How do you deal with you anger? I just shut up for whole day...

United States
October 28, 2007 11:34pm CST
My husband complains that I stop talking when I am angry . He thinks that it shuts the communication and he has no way to find out what I am angry about. How do you deal with your anger?
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@KrisNY (7592)
• United States
12 Nov 07
I usually will talk about it if it is with my family- but if I’m at work and I’m mad- I won’t talk either- I just turn on my music and stick to myself- The day drags on- but I feel better anyways- Your husband is smart- my sig. other would just say- oh she is mad and will get over it- if I don’t talk to him. : )
• China
1 Nov 07
i always do the samne like you when i get angry .when i have a bad mood,i do not say a word until i become better,some of my friends advised me not do that ,it will affect communication with others.but every coin has two sides,am i right?
• India
31 Oct 07
well i just take it at whom i am angry with it i know its a bad behaviour but what to do
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
i usually get angry not for too long, maybe less than an hour, then there this thing came into my mind, on why did i got angry, i got this called conscience, so i dont get angry often...
@diillu (5128)
29 Oct 07
I also totally shut my mouth down whenever I'm angry. Cause I know that when I'm angry if I open my mouth then there's always going to be a big mess. I usually keep many things to myself. I just don't tell to anybody and when I"m angry it just all comes out from my mouth. So, usually when I'm angry I tell so awfull things. So, I just shut my mouth and not talk in order to avoid the bigger mess.
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
When i'm angry i also don't want to talk to the person i'm angry at. I have to let the steam blow out a little by being alone first. I think it's the best thing to do because oftentimes i tend to say nasty things when i'm flaring up. These are the times when i apply the rule: less talk less mistakes. I don't want to end up feeling guilty. You can never take back hurting words and sometimes that can only worsen the situation.
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
I can control my anger very well. But sometimes, I just can't deal it anymore. I just keep quiet for a while and then cry in an empty room. I don't want people to know that I am angry with them. :)
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I'm the same way to a certain point. If I am just angry I shut myself down and refuse to talk, which makes my husband even angrier...but, if i am so angry that i'm crying it's gonna be bad. It's very strange, but I can't just talk out being aggravated or being angry unless i'm so mad that I start to cry and then anything and everything comes out of my mouth and i don't shut up. LOL!