Wedding Advice

United States
November 19, 2007 7:49pm CST
I am going to be getting married in the next 3 years or even less, yes i know it is aways away but it is never to early to start to plan and organize. I have talked with Jason a few times about this, but we cant seem to agree with one another or even meet in the middle. Dilema is for the exchanging of the vows in the church, i just want close family and friends, he wants everyone we plan to invite to the reception to come. Which will be like 300 plus people. I just want it to be with close family and friends, not the whole town we live in. Does that make sense? He thinks if we just invite close family and friends where leaving people out and he dosnt want to make people mad. I believe it's our day, we shouldnt have to worry about people being upset or etc about not comming to the exchanging of the vows. I want to share this memory with people i'm close to and the most important people in my life. Is it wrong of me to just want close family and friends? Or should i compromise with him and let everyone he wants to be there? Please help.
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@aj2006 (1536)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
in marriage, understanding and compromise is a big factor to deal with, three years is a long way to go, I understand your sentiment about your plans of sharing that special moment of your life with just family and very close friends..people who will extend a helping hand and understanding as you enter the married life,. I, myself want it that way, intimate wedding is a memory that will last a lifetime.. my advice?? talk to your partner and explain why you really want it.. be patient enough but keep in mind that you have the right to express what you really feel inside.. good luck to you!
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
20 Nov 07
I own a wedding shop but not a wedding planner. this is just my opinion. I don't think it's a good idea to include everyone, but if you opt people out you will have to send them different kind of invitation or you must include a card specifying that some people are invited to the church and some not. the invitation usually includes information about reception and ceremony time date and place. if you choose to send the same invitation to everybody, you will have to include another memo card or a little note to make sure only the ones you want to attend the ceremony, will attend. do what you feel comfortable. In a way it's more hassle, but unless you can find a church that fits 300, you have no choice. I never had anyone ordering invitation like that, but this is your wedding, not theirs.
• United States
20 Nov 07
In the words of Dr. Phil, "Do not just plan the wedding, plan the marriage". What this means is, the wedding is the big day, and you should plan for it, but that is not what you are really planning for, you also need to plan how your marriage will be. You need to realize that there will be ups and downs in your marriage and that marriage is a lot of hard work. You have to have a back up plan for just about everything. You and your husband might have to work through a lot of things once you are both married. Marriage is a big committment.
@Rofaga (24)
• Brazil
20 Nov 07
First: You! Second: Your friens and family Third: Your Husband Why i think this? Simple. I am a man, and i know what a man thinks. DonĀ“t think at him every time. Tour family needes you too, and your family stay with you forever.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Whether or not you compromise is up to you...how important is it that you have only your family and close friends there? Marriage is about meeting half way most of the time, but it also means finding a happy meeting place. I'd say if all 300 plus ppl are going to be at the reception (as hubby-to-be wants) then you should be able to have the actual ceremony how you want it...that way you each get equal say. It's also a great way to see if you and he are going to be able to agree and work out larger issues that will come up later in your marriage. If you have this much grief over planning a wedding, what will happen when it comes time to name a child, discipline your children, pick out a home, ect. "COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS" **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@raizza07 (98)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
hmmm dont get me wrong but i think with two people like you having conflicts in your stage and planning to get married is not a good thing. i think you should start to compromise with each other if marriage is your plan. about the thing your asking your right! its your day so why planned it the way you want it and i think your the womam here you will become his bride so why you arew the one who will compromise with him i think you two should talk.