Seperation Anxiety??

United States
October 26, 2007 2:55pm CST
My 16 mo old cannot be away from me for a second! This only seems to be a problem for my husband because she is fine with my gram and my mom but if we are at home and I go to the store and she is alone with him then she freaks out and throws a tantrum and he cannot calm her down until I get back. Now she is around me and my grandma the most because he was working full time but now he got laid off and is at home more. Can anything be done about this because it is really upsetting my husband?
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
26 Oct 07
My son went through a stage where he was kind of like that. What we did, was leave him in the same room as my husband, but while I was still home. For instance, I would be in the kitchen cooking, while they played in my son's room with the door closed. If he asked for me, my husband would tell him I was in the other room. We started out only a few minutes at a time. Now he doesn't even blink an eye when I leave him with Daddy. Leaving him with anyone else is another story completely, though.
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• United States
29 Oct 07
we do try that but she will just follow me around and go to wherever I am.
• United States
27 Oct 07
This is exactly why my mother had herself and my grandmother raising me from the day I was born. My grandmother practically raised me, she was my second mother, and so I never went through seperation anxiety with them.
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• India
26 Oct 07
Children always get used to one parent more than the other in that age, that is what i have observed. My daughter clings to me all the time and though her dad is willing to do everything, she won't go to him if I am around, but if I am not there, she will stay with him for some time. You should start with leaving your baby with her father for 15 minutes or so first and than see how it goes.
@mansha (6301)
• India
26 Oct 07
May be instead of leaving your child at home with him, try taking her out along with you and your hubby to a park and let her mix with other toddlers, father can play with her ball games or just be on swings with her. that will help the child overcome her fear of him. do not force her let her approach him on her own free will and try leaving her with him for only five minutes the slowly increase time. play peek a boo kind of games with her that will help her to let go of you. just make sure you are there for her even beofre she starts getting anxious about you missing. slowly ease her in to seprating from you for longer and longer periods- she will do fine.
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