What will you do if the person you're talking about to your friend...

Philippines
November 19, 2007 3:52am CST
... is right behind you all the while? Has any of you ever experienced this? I have. Man, a lot of time! I didn't really talked trash about that person, I just talked about him and what he does. And whenever I do, this person happens to be behind me. And when I turn around, I feel my blood surge in my face and ears that I want the world to swallow me up. What I do? I just smile an apologetic smile... Well, sort of. Then the person either smiles back or strides away, looking a bit resentful. Oh, well, I'm such a gossiper but I can't help it! How do you feel when you're caught by the person whom you're talking about to your friend? Do you stutter or pretend you didn't see him?
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5 responses
@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
That's the drawback of being a gossiper. Your friend may not also trust you because she/he may think that you talk to other people about her/him. The best way you can do is don't talk about the negative things about someone even when he/she is not around. I you know something bad about a person, you should fin ways to let him know it and you have helped the person.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 07
I can understand that. Normally, I don't talk trash about the person for the intention of ruining him. I just talk about how I see the person as an individual and what he does and so on. But I guess it's still a wrong thing, is it? Perhaps I should find other topics.
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 07
Hi diannebcrs. I will speak out more louder on my story telling and try to create good jokes about that person or something funny so that the feedback make everybody who listen laughs out loud. It had happened to me many times, when that person silently behind me, and she reacted by joke 'bonk' my head with her palm twice and the situation naturalized after laughing (fortunately!!!). HAPPY DAPPY.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 07
Haha... Nice one. It's good when that person has a sense of humor. It's scary when that person is ill-tempered.
@KrauseHome (32391)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I think we all have had this happen to us one time or another. That is why it is best to watch what you are saying about someone, or you could find yourself in the same situation as well. I feel the Best thing you can do is try and not talk about others, but if you are caught in this situation again, Apologize, and move on from there.
@BYOLA2871 (4376)
• South Africa
26 Apr 08
i was caught once by my boss while discussing with a friend who was seriously complaining about his boss to me ,in fact he was whinning and saying terrible things about his boss,on my part i had a good boss so i was just telling him my boss was the best i could evr ask for and how i wish i never have to leave the job,and that i would see if my boss can take him up if there is ever any vacancy in our company.he suddenly stopped responding to my statements and a few moment of deafening silence,i looked behind me ,lo and behold there was my boss just grinning behind me.It worked for me anyway a month later i was given a post as the PR of the company and was sent on a 3 months training outside the country all expenses paid,pleasant one isnt it?
@bdugas (3584)
• United States
25 Apr 08
My opinion is you don't say something behind a person's back you can't say to their face, and not be ashamed to say it. Gossiping can get you into a deep mess that will be hard to get out of, would or do you like for people to talk about you behind your back, if I find that someone is doing that to me, then I don't consider them to be much of a friend and I will ask them what is their problem, did I do something to make them feel they need to spread such crap to anyone on the street they see. I don't need that kind of relationship with anyone and if I catch them I just don't go around them anymore, that way they have nothing to talk to anyone else about except that I don't associate with them anymore. I think people that have to gossip have no life of their own and need something to talk about to other people. Just my opinion