Do women cheat on their partners as the way of getting out the relationship???

@kwenge (2487)
Kenya
November 20, 2007 3:37am CST
I have a friend who have been stuck in a relationship for 4 years. She wanted to quit but she could not because the man keeps begging her to be with him(he is sticky). She decided to cheat on him with another man and that way the man left her. Is that what other women do? and men can you do that?
7 responses
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I think that women have been steretyped as the "fixer". Your friend stayed because she didnt want to be accused of being insensitive. As women, we play the mother role well. We are seasoned on how to act from the day we are born. The women that have realized this are called hard or money hungry. However, I believe its been given bad press. Women have realized that they dont have to be primary care giver. When we exhibit traits or characteristics that men have carried for millions of years and never had a criticizing word towards their behavior. For example cheating. If a woman does this shes a b****. When the man does it, hes a hero. So, yes, I believe that some women have to go to extremes to break it off. Men dont take it seriously. Not all men or women. I live by the following: dishonesty in a relationship hurts no matter who's doing it. If you dont like it, dont do it to someone else. It will come back to haunt you.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
21 Nov 07
Thanks alot and thanks for taking time to responde to this discussion. Hope to hear from you again. God bless.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
20 Nov 07
You Go Girl! That is the Whole truth and nothin but...... I knew we had something in common the moment I read your discussion.
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20 Nov 07
don't cheat but tell the true feeling to him. maybe this way seems cruel,but sometimes symapthy is more cruel than cold heart.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
20 Nov 07
Thanks alot for your response. You are a very honest person from the way you respond. Wish you the best.
20 Nov 07
thank you for your words. you are my friend, so , to be honest is what i should do . take care.
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
i don't understand why people in a relationship would go into such measures as cheating just so they could get out of a relationship.. i think the best way to resolve something is to just talk and explain everything. explain to the guy that love isn't there anymore and she isn't happy. that he can never do anything to bring back that spark. we all know it's hard and we will hurt the other persons feelings but it is the only way to set yourself free. cheating is bad so better just be honest with the person. ^_^
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
20 Nov 07
There is the way you can talk to someone and he doesnt seem to understand, maybe he loves her sooo much that he cant stand seeing her walking away. He even goes down on his knees begging you not to go. Even now he is still following her knowing very well that she is happy with the other guy.Gosh! Thanks for your response.
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
I think that if he loves her so much he should let her free because he is only hurting her if he won't let go. The guy must understand that... And i think that she should explain it clearly to him. That she's not happy and that if he loves her, he should let her be happy with someone else. ^_^
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Nov 07
If the relationship is senseless on one side, then he or she would not feel happy. But if the relationship is broken up, then the other side, who is still plunged into love, would get hurt. Sighing. It is really hard and cruel to say no to either one side.
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
21 Nov 07
Her love for the man is no more and the man contributed in a way. He drinks alot and when he see that she is ditching him, he reforms for one week and the next week he is drunk. But he loves her and cant stand to see her leave. What would you have done if it were you?
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Some women do this unfortunately, and I've heard of men doing it as well (though more women than men). And this is pretty hurtful stuff. The worst part is (at least stateside) that even more hideous things can be done to end a relationship particularly by women. False abuse or false rape claims is automatic jail ticket for the guy, and a get out of relationship free card for the girl. The guy didn't do anything wrong, but ends up with emotional damage, social damage (probably will never get employed or trusted again), financial damage defending himself in courts. Just like with the cheating, a very terrible or selfish person resorts to such tactics, not even feeling remose at the damage done.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
26 Nov 07
Very true my friend. Some people dont have human hearts at all. I think it is better to tell someone off or you just walk away without damage. Thanks alot for sharing. Happy posting.
• Hong Kong
20 Nov 07
hi..I choose this as the last choice and likely not to choose this way because no matters how much begging from the man, if we stuck in relationship and feeling strong of no way to continue, then we just need to tell him frankly and no need for cheating at all. Have a good day. Magic.
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• New Zealand
20 Nov 07
Well I think this is not right coz she tried to cheat as she wants her boyfriend to leave her. She should be true to herself and not use other person. This is also unfair to the guy (other) specially if she has no feelings with him. I think there are other ways of ending the relationship without using or playing other feelings..=)
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
21 Nov 07
She has tried all ways and means but the guy dont seem to understand her, she has even called both families to talk to him but he still sticks to her, he loves her i dont deny but she does not love him any more.