Is marriage natural? Why does it take too much effort?

@mensab (4208)
Philippines
November 5, 2007 10:08pm CST
With all the musings and discussions on marriage, I wonder if it's natural for loving persons like us to get married. If it's natural, why does it take too much too much effort and energy? Did God create us to be together, man and woman or any combination? Have your say....
3 responses
• United States
6 Nov 07
Of course marriage is unnatural, so what? So are clothing, cell phones, ecomony, housing, internet, processed food, preservatives, refrigerators, cars and all the other crap humans life off of. It's difficult because people are individuals, not halves. Blending two people's lives and personalities is hard work, but to many people, it's worth it.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
i wonder if you are planning to get married... anyway, our chain of nature, they say, begins with the wow of our existence, birth. then we grow up and socialize in society.. have you thought of companionship that marriage brings? im trying to link marriage with companionship as part of our nature (to be with).. with a notion of permanency and commitment..
• United States
7 Nov 07
You don't need to be married to have companionship. Marriage is a mand-made invention, it is not natural. By "natural", I go by actual nature, not human normalcy. Humans are animals, most animals are not monogamous by nature, as intellectual beings, humans have idealized monogamy. Marriage was originally created as a form of ownership of a woman to a man and it was not a choice, it was a requirement. It has since evolved in most places into being an expression of love and committment, however you can have those things without marriage. It is no longer a requirement, it's a choice, it's not necessary. Yes, I have personally chosen to get married, but my marriage will not validate my relationship. My relationship won't change just because we're married. We will still have the exact same committment we have now, it makes no difference. The only real reason we chose to get married is really becuase we don't feel like waiting 8 years to get legal benefits, I have a lot of health problems and I need to be on his insurance also he's moving overseas in a couple years and I want to go with him.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
woman are the most vain when it comes to marriage. that is why marriage is too much effort and energy like you said. actually it depends upon the couple if they want a simple wedding or a glamorous wedding. it is natural for a couple to get married but on how to get married and how is what the couples needs to tlak about.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
"it is natural for couples to get married" ... is there any other arrangement? "women are the most vain when it comes to marriage"... does it say something more on women or men?
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
6 Nov 07
As man is a social animal..He bult his own society and he wishes to respect the society ..As marriage is a part of this social or society ..so it was god but man made all this arrangements to live in this society.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
our sociality does not necessarily lead to marriage.. what comes to my mind as an exercise of being social is friendships. i agree that we are social beings ( i opt to say being than animal here). but does society dictate us what to do? do we feel powerless against the forces of society?