What is your opnion about single parenthood?

Hi mimpi1911! I agree with you that adoption especially when you are single is very difficult. However, if one is really fit to have a child whether he or she is single or not, then she should be allowed to adopt. In my opinion, a child is better off with a single parent who is fit or could provide him or her a better future than to be left in an orphanage. Oh, there are many cons but it will always be outweighed with the pros. For me, what matters is that a child be given a good future with a responsible adult who is loving and caring. Besides, there so many single man and woman who have raised their children to be upright citizens, like my mother in law who was widowed at such a young age and was left with 4 children, ages 8,7,5,2. And those children grew into responsible adults and the eldest of them is my husband. Take care and have a nice day.

I think if he or she wants to,then if only it is accepted by law,then it should be admitted.I have seem a movie names warm spring,it was a story about an old man who adopted a young girl,and although the old man is very very poor,he tried his best to raise the girl,and at last,she entered college and went back to her village to devote her all life teaching children.it is a moved movie.but to be honest with you,I do not want to be a single parent.

Man and woman make a perfect company for a child and it is believed widely throughout the world that bringing up a single child itslef will create a lot of problem, as the child learns a lot from another child or in the company of a another child, besides picking up ways of life from the parents. Mother's love is most essential and I have not come across a man brining up a child. A very rare phenomenon. In this world any strange thing may be possible, but the outcome of the finished product is not guaranteed.

Well if by fate or chance one is a single parent I don't think it is a problem as far as I am concerned.You can make the child forget about the things that she or he is missing by your abundant love and care.There is no guarantee that a child with both the parents is completely happy.Even among the parents in many cases only a single parent knows the most about the child.So I personally think that the numbers don't count here.It is only the sincerely and love that matter.

i am single and i have four kids. being a single parent is good rather than having both parents that always quarrel and saying painful words that the kids hear. me and my children are okay and i hope their dad too who we dont know where he is, is i hope okay on what ever his life he is in now. me and my children had an abusive life with their dad so there is o reason for us to stay with him. but it always varries to what are thereasons why a parent wants or remains single even with kids.

if i would be a single parent i'll be proud of it! I was really thinking that if ever i couldnt find a decent guy i could just have a kid and bring it up myself. i know its hard but its worth it. My mom brought us up well. My parents got separated when i was 10yrs old. my dad wasnt responsible enough to shoulder some of his duties to us but then my mom brought us up not to hate our father though she hates him herself. hehehe! though if i could have a choice i would definitely want my kids to both have mom and dad to grow up with..

ls really ok , is nothing wrong at all, infact people should develop that habit ,cause we already have too many children in the globe today , yet some are suffering deprivation . lf you're capable and comfortable with the idea without looking at what your neighbours will say , why not .

If the single parent were willing to adopt an older child, that would be better and easier to do. I know that being a single parent is very hard. Harder than you might think. I have heard this from many of my friends who are single parents. You have to REALLY want this.

For one, adoption is really an expensive matter. And if a single person, male or female, decides to go through it; I believe he has to be ready not just financially; but more so, he should be emotionally capable, physically able, and mentally mature. He could hire a nanny for the child if he cannot take care of the adopted person himself. He may or may not end up being a single person or being left by his partner. He should be ready for this, too. For the advantage of adopting someone, I guess it would be for fulfillment of an individual. For instance, a woman who discovers she is incapable of bearing a child decides to adopt a child by herself will eventually fulfill her dream of experiencing motherhood.

Abortion can be complicated. Like some parents takes advantage of gullible people who wants to adopt. If you do want to adopt, best is to go through Legal adoption process to avoid any inconvenience. Many horror stories arises once the child and parents are bonded, the natural parents comes in and ask for more money. I think adoption agency looks for couples to adopt children but I think there were cases when individuals got a chance to adopt and raise the kids on their own. Its really a big sacrifice for an individual.

hi there mimpi1911 i am a single mother myself i think it is really hard sometimes on your own but it is worth it i love my kids so much thanks for this discussion

I think that if you can mentally and financialy support a child being single then more power to ya.. we need more people willing to adopt and wanting to adopt because more and more each year are given up to the state and deserve a loving family.. i know one pro would be.. growing up in a single home and the parent doing it all by himself/herself is showing the child that even by yourself you can be strong and handle things on your own,and take care of buisness to be self sufficient and independant:)

may be some one can be done itself to grow the children,but is better if children grow with mom and dad

I think we can not say whether a single man or woman can be a good parent or not, it depands on so many things. If a person with enough love and money is not luck enough to find the Mr or Miss Right at right time, we can not deprive the chance for he or she to be a good parent. I just feel that a child can change many things in one's life. Happiness and troublesome will come together, but it is really grandeur and prospective job. If I can not have my own child at my forty, and have enough money at that time, I will adopt a child and love him(her) as my own.

