Bickering among children reflect on parents' disposition.
October 29, 2007 1:33pm CST
Do you ever notice that if you're having a really terrible day, your children seem to fight more? Just like music and colour affects your moods, there is so much truth in how your attitude affects others around you. Mood is defined as a state of feeling. If you are feeling depressed, you set a depressed mood around you and for those in your presence. Same goes for a cheery kinda person. Ever heard the expression: Smile! It's contagious! Now who can argue that? Ever try to stay in a bad mood when someone is being goofy? It's only a matter of minutes until you burst out into laughter! However, if you're really stubborn and refuse to give in by simply walking away, or worse, start yelling, you are causing yourself so much unnecessary stress and grief! Now if you're a parent, especially a parent to more than one child, you know that bickering is a normal part of growing up. However do we, as stressful busy human beings feed to our children's fire? Do we instil so much anxiety and trauma in our lives, in our homes, that it affects our own children's moods AND health? By my own admission, I'm not a perfect parent and I am stressed to the max! Our home has been a stressful atmosphere in the past... ummm... 8 years!?! My children argue excessively! I've blamed our lifestyle, our past, and day-to-day troubles but the real problem always comes back to ME! MY attitude, MY health, MY strength, MY ability to relieve stress, MY smile, MY approach... My children came home today in a good mood. I, myself, was in a good frame of mind. My children are outside RIGHT NOW flying a kite! TOGETHER! I mean co-operatively! It's a beautiful sight and yes, I've captured this rare moment on video. I'm not saying that parents who are stressed are bad parents, I'm saying that we all have the ability to be AWESOME parents if we let go of our stress, our attitudes and our grumpiness. If your children are having a bad day, do an attitude check... on yourself :)
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30 Oct 07
You are so right. When my sons were growing up it seemed my mood set the environment. If I was in a good mood we had a lot of fun. If I felt down everyone seemed a little sadder. I don't remember their fathers moods effecting us all so much. But for some reason mine set the stage. Needless to say we had a lot of good times. I used to be pretty upbeat when I was younger but anymore I seem to have mellowed out. Must be my age LOL. Or maybe it is because the boys are grown now and I don't have them to kid around with as much. Hubby isn't always a lot of fun LOL.
30 Oct 07
Thank you for sharing! I'll always remember the day I had to pack and I was NOT in a good mood but the only way to get the job done was ... to do it! So I told my daughter in a piraté-kinda-voice: Argh, me's goin' to find me ol' treasures in thy closet! It was the best afternoon I spent with my kids LOL and we found all sorts of treasures! Had I not switched my mood around and tied a hankerchief around my head, we never would have had such a great afternoon!