what is a friend to you?

Philippines
September 30, 2007 3:47am CST
This word was actually harder to define than I thought it would be. To get started, I checked the dictionary that stated a friend is "a person who knows and likes another, a person who favours and supports and a person who belongs to the same side or group." By those definitions I have hundreds, maybe thousands, of friends, but I truly believe it goes beyond these definitions. A friend must do much more than like you. To me, a friend is someone who knows all about you and likes you anyway. Being a friend means more than recognizing that no one is perfect, it means accepting it. I , like most people, have many flaws. My true friends not only tolerate these weaknesses but also love me because of them. They either help me see them myself without dwelling on them or they even help me to overcome some of these weaknesses. A friend is someone who doesn't ask you to change but helps you to grow. The most important quality a friend can demonstrate is loyalty. This means standing by you when the going gets a little rough, not just in the good times, not letting others demean you in any way, and never taking advantage of you or treating you badly. Being supportive is yet another important quality in a friendship. This means cheering for you when things go your way, and being there during the bad times. Good friends allow you to make mistakes that you can learn from and forgive you for them. Loyalty, support, honesty and acceptance are so important to me that I would rather have 5 friends that fit my definition as opposed to 1000 "friends" that fit the dictionary definition. UNlike family, we choose our friends. If your "friends" aren't all of the things that are important to you, then you should ask yourself why are you calling them a friend. How about you what is a friend to you?
1 response
@laurika (4532)
• United States
3 Oct 07
The friend is for me that kind of person who can share everything with me and I can with them.Also the person who is able to support me and respect me and trust me.There is so much meaning in the word being friend and it is so strong.It is hard to say it by the words, I guess we just have to fell if somebody is real friend or not.If somebody is that right person to be called friend.