My soon to be sister-in-law is driving me Crazy!

@tlb0822 (1414)
United States
October 30, 2007 9:18am CST
my soon to be sister-in-law is seriously driving me up a wall. She is a single mother, who doesn't seem to have a clue on how to get her life on track. Every day it is something new. I know family is family but she is defiantly taking it a little far. My fiance loves his sister, but she treats him like she is married to him. I tend to call her his second wife. Its always can you do this, or that on a constant bases. Sometimes she doesn't even ask she just tells him. For example she needed a babysitter...instead of asking she calls him and says you have kyra at 2 so i can go to work. Excuse me but what if we had plans. Any one else have this problem or am i alone in this area?
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@menctomas (278)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
I had the same sort of problem before. We were just newly wed and for the first two years, it was hard to get a life together going because his life more or less revolved around theirs still. However, time usually does its thing and he will eventually get his full attention. it was hard really because at first, it was an effort to get along, however, now, they treat me like their real daughter..
@meholl (510)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I would check the caller ID and not answer the phone every time she calls. Sometimes one just has to put their foot down, whether it be with your fiance or with your soon to by SIL. I have this problem with females related to my hubby, but sometimes it isn't a direct family member, but an ex-wife. We maintain a good relationship with the ex-wife, but sometimes she just takes advantage. I finally told hubby that we have our own family and finances to take care of and any requests should be ran past me first. And since then, I am the one who borrows out money and time, when it is convinent for us.
• United States
31 Oct 07
I personally don't believe in "family is family". People are just people, just becuase you're more or less forced to associate with them by blood or marriage doesn't mean they automatically get to get away with dumb BS. Yeah, it might be a funny joke to call her his "second wife", but if that's really how he treats her, then you are setting yourself up for some major problems. You probably need to have a serious sit-down with your Fh and tell him how you feel about the way his sister treats him and what it might mean to your relationship. Then he needs to have a serious sit-down with her and explain that her behaviour is unacceptable. My future in-laws are a bunch of jerks and morons and I simply refuse to associate with them.