I'm "stealing" another discussion...

@reinydawn (11651)
United States
November 13, 2007 7:52pm CST
OK, again, on another forum I saw a discussion that sparked another memory... The person asked if there was ever a Christmas when you didn't give you children anything? They knew someone that for one reason or another took all the kids presents back and didn't give them anything for Christmas - as a punishment. Well, I've never done that, but it did remind me of one year when my son (he was probably 8 or 9) got me something. For some reason one day I made him mad. He took it out from under the tree, unwrapped it to show me what it was and threw it in the trash! It was something that I really wanted and I felt bad that he threw it out, but he took it out of the trash later and rewrapped it for me. I still have it and display it all year long.
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
Wow, i'm glad you "stole" this discussion... very interesting and heartwarming family story... there was actually a period in my family's christmas when we the children were not given gifts because my parents couldn't afford to buy us any... we didn't even have a christmas eve dinner and we had to go to some relatives to be able to eat a christmas feast... Well those were the dark days... but now... everything is like A okay... that gift your son gave you must be one of your most valuable possessions...
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Yes, I do treasure that gift - it's a candle and I very rarely burn it because I want it to always be around. I remember my dad telling me about when they were little they had "Hard Candy Christmases". My grandmother made hard candy and that's all they got because there wasn't money for anything else. When we were little we always loved her hard candy and I even make it every now and then.
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Maybe you should hunt the recipe down and make it this year?? I remember the first year I made the hard candy, that was what I gave all my brothers, sisters and parents. They all cried (once my brother ralized it was fresh and not something I had leftover from Grandma's!).
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@GardenGerty (90213)
• Marion, Kansas
15 Nov 07
We need to all meet back here when rd posts that candy recipe. Then we need to try our hand at it, and start a discussion about how it all turns out. That would be fun. My mom always remembered getting a peppermint stick, and an orange and some nuts for Christmas.
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@lightningMD (5937)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I have never had a totally gift less Christmas.This year money is very tight. Our daughters birthday is on Thanksgiving Day. I took 20.00 out of our food budget. i went to Dollar General and bought her a throw blanket for snuggling on the couch 5.00 a shower gel and frog scrubby set 3.00. Some headbands and and a new brush 2.00. A cute little journal 2.00. I spent 12.00 there. Then I went to Wal-mart I bought her new slippers 4.88 and a huge chocolate bar 1.25. I think I did a pretty good job for my money. I will be doing the same type of frugal shopping for Christmas this year too.
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Cool!!! Tons of great things without having to spend tons of money!!!
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• United States
14 Nov 07
That was awsome for the budget you set! If you wrap it all up seperately your daughter will think she hit the jackpot. This is the type of birthday and Christmas my husband and I try to do all the time. It doesn't take a lot to make someone realize they are thought of and appreciated.
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@FLmom26 (142)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I don't think I could take presents away from my son. Not like that anyway. Taking it awat for a week or something as punishement is one thing, but not leaving him giftless on Christmas. Our Christmas budget is very small, but we will get things for him and skip each other. We all understand that, it's more important for us to buy for him.
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I'm sure it would have had to been something very major to get that kind of treatment. It would be very hard to deprive a child on Christmas, but I've also been thinking... Doesn't Santa make a list, check it twice, to see who's been naughty and nice? And the nice kids get toys, the bad kids get coal... I mean, we're letting our kids watch this stuff every year and they're thinking it's ok to be bad because they're still getting stuff... Just some food for thought...
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
14 Nov 07
christmas in my home country is not as strong as where i am now as the majority of the people in my country is muslim... i think i hardly ever get a present from my parents during christmas and i don't give my parents present as well... we don't have thanksgiving dinner as well... i know it sounds bad to you... usually we just eat out together in a restaurant during christmas... that's about it...
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Thanksgiving is an American Holiday - at least the one at the end of November. So I see why not everyone would celebrate it. I also realize that different beliefs celebrate differently also.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
14 Nov 07
I would never do this to my children. I have never had this happen to me either. I have done the "you better be good or santa won't bring you anything" but I never actually did anything about it. In fact the last year my first son still knew about santa I was telling him this and he said yeah well I am also bad and he still gives me present. LOL
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
We're all just softies, aren't we :)
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@wiccania (3362)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Last year, we didn't get anything for our son for Christmas. We couldn't afford it. He got some stuff from his grandparents, so that was nice. Otherwise it was a pretty sparse holiday. This year probably won't be much better.
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I tell ya, it's so hard now-a-days because it's all so expensive. But ya know, it's not about the junk they get, it's aobut the love that goes into the Holiday.
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@blueunicorn (2410)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I have never taken away Christmas gifts, and I could never imagine doing that. I do know someone who took away birthday gifts from their child. I just think that is really hurtful. I could imagine letting the birthday or Christmas go on as usual, with the understanding that the kid is grounded from the toys for a certain period of time. Even that would have to be a very serious offence to push me that far. That is a sad story about your son. I'm glad he took it back out later. I can imagine a kid that age doing that. Great discussion!
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I know that there have been times when I have purposefully NOT bought my kids something they wanted and thought they were going to get. Sure, they were dissappointed but they did learn that their actions have consequences. I know we want our kids to have the best of everything and all that, but sometimes it doesn't really hurt to keep a little back from them.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
Now that I totally agree with. But to take the whole holiday away is just terrible. I don't know, I just see taking gifts away completely as being wrong. Not getting the kids something they haven't earned- that's a totally different story!
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Lol i can't believe he threw it away. I've never not given my kids presents for christmas. ofcourse my oldest is only 5 so its not like she could do much to make me not want her to have presents. I think that they will always get atleast something for christmas.
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I wish I could remember what it was. Now that he's home for a couple weeks, maybe I'll ask him if he remembers...
@GardenGerty (90213)
• Marion, Kansas
15 Nov 07
How funny, and how sad. Did you ever figure out how you made him mad? If we could only express ourselves as eloquently as adults as kids do maybe communication would be better. The fact that you still have and display it all year long sends a terrific message to him, I am sure.
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Who knows what I did, probably didn't let him watch something on tv... You know kids, sometimes the least little thing will set them off. I do remember laughing about it and that made him even more mad...
@coffeebreak (17824)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Why bother returning them - just put them away and make the child earn them back. Kids must have done something pretty bad but still.. i dont' think returning them was proper. Just made the kids mad and have ill feelings toward parents.
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
15 Nov 07
That would be good, making them earn them. I like that!!!
@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I have never had a Christmas where our gifts were taken away, but one year we did choose not to get any gifts. We had seen a program about refugees and children in third world countries and we were very effected by it. So we all talked about it and decided that instead of spending money on gifts, since we had so much more than the kids on the show, we would give the money to charity. So, we all decided that we would buy a set of goats for a family. I think it was a family in India but it could have been some other country. I don't really remember which country it was, but we took up a collection in the family and bought a set of goats. We got a cool thank you card from the organization that was our gift that year. My parents still filled our stockings and left us these great letters from Santa telling us how proud he was of us for choosing to give our presents to poor children. He left each of us a baby doll and a full stocking. It was a pretty good Christmas. I just got my World Visions catalog. I was looking at the cost of goats today. I think back then we got two goats for like $35 today a pair of goats is $150. I was actually thinking of buying a pair of goats. I may go the chicken route, $50 will buy a family 4 chickens.
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Oh!! That's sooo cool!!! I do try to dontate to the homeless families more often during the holidays. I know they need it!