by your neighbors in a bad way I think.
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• Canada
29 Sep 07
You're right it's a toughie. Either they'd take it wrong or end up dumping the kids on my doorstep too often. Either way it wouldn't be good.