Your kids and his kids

United States
October 28, 2006 4:02am CST
What are some ways to keep the peace between step-brothers and step-sisters. How do you keep them from getting hurt or mad about what the other one brings home after being at the other parents house. I don't know how to keep the peace between them anymore, and it is going to break my husband and I up.
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@sabrinam (1204)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I think this is depending on their age, but I think you should just be honest with them and say look, there's nothing I can do about what (insert child name) gets elsewhere, just like there's nothing I can do about what you buy with your own money, or what you listen on the radio, or what color socks you wear and if they're teenagers, ask them to be adults about it and don't be ridiculous, because really after about 9 they can understand the concept of you not being able to control other people. Not only that, but you can tell them that they don't have the right to question how you decide to handle things and I think it's okay to put your foot down and demand respect about the situation and no more questions or fits or stupid things like that, because it is stupid and they don't have a right to make your life hard about it. It might be mean, but realistically, when else are they going to have it this good in life? Where they get to act stupid about what someone else gets? They shouldn't do it now either. Remind them how hard you guys work to give them what they have and to be thankful and not greedy. My son acts greedy sometimes and kids have to be told that they don't control things, you do. I know, I'm long winded, lol.
@sabrinam (1204)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I was raised in step families and my siblings acted stupid, I'm a middle kid :) so I didn't get any attention and just dealt with it, and that's the best way, just deal with it. My mom was married four times after I was born and had a few boyfriends in between, so I think you just take control of the situation, because my dad always told me I had no right to question the adults that made life comfortable for me so I didn't (even thought it was about my mom, lol), and I turned out pretty good I think.