Keeping up with the neighbors - or not

United States
October 28, 2007 8:51pm CST
Do you have neighbors that you envy? Maybe they have a perfect marraige when you lost your significant other to death or divorce...or they have a nicer car, house or toys. Or do you thank goodness you're not them - maybe they fight all the time, or one cheats, or one abuses the other or the kids...or they have rusted cars and trash all over their yard? Or maybe you like your neighbors - you're neither envious of them or grateful you're not them. Maybe you just enjoy them, the socialness they give or the privacy you receive from them.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
29 Oct 07
Nothing is as good or as bad as it appears when you are on the outside looking in.
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• United States
29 Oct 07
Um how true. So what about you, care to participate? Do you envy your neighbors or are you grateful that you're not them. Or do just take them as they are and enjoy your life?
• United States
29 Oct 07
LOL @ Artemis.
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• United States
30 Oct 07
What can I say Baleigh - its an epidemic!
@subathra (3519)
• India
30 Oct 07
Our neighbours are very nice people to move with..when we had our elder brothers marriage they are the first ones to help us in making the function go on very well..they did the traditional things of marriage which is a custom in our country before the groom leave to the religious place..as we dont have much relatives nearby our residence they helped us a lot.. even when we were returning from our native place where the marriage took place they decorated our house and waiting in front to welcome the bride and groom..
• United States
27 Jun 08
Wow they sound like great neighbors - I would be though - its a karmic thing - you're likely great neighbors yourselves!
@lc23112 (33)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I cannot say there haven't been times in my life that I haven't envied a neighbor; but it would never last long. That ole saying, "The grass is always greener on the other side"; is so true. We may think someone has a wonderful life, husband, wife, kids...etc, until you find out that they are just as normal (if there is a such thing as normal..hehe) and have issues like the rest of us. I grew up and realized that "keep up with the jone's" is not only difficult but stupid. Be thankful for what you have and that I am. I have 5 beautiful children, a loving husband, more "things" than some people and maybe not as much "stuff" as others, but who cares? Not me, because we still have each other and that is better than any "thing" in the world.
• United States
30 Oct 07
Its very true - in the end its not what you have but whose lives you've touched and whose lives touched yours. What about the second part - are you ever glad you're not one of your neighbors - or do you fall fully into the third category of my discussion: - you're neither envious of them or grateful you're not them. Maybe you just enjoy them, the socialness they give or the privacy you receive from them.
@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
I used to think about these negative things back then, since we are just a plains and simple family. I thought about it and keeps on thiking what makes us different aside from not being those "have-lots" family, and I realized that we are more blessed than they are spiritually and emotionally. They maybe stable, they might have something that we don't possess. But one thing is sure, they are still the same like us (humans). I also found out that they are not good in dealing with problems, they always use money or their influences to solve whatever peers they have. They cannot face problems, some of them even end up as broken families. But most of my neighbors are in good terms with me, since it's always nice to have someone to rely on when "emergency" happens.
• United States
30 Oct 07
Hi raijin! Long time no see. Sounds like the last part of my statement applies to you then!
@talisman (1308)
• United States
29 Oct 07
None of those things apply to us when it comes to our neighbors. We leave our neighbors alone, they leave us alone. If we see eachother outside, we may chat or say hi, but that's it. The only problem I have with any neighbors are the ones below us (we live in an apartment). They invent problems that they supposedly have with us and complain the manager. For example, we apparently have a dog and are always making tons and tons of noise. The reality is, we don't have pets and are actually very quiet people. They're the only ones that ever complain.
• United States
30 Oct 07
How annoying to have neighbors hat invient things about you. Or maybe you like your neighbors - you're neither envious of them or grateful you're not them. Maybe you just enjoy them, the socialness they give or the privacy you receive from them. I have to point out that you're wrong though - the last line of my discussion applies to you: Or maybe you like your neighbors - you're neither envious of them or grateful you're not them. Maybe you just enjoy them, the socialness they give OR the PRIVACY you receive from them. :)
• China
29 Oct 07
i think it is important to keep up with neighbors. why? do you think it is more helpful from the neoghbours. and it is the reson. we live socially so we need more help from others especailly now there are few people in the family.
• United States
30 Oct 07
Although I appreciate your response, I have no idea whawt it means or how it relates to my topic. However - its not too late! You can still participate in my discussion! :) Here's this particular discussion once again: Do you envy your neighbors or are you grateful that you're not them?
