Saying 'NO'
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
November 22, 2007 12:37am CST
How many times have you regretted saying 'YES' when you actually want to say 'NO'? Like a lot of people i have done it too. numerous times and i have denied the truth of who i really am and what i really want because i am too afraid to say 'NO'.
Here is a message my InnerVision that I want to share with all of you:
Today's Message: "Just Say `No'"
This is our divine opportunity to anchor our ability to say "no"
to the things that no longer serve us so that we can say a powerful and
resounding "yes" to all that is good, all that is Godly, all
that is of Truth, all that God desires for us and our lives to be. So,
let us explore together this faculty of renunciation and see how we can
just say "no" in a way that supports us in co-creating a
filled-full life.
Have you been in the company of a two-year old? They have such a
facility with the word "no". There's no hesitation,
there's no weighing the possible outcomes or consequences. They say
loudly and clearly just what they want, or what they don't want
– they say "no", "no", "no" – a hundred
times "no" – often to the dismay of the adults present.
So, what has happened to us once we reach adulthood? We have learned to
say "yes" – "yes" to so many things that we do not
want; "yes" to those things that do not serve us; "yes"
to those things that do not support us to stand in the power and
magnificence of all that God has created and called us to be. We have
learned to just get by, to just get along. We have learned to deny the
Truth of who we are.
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11 responses
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
i always say yes to friends who really needs a helping friend. but years goes by i learn also to see who are the ones who really needed help and who are the ones who really wanted you to waste your precious time on a crap. and i am proud to say that i still say yes on friends who are worthy to help and say no to people that will just waste my time.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
there are friends who gets used to people around them helping them even they know for themselves that they can do it on their own.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
26 Nov 07
I am the same way. When a friend or a family member asks me to do something. I usally give-in also and do it. Like my sister and watching my neice and nephew or my best friend wanting me to watch her two sons.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
23 Nov 07
its many times for me I must say. I now fel sorry that i should have said No whenver that person who cheated me needed help and asked me for it.
Also there were times he asked for money from me. I just believed him and gave money. Now as i have learnt the lessons, i can firmly say no to peple when i think i should.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Well a lot of times, we say yes to something or to someone because we dont want to fail them, esp if those people mean a lot to us. I believe that we have to say no if we know that we cant do it. You are right kids just say no if they dont want it...because they dont think of others but themselves, unlike when you grow up... you consider how will others feel...
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Saying yes isn't bad if its what you feel really saying or doing. It only go against the grain if you say it against what you believe and think that is right for you. Not failing someone is good since it is helping another soul. Saying no doesn't mean being selfish either, but rather, its listening to your inner conscience and truth. How many times one said yes to someone even if it's against what one believes or what one believe is right? Kids say no not being they are being selfish but because they believe that it is not good for them.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Hi cdparazo! I agree with you completely. As we grew older, it became hard to say, No!. It used to be easy but when we grow up, we tend to conform somehow but not of course to the point that we should deny our own selves in the process. However, we have denied ourselves to a certain level so as not to cause friction with others and just to have peaceful co-existence with our fellomen. But now that I am older and more matured (i think), I want to be firm on my own resolutions and convictions of who i am and what i want but of course not to the point that i will be arrogant and selfish. Take care and have a nice day. :)
@dollcarole (142)
• China
23 Nov 07
That's exactly the problem with me. I am afraid to say 'no' to people and I don't know how to refuse others in order not to make them upset about it. So I 'pretend' to like others' ideas and decisions. I just need to say 'no' to the things I don't really wanna do...
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Oh how sad for you doll! I hope that it hasn't gotten you into any trouble yet. I hope it won't reach that point. It is certainly not easy to be true to ourselves, but you could start slowly and not shock everybody. I wish you strength and courage my friend.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
22 Nov 07
I think a child do have a conscience - that is why they are so honest because it is untarnished and pure. Sacrificing is actually saying yes to your divine self. Being happy for your sacrifice is a message enough for you that you are doing the right thing. What the message meant was that we keep on saying 'yes' even if we are unhappy about it because we forget ourselves and the truth that is in us so that others may look us more favorably. That is the kind of thing that we should say 'no' to.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
22 Nov 07
Well it's something that defines human nature to say one thing and mean something different all the time. I'm not saying that we never say the truth, but we often don't say what we think or feel, or at least not all of it. The reasons for that are various: because we're afraid of what people will think, because we are envious, we are afraid, etc.
I've regretted of saying yes many times, but well we don't always think well enough what we should do and we just react by instinct. Anyway, hopefully that lets us learn for next time.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Mistakes made are only considered as 'mistakes' if we don't learn from it. As we become adults we collect fears and its very normal and in the effort to deny those fears, we also deny our inner selves. Well, so much for philosophizing. LOL! Let's just live each day as we should. Have a nice day!