sometimes before, my twisted mind had planned myself to be a single mother, having my own baby without a husband. LOL my mother is a single mom and i would give justice to her by saying that she was able to raise the four of us siblings all by herself without any support from our father. and she's actually still taking care of us plus her grandchildren. i give all my kudos to her. i also know a lot of single parent, some of them my friends and they are fairly doing well. but i am not saying that these are the reasons why i wanted to be a single mother. the reason is kinda silly.. ^__^;; i just can't imagine myself waking up everyday seeing the same face beside me, living my life everyday with the same person.. it's kind of tiring. LOL but somewhere, somehow, i realized its not just about me. it will also be about the kids. and i know for sure it will be hard to raise a kid all by myself. however, i do not criticize those who wants to adopt children. i just think that they should first check their readiness- mentally, emotionally, maturity, and financially. raising a child is not a joke, its a big thing, thousands of responsibilities lie in it. if they think they can face all the pros and cons, all the hardships and complications, then they should also be ready to accept whatever outcome there will be. ^__^

Hey mimpi, i think that almost everyone wants a partner to have kids with, but there ar some situations when it won't work out, and then there is that big question that you just asked: Do i have the right to be a single parent or not? I think that everyone has the right to be a parent if they are mentaly stable, can handle it finencially and have some male friends or family, so the child can have access to both worlds. I think that yes single people have the right to have a child. It won't be easy, but no one can tell anyone that he does not have the right to have this precious gift- a child, just because he does not have a partner.

I admire single parents. I admire their strength and sense of responsibility and love for "their" child for having to raise them alone even if the child is not their own. Although there are pros and cons still. Pros would be they are able to help and fulfill a child's dream of having a parent and living in a real home and experiencing love and happiness for real and so is the "parent" who adopted the child. It would also be a fulfilling emotion to experience having a child. Cons would be that you're single and alone and you have to work extra hard for the both of you. And you have to work double also as a parent. You have to be both a mother and a father to your child which is kinda hard. I have nothing against single parents or being a single parent but I would prefer not to be one. :)

It really is a very tough challenge for any individual. It requires a very strong determination and perseverence to "successfully" handle and accomplish the task of single parenthood. PROs;- 1. The parent will be independent and free to take decisions about the child's future. Even s/he can consult the elders before taking a step forward in any matter concerning the child. Whatever it is, the final decision will be of the parent and nobody would & could object it. On the contrary, this cannot always happen if the child has both the parents, they will have different opinions at times and it might result in quarrels. Such scenarios regularly happening at home can have a bad impact on the child's mind and even affect his/her normal mental growth. 2) When a parent is single-handedly raising his child, there will be public sympathy and so s/he might get the help from others( can be friends, relatives, acquaintainces and even from strangers, occassionally). This will be better ensured with time, given the parent is not of a careless type. CONs;- 1) The parent needs to sacrifice a lot. Its not a matter of one or two days, but of decades. Atleast, till the child reaches the age of majority( 18 in most countries), it is completely and solely the parent's responsibility and if its a girl that is being reared, the period of care-taking might extend beyond that. The difficult part is, the parent will not have much freedom and might need to suppress his/her desires of certain types. Single-parenthood also might hinder one's professional achievements. It is a *must* that the parent has to end all his/her vices. But, i guess, once an individual gets used to this type of sober lifestyle, it won't annoy as much as it initially does. 2) All the blame goes to the single parent, provided the child gets spoilt or turns out to be an anti-social element like - For e.g; Naxalite, earlier or later in age. The society blames only and only that sole-parent of the child, S/he will be held even more responsible than the original parents who did nothing but giving birth to the child, in case of an adopted one. Every parent, if not every, most parents try their level-best to make their child a respectable citizen. If everything goes well, fine, otherwise, they will have to pay a heavy price for a mistake undone. Infact, there are many more PROs and CONs, if you think deep, but its already too long, i suppose. I'm pretty sure that there are more CONs than PROs. But, if one is ready to strive sufficiently, its not all that difficult to be a proud single-parent. As for your last question, NO, i would not like to be a single-parent. I wish to focus more on my career and scale heights professionally, so i feel it's unethical to take up this task of single-parenthood and not do justice to it, as it needs more time to be devoted.

single parent,it is terrible and means a nightmare to children.Some days before,i saw a TV news about some man adopt the abandon babies,it is a very moving repotr.Bringing up a child single ,i think it has not pros at all,it only jusl will bring harm to child,make they feel lonely,or self-abased,If the parents love their children indeed,i trust nobody would like to be a single parent.

Even after adopting a child life is not easy. It requires considerable will power , devotion , sencerity to the child to do justice to the task. Child needs love & affection of both mother & father.