Should i file my freedom?

Philippines
October 17, 2007 2:42am CST
I'm a simple woman naive from the remote province of my country philippines wrongly married a man whom had battered me for a no cause and soon i discover he's a womanizer and an alcoholic. i finally made my decision to file a legal separation but my fear is overwhelming and i need your support to conquer it all and to stand for my rights and to my child. Wish me luck that i can make it through all of these.
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8 responses
• Philippines
17 Oct 07
Welcome to mylot. I think the best way you could do is to file a case against your husband. It is reasonable to file a case against him because you have this reason. You were being battered for no reason, which is really unethical. He is not really a good husband; I hope you will not get mad if I say this to you. I am just telling the truth and you have to move quickly as soon as possible before it is too late. What you can do right now is to have with you a friend or any of your family members to guide you with these things. Psychological counseling is applicable for you at this moment. You can accuse him for being an abusive husband if he still tries to batter you. I hope you will be able to solve your problem. Just have faith with God, as he is merciful and would really help you at times of your needs and troubles. God bless you always and take care!
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@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 07
If there is no other way for solution finding, you need third party to settle your marriage status case. Third party that can take you to the appropriate legitimate course. If it falls to wrong party, it will exacerbate the worse situation. Supporting you, for sure we are on your side even though we do not know each other, because I hate humiliation. And now you have to support yourself with verve hold and decision making. Ultimatum or annulment on one's marriage life, there are legal flow processes that you have to abide by. If you are ready for that, your parents and siblings support your move and your physical safety, no need to wait and please proceed. Make your new life with your child. Do not make living in active volcanic area, make your move to the safe zone.
• Philippines
17 Oct 07
Yes, i am on the move to process the situation in a legally and orderly action anonymously, but i'm in the period of hesitation and confusion regarding the matter,thinking for the outcomes and the impact regarding financial support that i've been needed durimg the promulgation to sustain our daily needs , should i pursue my legal actions towards this?should i confront any women organization to do the counsel and any institution that can help me do this.anyway thanks for the immediate response to my situation. God bless us all and more power to you..
@foxygirle (377)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
good decision. man like that dont need woman like you. once his done abusing you, he'll start with your child, better get out before the child suffers too. Stay strong and keep praying.
• Malaysia
17 Oct 07
hey good luck! i hope everything will work out for you. you made the right decision to leave him. it's better to get out of this kind of relationship. take care and hope all is well! :)
• Philippines
17 Oct 07
Hi cielicesky I would like to congratulate you by doing that but please dont pretend to be happy, enjoy your life with your children, I know god will guide you on your journey in life. . . . GOD bless you my friend and be brave what ever trials will come into your life....
• India
17 Oct 07
apart from luck, I would also wish you financial stability. The world is very cruel towards women in general and more so to uninitiated women like you who have never been out of the confines of her home and faced the cruelty of the outside world. and on top of that you have a child to support whose education and future upbringing should be of prime concern to you. we women do so much for these men and this is how they treat us. part of me wants to laud your brave steps and the part that inspite of being from a backward province, you have shown enough courage to speak for yourself, yet part of me wants you to be very careful and think again before you go for the final separation. the world doesnt treat a single woman properly, more so a simple woman like you. look at all the pros and cons and then take your decision. my best wishes for you and for your child.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
17 Oct 07
Hi cielicesky! It is a good thing that you have filed for separation. I will be praying for you and I hope you will find inner strength for your sake and your child as well to fight and stand for your rights. No woman deserves to be abused and beaten and be treated like that. You've done the right thing dear and soon you will see that there is so much beauty and happiness awaiting you and your child. take care and have a beautiful life. God bless!
@lilaclady (28238)
• Australia
17 Oct 07
I wish you all the luck possible, no woman should have to put up with abuse, every single person is given one life to live, it is up to each and every person to live that life as happily as possible, life is short, we are not here for ever so live it the best youcan, always remember women are equal to men, you are equal to everyone else so love yourself and your child by enjoying the gift of the life you have been given and do what ever you have to do for the happiness of yourself and your child....take care my friend and be happy....