Do you think people really change?

Saudi Arabia
November 25, 2007 9:32am CST
Well, I think you cant really change your personality or your nature, you can hide, by not showing your true colours, or by modifying your actions or behavior over lessons learned over time...but your susceptible to the same urges ..you are still YOU..inside. and when off guard or when not paying attention to your actions/speech etc...the real you can come out..Thats what I feel anyway..do you guys agree or disagree?
15 responses
@subha12 (18453)
• India
26 Nov 07
i think people really can't change much when they grow up. Habits are very difficult to be changed in grown up people.Also it is possible to hide some part of self, but not possible to change much.
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
26 Nov 07
yup. i guess even if a person goes through all kinds of plastic surgeries available on earth nowadays, you will still be you. the outer appearance might change but the inside who represents the totality of you is still there. anne
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I agree for the most part. You are who you are, and even if you try not to, your personality will come through in what you do. But, sometimes there are events that happen that really do change a person. For instance, a person who is into partying, is selfish and careless, thinking only about himself may change if he has a child. The feeling of loving another person more than you love yourself can be strong enough to change a person from being a spontaneous free spirit into a down to earth, responsible parent. I know this doesn't happen to everyone, but it is possible. I have seen it happen.
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• Philippines
26 Nov 07
I agree with Sillychick. Personality is relatively permanent over time, because some traits are genetic like extraversion/introversion. However, given the type of experience which one encounters in his environment, one cam make a conscious effort to change certain behaviors which may be detrimental to one's own personal growth and development, such as habits and vices.
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@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
I do think people can change. As we grow older, we mature. When I was younger, I used to be carefree, and careless with life. I also used to be timid and shy, and with very few friends. I've changed that through the years. I have many friends and am very outgoing and outspoken. I think people can change by learning from experiences they have had in life.
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@thuynhu (663)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Well I do understand where you are coming from with this, but once they have gotten to be a certain age, they don't seem to change. Or maybe that's just what I've experience and maybe I've just never met someone who has and yet you have. So I do understand where you are coming from.
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
As they say, there is nothing permanent in this world except CHANGE.. Hence, I believe that people do change..But in the context of your explanation, it seems that you are referring to people changing their personalities/character when in front of other people, sort of wearing a different "mask". I agree that you cannot hide your "true colors" to someone for a long period of time because eventually, your true self will come out and will be discovered.
@Estina54 (389)
• United States
26 Nov 07
I disagree. As we leaned to read, write and speak, things we did not know when we were little, it is never too late to pay more attention to what we do or what we say and not to repeat the same mistakes. The same as some people change into worse, why won't it be possible to improve as as person? Some people become wiser with age and gain more self control
@liushuyi (32)
• China
26 Nov 07
Yeah,though you can`t change your personnality ,you can change your behaivor.
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@thuynhu (663)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I agree with you. I try to give people chances and chances and I always get disappointed. It remains the same they just can't change. You know how some people when you tell them about themselves and how they need to change their ways or what not. And they agree and they say they will change and you see the change but of course it only last for a couple of days or maybe a week. But after that they go right back to how they were in the very beginning. People just can't change.
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25 Nov 07
Both.. I may say that people change. As one grow older, one's maturity develops and some factors like people we hang out with, experiences we pass through and knowledge we learned make us different from what we were. Some part of us remains that we might want to change, but still would come out under circumstances. Those are the personalities that are innates and instilled with us overtime.
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@mensab (4205)
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
i do think people change. they are capable of change. however, people tend to resist change. they find refuge and comfort in the familiar things they are used with. who will risk for unpredictability or change? some people. some don't. some try to change for they are disappointed with the present condition and believe that there is a better person inside or they think they deserve better. some don't want to change because they believe that's who they are and it is working for them.
@figuah (82)
• Iceland
25 Nov 07
i agree with that,you cant change who you are but you can however make changes that can eventually change you,like if you have done many bad things that you regret then make up for it by confronting them and thus becoming a better person for it
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@numb2k3 (136)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
Yes, I know for a fact that people really can change. With the proper motivation someone would really change ways. It could be for the better or worse. Lets just hop it would be for the better. :)
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
26 Nov 07
i think that you have a point there. the real you is the original you. if you change yourself 360 degrees, you wouldn't be the original you as before. it's another person. it's a new you. as for me, i don't say i really changed but i developed through the years. i developed through the things i have learned and through the pains that i have suffered from. i developed into a stronger person who is ready to face the roller coaster ride of my life. anne
@MagieL (266)
• China
26 Nov 07
i don't think people really will change,because when someone was born,he came to the world with everything ,as his personality or his nature.and we can't chang it just can hide it.^^
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
25 Nov 07
its ok pinky i know who you are and how you are its really ok with me
• India
25 Nov 07
people tend to change with times ... but it should be in positive ways, people should in calculate nice qualities with the passages of time for the betterment of his overall personality...physical changes r unavoidable, but we can mould our mental & spiritual changes in the right n proper direction. this is what i think about the nature of change in human being ...