Bickering among children reflect on parents' disposition.

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Do you ever notice that if you're having a really terrible day, your children seem to fight more? Just like music and colour affects your moods, there is so much truth in how your attitude affects others around you. Mood is defined as a state of feeling. If you are feeling depressed, you set a depressed mood around you and for those in your presence. Same goes for a cheery kinda person. Ever heard the expression: Smile! It's contagious! Now who can argue that? Ever try to stay in a bad mood when someone is being goofy? It's only a matter of minutes until you burst out into laughter! However, if you're really stubborn and refuse to give in by simply walking away, or worse, start yelling, you are causing yourself so much unnecessary stress and grief! Now if you're a parent, especially a parent to more than one child, you know that bickering is a normal part of growing up. However do we, as stressful busy human beings feed to our children's fire? Do we instil so much anxiety and trauma in our lives, in our homes, that it affects our own children's moods AND health? By my own admission, I'm not a perfect parent and I am stressed to the max! Our home has been a stressful atmosphere in the past... ummm... 8 years!?! My children argue excessively! I've blamed our lifestyle, our past, and day-to-day troubles but the real problem always comes back to ME! MY attitude, MY health, MY strength, MY ability to relieve stress, MY smile, MY approach... My children came home today in a good mood. I, myself, was in a good frame of mind. My children are outside RIGHT NOW flying a kite! TOGETHER! I mean co-operatively! It's a beautiful sight and yes, I've captured this rare moment on video. I'm not saying that parents who are stressed are bad parents, I'm saying that we all have the ability to be AWESOME parents if we let go of our stress, our attitudes and our grumpiness. If your children are having a bad day, do an attitude check... on yourself :)