What do you think about love inter-cultural or inter-racial relationships?

@terrych (1227)
United States
September 28, 2007 11:24pm CST
Do you think that love can go over the cultural diferences? There are many things that you can agree but what about some that for you are details, but your partner they are not? Do you think that language and culture are barriers for love?
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@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
Yes, I agreed. Love is about matching style. In the inter-cultural, couple still needs time before they can each other to adapt. How about inter-racial, maybe more obstacles need to be match each side before the relation is really going through. But it's okay, every thing just needs time and patience.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I was thinking about that, if for couples that have the smae culture, same background many time it is to hard to understand each other, how harder it is for a couple with so many differences?
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@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
Different Culture usually is the major factor and this is very serious one. You might don't know when your partner having some prohibited stuff to do, while it's not matter to you. And verse. The other obstacles is about faith and religion. Are you ready to face something irregular (maybe) along your partnering journey? What will do if you both find problems regarding to this faith or religion stuff? The last part which the same important is about family. It needs time for your and partner's relatives to accept somebody who is "different" for them. It's just a weird to them. But don't worry, it's just about time. All will be match in time. Good luck, my dear.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I think it is hard to figure all this out, because I guess at the begining all is rose color... but then with time when all the butterflies are gone... you start to find all the differences... sounds complicated...
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@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
5 Oct 07
It isn't easy to be with someone of a different culture. They have different beliefs, rituals, and habits that you have to adapt to and that person has to adapt yo your lifestyle. Sometimes cultural differances are just too great and even love can't save a relationship. However, if you really deeply love one another and respect each other's cultures, you will find a way to get through the tough stuff and work through the differences. People should just know that it won't be smooth sailing because love never is even between people of the same culture. Add in vast differences of beliefs and possibly religion and it's going to be work to make it. However, love often knows no bounds and people of different cultures marry everyday and are very happy. You just have to find a middle ground between your culture and your love and they have to do the same. It definitely can work and I would go for it if I were in love with someone of a different culture. I am married but if I were not and I met someone I deeply loved, I'd give it a shot and work hard to find a balance and I am sure he would too.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Well you are right, same cultures, different cultures, always you will have some differences, because a couple is made of two different persons... I hope love go over all differences... Thanks for your answer dear!
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
5 Oct 07
My husband and I came from different cultures AND races, but it hasn't been an issue. My family were concerned, because there was some bigotry there. I told them that our love would get us through whatever trials came our way, and they thought I was naive. But that is exactly what has happened. We are married 43 years, but we both accept and endure, and race has been the smallest of our problems!
@terrych (1227)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Well that is really great, congratulations! I hope I can have a relationship with all the love you have... God Bless you! I wish you all the happiness!
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Thanks so much... a lot of good people have come into the family over the years, and we would have missed out on them if the bigotry had stood in the way. The what-ifs control too many people... I like to change 'what-ifs' into 'maybe-nots'! Its a freer way to live!
@terrych (1227)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Yes... good thinking...thanks again... Have a great weekend!
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• Algeria
6 Oct 07
LOVE has no barriers and no frontiers , there is no problem when there will be a couple comes from different backgrounds , I have a lot of friends who get married with alien wives from the countries where they work and they live so happily , so I don't believe people who thinks about things but who had done things , at least I guess so.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Thanks for your answer, I think aldo that love should be able to go over all differences...
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I don't think there's any problem with inter-racial or cultural relationships as long as both people are open minded to their differences and respectful of them.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Yes, I agree with you... but I am more concern, about things like religion, habits... and overall family acceptance...
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@fredgame (1264)
• China
1 Oct 07
there is a saying that 'love'has no bounds and it can break bounds without punishment. i think 'love'can defy all these barriers. though some have some sentiments about other races and other cultures, in the same community there are others who see nothing wrong and would love anyone she/she falls in love with. love only have barriers or hindrance when those concern are in doubt.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
1 Oct 07
I think that love it is the most important thing... but my question was beacuse not everybody think the same way... I am happy to read that there are more like me... thanks for your answer my friend!
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• Malaysia
1 Oct 07
if you truly love someone then language, culture, race, religion or any other matters, should not be an issue or barrier. But when in an inter-cultural or inter-racial relationship, the couple must know that they might face problems or that there are people who wouldn't approve of their relationship. they have to work together and stand by each other to try to overcome the problem. if they love each other, then they would not mind the obstacles that they have to go thru. but if only one of them is willing to preserve the relationship, then it could be difficult. i don't have anything against inter-cultural/racial relationship, in fact i admire those who are in that kind of relationship, and how their strength, courage and love for each other made their relationship possible.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
1 Oct 07
yeah, I agree with you... I also admire people who can go against the obstacles to have a happy life together... but does not mean that is a easy journey
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I don't think so as long as you are both willing to brace each others cultures. My husband is Colombian, I'm white. And my dads fiance is Mexican, she is definitely immersed more in her culture than my husband being that she only moved to America about five years ago. But they go to Mexico all the time, and my father is learning Spanish. When they go visit her parents he has a hard time because they don't speak English, but soon he will be fine once he learns there language. Some times it's hard for her to understand us because she doesn't know understand slang she only understands absolute perfect English, she's learning though. Ultimately they love each other, and have both put a huge effort into understanding each others different cultures. So I think they'll be fine as long as they continue to do this.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Thanks for your answer... Look like it is a lot of effort, but I think it worth it!
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@gradyslady (4056)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I think that no matter what, as long as you're in love with that person and you know that you want to be with them for the rest of your life, then that's great.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Yes... love, love, love... and maybe a lot of time, and patience to adapt... Families are big issue...
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@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
13 Oct 07
i think it doesn't matter as long as you can live with each other. even if you are of the same culture and cannot agree with each other, then there will always be a problem. i am married to a Chinese guy living here in the philippines. we live with my in-laws and we don't have a problem with them. i am filipino. they are chinese. and we're pretty good. but honestly, i can't imagine getting married with a white guy. primarily because i am tan, and he would be white. i am small, and i am positive that he would be a big guy because whites are always larger than asians. haha
@terrych (1227)
• United States
13 Oct 07
In some cases you can not tell people are from diferent cultures or diferents countries because when they are together they match so good... but it is not htat way in all cases...
• China
13 Oct 07
yeah, may be sometimes the culrural differences is indeed the barriers. but i insist that the true lovers should stay with each other no matter the differences of country or cultural. love have great power .nothing can beat it in the world. ture love is on the basis of feeling ,not words. one who have true love will endure all things. i have always been finding some foreign friends.but no opportunity. to date, i find this uesful media to commuicate with the outside world . perhaps ,i will find the foreign GF in the future.^~^
@terrych (1227)
• United States
13 Oct 07
I believe when you are in love you try to go over all those diferences, but after a while... like if you start living with a person in the day to day... I can be an issue to have diferent culture, diferents views of the world and life... But I hope the love go over anything!