October 24, 2007 6:03am CST
As a mother, I feel the best way to handle teenage turmoil is to make the teenager independant which is the quality they crave for. The more self-capable we make them feel, the less hostile they are towards us. A wise parent sympathetically watches the drama of growth, but resists the desire to intervene too often.
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• United States
24 Oct 07
Yes it is important to make a teenager feel they are in control of their lives. I just let my daughter know that I am here for her to talk to and that I am always open to listening. I do however give her choices in things, such as permission to do something. I give her two choices, it makes her feel like she still has control over her life and I get what I need from her. Such as if she asks me to stay out longer, I tell her, well, you have two choices, you can stay out as late as you want, but you will be grounded for a week, if you choose to come home at your scheduled time you won't be grounded and you will be able to enjoy your privileges. So she will decide to come home at her scheduled time, but sometimes we do negotiate her staying out later to show that I am willing to work with her.