Do your kids act up when they spend the night with someone then come back home?
November 19, 2007 7:43pm CST
My girls stayed the night with one of my friends. They never act up for me or anyone else. Then again they never spend the night with anyone else either. When they came home, as the day went by, they were getting an attitude. I do not like that at all. It made me upset. Do you think maybe the girl had an additude with them or something like that? She is a very nice girl that I have known for a long time, and I just do not think that she would do something like that. I asked my oldest daughter Amelia, and she said that she was nice to them, so I don't know? Tell me what you think. Has this ever happened to any of you?
• United States
20 Nov 07
I have noticed that when my youngest son stays with his friends over night he comes home trying to backtalk or with an attitude until I put him in his place. Maybe its because the parents let them stay up later than usual and they are just tired or could be the kid is mouthy and our kids try to pick up on it. I think it happens to all kids at some point.
2 Feb 11
Did you have sleepovers when you were a kid? Do you remember thinking it was "unfair" because your friends always seemed to be allowed to do stuff you weren't allowed to do? Some parents let their kids "get away" with things that other parents don't. After seeing this for a long time (overnight) your kids might get a resentful attitude because "Anna is allowed to stay up late, get snacks whenever she wants, etc." Even if you know your friend has the same rules as you do, sleepovers are special, aren't they? Usually the rules are bent regarding bed time and snacks because it's supposed to be special. But a 7 year old doesn't really understand that, and likely thinks that at her friend's house, that's the way things are all the time. She probably came home hating you and your rules because now she thinks all the other 7 year olds get to stay up late and pig out on junk food! Maybe talk to her about how sleepovers are special, but the rest of the time her friends have stricter rules just like she does?
• United States
20 Nov 07
I think it is just a change in routine. It really messes kids up, lol. My oldest daughter spent the night at her friend's house on Saturday. She came home Sunday at dinner time and was horrible. She threw a fit, didn't want dinner then complained she was hungry at bedtime but still refused to eat what I cooked. Then she didn't want to take a shower but instead of explaining that she took a bath on Saturday at her friend's she started screaming that it wasn't fair and we had no idea what she was talking about. I think her main problem was that they stayed up really late on Saturday and she is used to get up around 7am (8am at the latest on weekends) so she probably got no sleep and boy was she cranky. We sent her to bed an hour before the other kids because she was having a meltdown every 2 seconds. She is 7! She is the only one that does sleepovers but occasionally the kids have spent the weekend or a week or more at my sister in law's house. It always sounds like a nice idea--so I can have a break from them but in hindsight it isn't really. I don't have much routine in our lives but I do have some. We get up around the same time every day, have breakfast, lunch and dinner around the same time and go to bed around the same time. My sil has like zero structure. She lets them do whatever they want and feeds them junk food the whole time they are there. I had to laugh last time they were there and she called and told me she was shocked when my middle two kids requested peas and carrots with their dinner because her kids refuse to eat any kind of vegetable so she hadn't cooked any or offered my kids any. She had never heard of kids wanting to eat vegetables. My kids eat them with every dinner (and for lunch if they have leftovers). Every time my kids spend time at my in-laws they come home acting like crazy people. They throw more tantrums, talk back even more and just generally act out. 1 week of vacation usually turns into several months of my trying to get them back under control. It is crazy.