If you were truly honest what comes first?

United States
October 21, 2007 6:45pm CST
If you were to be truly honest what comes first, your job or your family. I used to think my family until I stopped to reflect on things after a 20+ year career of 12,14 & 16 hour work days. What I realized was my job really came first and it kind of made me sad to think of all the things I missed while trying to push up that corporate ladder. Yes we all need money and we can all "say" we work the hours we do because of our families. When it is all said and done what do we have to show for it? We missed our kids growing up and so many important things and we worked our whole lives making other people rich. At the beginning of this year I made the choice to truly put my family first and try to make the money I needed while being there for my family. You know what? It is working and I am happier than I have ever been. If I want to work 14 hours (which I never do) I do it right here at home with my wife and kids. DO you really put your family first or do you "justify" your career and hours by saying it is for your family?
3 responses
@noriko (1254)
22 Oct 07
i am married and i have a 21 months old baby. and my hubby is the one woking and i am a stay home mom. if ever the time comes that i need to work then i will. its for my childs future and education but if my husband doesnt want me to work well it is okay as long as he can provide everything we need.
• United States
22 Oct 07
hold on a sec? you said you husband does not want you to work? is it you do not need to wrk or your husband does not want you to work. Don't get me wrong I love that a mother can be home with her child but hearing something like 'He doesnt want me to work seems a little like you want to but aren't allowed to. Could be reading into it but that's how it sounded.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
as at the moment i dont want to work for i want to be a hands on mom. i dont know yet if my husband will let me work or not. we havent talked about that yet but if ever my husband would not allow me to work and its okay for me as long as he can provide but if he cant provide then he doesnt want me to work then thats a different thing. but i know my husband, if ever i want to work he will not tell me not to, he will be supportive of me. he always want me to do something that would make me happy.
@noriko (1254)
22 Oct 07
ohh i am sorry i wan using my friends computer i didnt notice that she was the one who is on line, i comment and didnt realize that i was using her page sorry.
@men82in (1270)
• India
22 Oct 07
First honest to job so that you can upkeep your family in all sorts. Dishonest in job create slackness for your future adventures in your business or profession. Secondly be a true to your family without hiding anything.
@angemac23 (2005)
• Canada
21 Oct 07
I work to live, not live to work! Work should never come in front of life, and that includes, friends and family and the things that you enjoy doing outside of work like hobbies and interests. we only get one chance to live, and I think its a waste to spend that time working especially if you are only making someone else rich! Unfortunately many people dont see it this way, and they put work in front of everything else to make more money. I personally dont mind not making a lot of money if it means enjoying my life and the people and things in it that make me happy. I hope your new found realization works out for you as you are one of the lucky ones who didn't realize it too late!