What Will You Do If You Found Out Your Husband Has A Child With Another Woman?

@emetha (69)
Philippines
October 4, 2007 12:28am CST
What if lately you found out that your husband has a new baby or has a child with a woman that you never met before and he kept it a secret from you. -.-
8 responses
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
4 Oct 07
if he already had the baby when he met me there wouldn't be such a big big problem...i could understand if he hides this,maybe he didn't want to loose me.but he had the baby after being together this is a serious problem so i would broke the relationship.my partner has a child with another woman,the baby was born 3 yerars before we met,he didn't had the courage to tell me in the begining but after 1 month he had to tell me because i spoke with his mother and what did she tell me made me asked him such a question and he had to tell me.he told me he couldn't tell me as he didn't want me to get scared
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
4 Oct 07
That happened to me too! We're still together after 23 years and that little girl he had is now a grown woman with a son of her own. But the exact same thing happened. My husband kept it from me at first thinking I would leave if I knew there a child involved. I didn't.
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
If the baby is older than our marriage or relationship, then it would be fine with me. Its his past and there is nothing I can do about it. But if the baby is during our relationship or marriage well, that would be a different thing. Because obviously he cheated on me. And he better give a good explanation on that.
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 07
Now it all depends on you... what about you?
@stsgiri (24)
• India
4 Oct 07
My suggestion:If a guy kept the matter as secret means and the lady has found that her husband has some cross relationship means she can try for the below 1. she make a drama that she also has some secret relationship with some guy(if guy is the person is having a mind set like he will realize the things when he was in opposite end)to make him realize what mistake he has done to his wife. 2. she can get divorce if she was not like to live with him after knowing that her husband was not a trustful person or something. 3. she can ask him to bring that women to home and live in same family.
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
4 Oct 07
it is a bad news. frankly, i will be very sad. what should i do? i will divorce with him and live a new life by myself. maybe i can find a new partner and live a happy life. frankly, i am not sure i must do it as i said if it really happend in my life.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
4 Oct 07
That actually happened to me. I was dating my husband and he was (still is, lol) several years older than me. I had no idea about his past. One day, we went to his grandmother's house to visit and she asked about a girl I'll call Tammy (not her real name). I sat there thinking, who is Tammy? I never heard that name before. She had a picture on her wall of a little girl but I honestly didn't connect it all. When we got in the car, it all sort of made sense and I asked him who Tammy was and he admitted he had been married before (I did know that but not much about it) and that he had a (then) 7 year old daughter! I was just a teen at the time and I was stunned. A daughter? Why would he not tell me about such a HUGE thing? He said he worried that I would not stay with him if I knew because I was only 19 and wasn't ready to deal with it all. Well, sheesh. That little girl is now 31 and she was a part of our lives from the start because I insisted that we see her and be with her. My husband wasn't sure if she would be better off with her mom and step dad or what. ANYWAY, if I found out NOW that my husband had a kid during our relationship and kept him or her hidden for obvious reasons, I honestly do not know what I would do. I would have to deal with the unfaithfulness first which I more than likely could not get past. Depends on the situation. If I chose to stay in the marriage, his child would be treated well by me. That child did nothing wrong. More than likely though, the infidelity and the hiding of the child would signal the end of my trust and our marriage.
• India
4 Oct 07
i would leave him or maybe even kill him but i would definetly leave him god knows what else he has hiding from me
@innechen (1322)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 07
Child - innocent child
well its a hard question, i never been in that situation, but if i am i might be very mad at him for lie.but i think i can accept it as long as the ex wife or child didnt disturb my married life, but also if his kid is a nice kid maybe i even will love to know the kid