i'm suffering from emotional love stress.
By fredgame
@fredgame (1260)
China
October 26, 2007 10:44pm CST
This girl i found and within a short time made me to give my heart to her and when she consulted her parents they objected to our relationship for what reason i can't tell. Now we've stopped meeting each other meanwhile i can't stop think of her as we both work in the same school and i see her everyday that puts more emotional stress on me. i don't know what to do. she used to call me and we're often together.
i've been trying to forget of it but it doesn't yield result at all. what should i do? has anybody faced such a situation before? share yours.
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9 responses
@dajiale (108)
• China
27 Oct 07
It depends, the reason is very important, does she knows this reason? If you love her, you should persuade her parents. And if you think the reason is right for you to apart, you should persuade the girl not to be together but be good friends! I think you know the answer!
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
27 Oct 07
Well I am sorry for your situation right now. I am lucky that I didn't have such an experience as you are having now. I think that there must be some reason that the girl's parents don't agree with you both for the further relationship. Anyway if it is that hard for you both to keep the relationship, you could just be good friends, dear fredgame. I wish you lucky, friend.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
28 Oct 07
Hello fredgame. Well I think that you could be right about this. But if your girlfriend is brave enough to let her parents know about the true love between you both and try to persuade them for this, I think that there is still possibility of success. Why not try? Good luck, friend.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
27 Oct 07
No, I've never been rejected by a girl's parents. And I think being rejected by the girl's parents is no reason to stop loving. How old is this girl? If she's above 18 she should be making decisions of her own. There are many ways to love our parents other than letting them control our lives.
@comeonmolly (828)
• China
28 Oct 07
If I were in ur shoes,I will listen to my heart ,if my heart tells me that this girl worth me treasure and I am really very very with this kind of girl ,I am sure I will try my best to grasp her no matter what difficulties have confronted with me ,there is always a belif with in my deep heart that is if love exist everything exist of course I don't care whether her parents object or not ,the only thing I know is that I love tjis girl ,I will use my actions to touched her parents.
If my heart tells me that this girl is not the girl I love ,then I will give up the relations with her,and fine another girl who suits me well...
This is just my personal opinion,what steps u should do is all depend ur heart...ok,just listen to what ur heart really tells....
Good luck to u....
Molly..^-^
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
27 Oct 07
Give her silence a time limit, let say a week or two or how long are you willing to give. Then after that if she is still can't figure out on what her decision is or if she can't still tell you what's going on then it's time for you to call or send her a message informing that you want a formal closure so each of you can finally move on with life. I know fredgame, your situation is not easy. It's better said than doing it. I was in almost the same situation with you before and I know how painful it is. Right now, all you have to do is know what's the real score between the two. If she said quits then let her go. Mourn for the lost love but always remember to find ways to move on with your life. Soon, you will just wake up one day without the pain in your heart and you are back to normal again. Just remember, open communication is the most important tool in whatever type of relationship, absence of that can paralyzed the relationhip.
@lizzzzzzzzz (12)
• Philippines
27 Oct 07
as for my opinion as a girl, maybe she just needs time to think about stuffs. it's such a cliche, but it's true. realizations take time.
i'm in the same situation but i've been coping with it really well. though i get to see him almost everyday (we have the same group of friends).
just don't push yourself that you need to forget it very soon. it won't really work. give yourself 'time' as well. it would hurt really and there's nothing one can't to about it but to completely accept it, be optimistic and at the same time realistic. do stuffs with your friends just to ease your feelings of stress. it would work. do some new sports (i joined a dragonboat team). anything where you can release your feelings of tensions and stress. but don't forget to have time for yourself. to have time for some reflection and stuffs. :)
@AnoChaudhary (1719)
• India
27 Oct 07
Hello Fred that is very sad situation to be in but you have not mentioned the reason so maybe you were not able to find out from her parents. But whatever the reason is no two people who love each other should be kept apart. So please go ahead and talk to her :) All the best. No i was never in a situation like that but i know how you be feeling.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
27 Oct 07
Maybe you should try to talk to your girlfriend about your situation If she is willing to be with in spite her parents is against to you. If she really loves you and you both love each other you must fight for the love that you have and wait for the right time to be together.
@lalchetian (410)
• India
27 Oct 07
I have been lucky not to be such a horrible situation . now as you have not specified the reason not much can be sayed .but i can certainly say you something that may be helpful to you don't try to forget something trying demands recalling and thats what we don't want. bye may you succed and have a life of rosses