• United States
29 Oct 07
Hiya Artemis! There is a couple that Im so glad we are nothing like! Ugh, thank goodness they are in the process of moving right now! The landlord has asked them to leave, and I can certainly see why! We live in a rather nice upper middle class neighborhood. Its quiet, and they are dramatic. Im just not sure where to begin here! lol When we first moved in, they came to the door one evening, the both of them asking me for a ride. Well, not wanting that to be the start of frequent rides, I said no. He was really polite about to tell me it was ok, and she got in a huff and wanted to know why. I think they were drunk. She would come over every few months after that and ask for a ride, or to use the phone. So much for not wanting to start something! LOL Not long ago we were coming home from a dentist appt. and we couldnt pull the truck up in the drive because it was full of police. He was in the parking area in the back where we park with blood all over his back and arm telling the cop it was "nothing". She had stabbed him, repeatedly. She threatened one of our other neighbors and her daughter that she would kill them both. The trash is always full of vodka bottles, so I think they have a drinking problem. The reason for all the drama. Just last weekend, the State Police came and arrested her about 1am for a warrant of some kind. The neighbor that got threatened was telling me about all the commotion I had missed, she lives across the hall from them, I live in the front set of apts. So as you can see, Im glad we are nothing like them! I think that about wraps it up! lol Bay xx
• United States
30 Oct 07
Wow. We lived in a great apartment before moving on base. My husband didn't know it was a bad neighborhood. Its right near the base, right next to a school, their are families in the neighborhood. The building is locked and has a great indoor pool in the great room and upstairs are charis, couches, bookcases and pooltables. There's a jacuzzi and a gym. We had really sweet elderly neighbors. Yet the police were always there asking to be let in. One day a swat team was outside on a loudspeaker asking everyone to please stay inside. However nothing beats a neighbors who stab each other and get drunk and ask you for rides. I would never let them in my car or house! Wow. Wow.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
29 Oct 07
I do not envy my neighbors's possessions, because I have the love of God in my heart and all their decorations, bags of orange and green filled with leaves, their nice houses do not cause my to wish I had what they had. We are all working class and middle class that have risen from working class in this neighborhood, and I have never heard anyone swear or yell at their wives and kids. So there is nothing to be envious of them, on the other hand there is another family who goes to the same church as I do, and they and I are grateful that God has chosen us, and we wish our neighbors would go to church and learn about God as well.
• United States
29 Oct 07
So rather then being envious or judgemental of neighbors - instead, it sounds like you wish them well, and wish the same blessings as you yourself have.
@tlb0822 (1414)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Our neighbors are relatively quite. We just moved in, so i don't want to jump to a direct conclusion, but they seem like a peaceful couple. We've only spoken with them twice about our dogs, and the hunting that happens in the game lands behind our house. I think that people who live in the country like we do usually keep to their selves. Its always nice to have a pleasant neighbor.
• United States
30 Oct 07
It is always nice to have pleasant neighbors.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I've never been envious of my neighbors to be honest...actually I'm in the category of "thank goodness I'm not like them" group....my one neighbor is quite literally a nutcase..LOL--all right she does have severe emotional problems, which reflects in how she lives...she's the hoarder type and can't throw anything out..literally...she has garbage all over the place..literally..she was threatened with eviction as her apartment was cited as both as health and fire hazard..so no envy with the way she is or lives..I have another bit of a nutcase neighbor too...and wouldn't trade my life with hers either...If anything, since I've lived here for so long and so have many of my neighbors in the building, I think some may actually be envious of me since everything has fallen into my lap so to say and am very well and have survived a lot of upheavals...maybe that Law of Attraction thing?? :) Like the first neighbor I mentioned ..she might be envious of me ...she must think I'm rolling dough as it seemed there for awhile every time I bumped into her I had just come from a shoe shopping thing, and she was goggling and noticing my packages --there had been a discussion I had made about how people can come up with wrong conclusions about a person...and this was true of her..as one day I bumped into her, this was sometime after my mom had passed away, and all of a sudden she blurted out, "Well, you're doing really great for yourself...gee, didn't your mom leave you $100,000..." I wanted to laugh in her face...and didn't tell her the actual "fortune" I had gotten which was only a little over $5,000, enough to bury my mom and some more bills...but I didn't tell her that...Somehow, though, I think she still thinks I have this massive fortune hidden somewhere..LOL...She has lived her life with the "poor" mouth syndrome and lives "poor"...So I guess she's envious of me, since I don't...frugally yes, I know how to make my money stretch, but doesn't mean I live like a pauper...and for that she's envious of me Sorry..rattling on here..LOL...